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Offline Leo114

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POZ in NYC
« on: January 13, 2014, 11:11:19 PM »
Reaching out to all POZ guys in NYC area.  I'm looking for friends and people to relate to regarding our situation.

Offline marcmoral16

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #1 on: January 15, 2014, 02:22:46 AM »
Def here if you wanna chat...PM me
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2014, 08:50:47 AM »
Finding other HIV+ guys in NYC? Just turn over any rock -- they're everywhere. Let's start with what you've done already in this regards? If you live out in the suburban areas I agree that's it's more difficult, but if you live in the city there are tons of organizations/resources.
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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #3 on: January 15, 2014, 08:55:07 AM »
Finding other HIV+ guys in NYC? Just turn over any rock -- they're everywhere. Let's start with what you've done already in this regards? If you live out in the suburban areas I agree that's it's more difficult, but if you live in the city there are tons of organizations/resources.

What's wrong with looking on here as well? Nothing. ::)
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #4 on: January 15, 2014, 09:05:23 AM »
What's wrong with looking on here as well? Nothing. ::)

What's wrong with suggesting being more pro-active in a non-internet-centric life? Nothing. I'm fairly sure most psychologists would agree with me that face to face interaction is more valubable than some eternal Spike Jonze movie.
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Offline Ann

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2014, 09:40:08 AM »
I'm fairly sure most psychologists would agree with me that face to face interaction is more valubable than some eternal Spike Jonze movie.

I'm sure it is too - but the OP is obviously looking for people in his area so it can progress to face-to-face meetings. It's not surprising someone would want to take advantage of being able to feel someone out online first.
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #6 on: January 15, 2014, 09:42:58 AM »
I'm sure it is too - but the OP is obviously looking for people in his area so it can progress to face-to-face meetings. It's not surprising someone would want to take advantage of being able to feel someone out online first.

Having lived in NYC I'm going to have to claim home-court advantage on this one. But thanks.

I think he'd get more out of investigating affinity groups like Strength-in-Numbers, any of the various "Poz Socials" or attending a drop in "Big Group" meeting at Friends in Deed. Just my opinion, but the Crazy-Quotient can be really high with internet people.
« Last Edit: January 15, 2014, 09:47:24 AM by Miss Philicia »
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Offline Ann

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #7 on: January 15, 2014, 10:25:45 AM »
Having lived in NYC I'm going to have to claim home-court advantage on this one. But thanks.

I have also lived in NYC. Your point? (rhetorical question, don't bother answering)

Just my opinion, but the Crazy-Quotient can be really high with internet people.

Ain't that the truth.

However, at least when choosing to strike up a friendship with someone who posts on this particular on-line support group, you can get a feeling - in most cases - for who you're talking to going by their posting history.
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #8 on: January 15, 2014, 10:28:07 AM »
I have also lived in NYC.

For like 4 seconds when you weren't HIV+ in the last century? It is to laugh.
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Offline texaninnyc87

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #9 on: January 15, 2014, 12:00:35 PM »
I'm in NYC and I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to connect with others online. Please try to disregard some of the less than friendly replies you may receive on here; some people have nothing better to do than post contrarian vitrae I suppose. Feel free to message me!
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Offline Jody

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #10 on: January 15, 2014, 09:03:21 PM »
I'm in Queens, NYC and go to Manhattan and Brooklyn fairly often so respond here or PM me if you like.  I've been able to get together with some nice people I've met on this site.  Sometimes we haven't always been able to hook up but I think it's time some of us New Yawka's get together again.  And if anyone is in from out of town at the time they too can come.

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Offline Leo114

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #11 on: January 16, 2014, 10:49:50 PM »
I understand what you're saying Miss Philicia, but it's easier to start where I feel comfortable. I'm a very private guy when it comes to discussing my personal life such as sex, health and a few other crazy tendencies.  ;)

I'm a young successful attractive 29 year old man.  I've met POZ guys that are older, but the age gap can be a challenge if it comes to dating.  Ultimately, I'm looking to make a few friends and maybe more.  I have not gathered all my courage to attend a poz social group or strength in numbers.  Hopefully I will become more comfortable in the near future and attend one of those events.

To everyone else, thanks for the support.  I hope you all are doing well and lets all have a great 2014. 

Offline Jody

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #12 on: January 17, 2014, 07:43:28 PM »
I understand what you're saying Miss Philicia, but it's easier to start where I feel comfortable. I'm a very private guy when it comes to discussing my personal life such as sex, health and a few other crazy tendencies.  ;)

I'm a young successful attractive 29 year old man.  I've met POZ guys that are older, but the age gap can be a challenge if it comes to dating.  Ultimately, I'm looking to make a few friends and maybe more.  I have not gathered all my courage to attend a poz social group or strength in numbers.  Hopefully I will become more comfortable in the near future and attend one of those events.

To everyone else, thanks for the support.  I hope you all are doing well and lets all have a great 2014.

It just so happens I am looking for a young, attractive 29 year old!!!  Well I am a bit old for you at 58 but hopefully you will find love and happiness in NYC, you sound like you have a good head start there!  Happy 2014 back at ya.

Jody :)

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Offline Leo114

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #13 on: January 20, 2014, 12:09:27 PM »
Thanks Jody.  ;D

Offline MadisonTeddy

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #14 on: January 21, 2014, 09:45:44 AM »
I am also recently poz and I prefer to keep my privacy..Going into a public group meeting is very dangerous, UNTIL you are ready and make that decision because rest assured IT will get out in a New York Minute because of people like those who have responded that think you should get a "I am POSITIVE" t-shirt from the diagnosing doctor!! Take your time...reach out on the personals or the forums like you are doing and take your time...Best of luck!!

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #15 on: January 21, 2014, 09:56:12 AM »
People running around spreading rumors after attending an HIV support group in NYC was never my experience, and I attended many such groups throughout the 1990's and early '00s. Just because you are paranoid is no reason to project your fears onto other people.

If being in a group setting makes you nervous my suggestion has always been to attend a Friends in Deed Big Group and just sit inconspicuously in the back of the room. No one will force you to speak, you can just listen.
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Offline MadisonTeddy

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #16 on: January 21, 2014, 10:28:07 AM »
paranoid implies that it is a rare to never occurrence...Even a rare slip, that outs someone can have drastic implications ...Please don't project on me what you think I am feeling...

Offline ShadesOfGrey80

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #17 on: January 23, 2014, 01:16:42 AM »
Totally understand what you guys are saying. I have only found out 3weeks ago. Although initially I thought about coming out to everyone: friends, family, the whole schbang... but after thinking about it a bit more I realized I don't want to do it just yet. I want to be ready... at least after I have learned more about my body, meds, etc to be able to answer questions my loved ones have.

Living in a big city has its perks, but I don't think I'm ready to deal with rejection yet. Might as well stay home and celibate for a while and meet some folks on here.

Anyway, I might go to NY on business in a month or so. Time to meet some folks from here :-)


Offline novemberguy

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #18 on: January 23, 2014, 10:02:36 AM »
Are there job opportunities for PLHIV foreigners there in NYC? Its my dream to work there. Im an Asian.

Offline Since2005

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #19 on: January 24, 2014, 01:34:36 PM »
Paranoia exists, and I just reinvented it!  ;D

I remember I used to live in a smaller place (lot smaller than NYC) and I used to get this chest pain thinking what if someone finds out that I am HIV+ and announce it via TV if I get into an accident! In a small/ medium size town, news are kinda wired since they usually don't have much to talk about. Lol, I was thinking that because I was rationalizing it by my paranoia. This was during my early DX. So, I can completely understand if some of you feel uncomfortable going into a group settings. I wish I had found this forum then:)...

But, I can assure you that things will get better and you will feel better going into a group settings. May be, for some it takes months and for some it takes years, but eventually you will get there. I didn't start going to groups until recently.

For ones who are comfortable going into group settings or gathering, there is also another place that you can go to besides "friends in deed" group that Miss P mentioned, its a more of a social gathering place than support place usually on Friday night 9pm to 12am @ RITZ bar ( second floor) in HK, NYC.

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Offline gavelkind

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Re: POZ in NYC
« Reply #20 on: January 25, 2014, 03:36:54 PM »
I'm in NYC, and be it paranoia, caution, or a mix, I've also avoided groups. I'm a sarcastic blunt introvert, so large gatherings put me on guard especially ones filled with strangers who won't get my humor. In my head that'd be like putting a clumsy bull inside a china shop. :)

Alas, I've yet to make any positive friends in my age group. Only a fuck buddy or two.
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