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Offline aperez8383

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Sex with Positive
« on: January 08, 2014, 07:03:57 PM »
Hi, exactly a month ago I went to a gay sauna
I spent some time with this guy who had really bad teeth.
He was skinny but didn't look bad.

He immediately performed a deep throat oral sex on me.
I read that this is not considered risky.

My concern is, there was some "frottage" but at one point I felt he put my penis inside his ass, he put a lot of lube on my penis during the foreplay, and yes I know it sounds stupid but if cannot confirm the penetration because I was very excited.

I remember at one point I asked him if he was negative he said "no"
So I decided to leave the room because I felt very confused and scared.

Now last week 21 days after the event I had to go to the doctor because I got balanitis (an ulcer on my penis showed up) it went away with lotrimin.
I have intermittent pain in my joints and muscle ache for the first time..and when I take off my shirt or scratch my chest or neck I get a rash that I haven't seen before it goes alway after a minute but if I scratch my chest it comes back and then goes away, it started happening 3 days ago. Dry cough for 2 weeks now.
The doctor took a blood sample for an HIV test.
I thought she was going to order the one that detects the virus but she only ordered the antibodies test.
It came back negative.
Is this a good sign?

I am scared and waiting for the 6 week test.

Please can you assess my risk and even though I know you don't discuss signs can you please describe the joint pain and the rash during the seroconversion?
Also anything you know about balanitis and HIV?

Thanks a lot!

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Re: Sex with Positive
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2014, 07:19:10 PM »
Its very doubtful you penetrated a guy and didn't know it but since you don't know there is no way for me to know . The other things you mention is not a risk .

If you think you may have had unprotected anal sex then you can test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure an again at 3 months . Its rare for the insertive partner to go on and test positive after a condom break or in your case dipping with brief insertion .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV . Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!

You have read what we have to say about discussing symptoms already I see but nice try  ;) .

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Re: Sex with Positive
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2014, 07:22:19 PM »
Perez, I agree with Jeff's spot on comments. Additionally, absolutely nothing you are reporting symptomatically is in anyway HIV specific. But then neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms will ever tell you anything accurately about your HIV status. Only an HIV test taken at the right time can give you that answer.

Andy Velez

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Re: Sex with Positive
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2014, 07:26:05 PM »
Thank you guys, yes I know I try to recall but I don't remember and the full episode lasted only 10 minutes.

Also I miscalculated, my blood test was done 28 days after the exposure and it came back negative.
Is this a good sign?

Thanks thanks thanks for the quick reply.

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« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2014, 08:17:54 PM »
A negative HIV test means you were negative 6 weeks ago . A negative test must be confirmed in the window periods we gave you but a negative test is always a welcome thing .

The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 6 weeks. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the CDC recommendation to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.

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Re: Sex with Positive
« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2014, 06:26:43 PM »
Guys sorry to re activate this thread.
Yes I am scared again.
Tomorrow will be 7 weeks after my exposure
And 5 days ago I got an ulcer in my penis!!
I went to the doctor today she thinks is herpes, doesn't hurt though but won't get results until next week.
3 days ago I got diarrhea... Really bad but that could be related to food.

Doctor sent me for HIV test.
I took an oraquick in-house test exactly 6 1/2 weeks after my exposure but
It came back negative.
If you read my original post I had 5 seconds of insertive oral sex and a brief dipping.
I am 95% sure that there was no full penetration

My questions are:
1) is 5 seconds of oral sex enough to get herpes
2) should I wait at least one more week to go to the lab to get the blood test to give more time?
3) I got these sympthoms at week 6 when I was kind of ready to leave this experience behind me, could this sympthoms ARS?
4) A test from oraquick at 6 1/2 weeks counts? I know you have said that you haven't seen any test turned positive after 6 weeks, does this apply to this type of tests? (I know any test can't be conclusive until 3 months).

Thanks a lot please let me know

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Re: Sex with Positive
« Reply #6 on: January 24, 2014, 06:44:06 PM »
The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 6 weeks. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the CDC recommendation to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.

A negative oraquick test at 6 week test rarely ever goes to positive at 3 months so you can expect a negative result . Its a very reliable test .

You get herpes from skin to skin contact and one touch is enough .   

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Re: Sex with Positive
« Reply #7 on: January 25, 2014, 05:10:25 AM »

Herpes normally hurts like hell, particularly the first ever blister.

Syphilis is the one that does NOT hurt. If you doctor didn't run blood tests on you for syphilis, you NEED to have that done.

You could have gotten syphilis through the blowjob and/or the frottage. Syphilis is also spread through simple skin-to-skin contact, like herpes, but UNLIKE hiv.

The other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv and any time you have sexual contact, you're much more likely to pick up something other than hiv. This is why regular, routine sexual health check ups are so very important when you're sexually active.

Make sure you've been tested for syphilis.

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