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Offline omgggg222

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« on: January 07, 2014, 11:59:00 PM »
Hello everyone.

On December 10th I had relations with a man of unknown HIV status. 9 days later I noticed a swollen lymph node in my neck. This is where my HIV fears began.

Next I developed mouth ulcers but I brushed them off due to stress. I told myself as long as I don't get the other symptoms I would be fine.

Then came the dierrea. Oh you should have seen the look on my face when those wet stools came out of me. I kept telling myself at least I don't have dierrea. Then it came.

Next is a herpes outbreak. I have hsv2 and I have a terrible outbreak.

The worst so far is thrush. My tounge is coated white with enlarged tastebuds on the back. I scrape it off with my teeth but can't reach the back of my tounge so that remains coated yellowy white as we speak.

I have had bumps on my face that resemble pimples but scar with thhe skin peeling every time. Also these popped up ony back and chest. But mild.

I had muscle aches on my shoulder which since subsided.

My question to you folks. His penis was lubed with precum. There was sooo much precum it was coating his penis as I sucked it. Does my HSV2 make the oral theoretical risk a real risk? I am mot your average poster with a back ache after he got a blowjob. I have every symptom of ars except might sweats and fever. Please, some insight. Thanks for your time.

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« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2014, 12:16:02 AM »
In order for an oral transmission of HIV to occur you would have to have significant wounds in your mouth and give a BJ to a man with a high HIV viral load .

ARS symptoms are also the symptoms of many more conditions than HIV and since the only way to know if you are infected with HIV is to test and not guessing what symptoms mean, so we will not discuss symptoms .

If you had large open wounds in your mouth then you should test even if its for peace of mind only . You can test as early as 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

 Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

   Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2014, 12:34:15 AM »
Hey Jeff thanks for taking your time to reply to me. I did not have significant wounds but I do have very poor oral hygiene. I do know I had some type of cut on my lip because in a picture taken earlier that day you can see a redder rawer part of my lip.

And yes, I know no ARS symptom is exclusive to ARS. I was cool headed really until the thrush because of how odd it was. Thrush alone is not an HIV indicator but I noticed it AFTER my initial freakout which made it all too clear of my possible infection.

Do you have any insights on my genital herpes and increased risk? There have been studies with no fewer than 3 couples but none of them had herpes.

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Re: low risk no risk who knows
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2014, 05:37:35 AM »

Do you have any insights on my genital herpes and increased risk? There have been studies with no fewer than 3 couples but none of them had herpes.

No, there were three studies, involving hundreds of couples, one of which went on for ten years. As herpes is one of the most common viruses out there (up to 80% of the US population has herpes), I'm quite sure many of the people involved also had herpes.

Genital herpes has nothing to do with giving blowjobs - unless the dick you're sucking has an active outbreak of genital herpes - you'll get herpes on you lip. Yes, you can get hsv2 on your lips and you can also get hsv1 on your penis. They're interchangeable.

The only time your genital herpes is going to make a difference where hiv is concerned is if you have an active outbreak and then engage in unprotected, insertive anal or vaginal intercourse. You should NOT do that anyway, as you need to keep your herpes to yourself and not spread it around.

While it's highly unlikely that you've become infected with hiv through giving oral, you CAN get some of the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs this way. Syphilis (which can cause "ulcers" [aka chancres]), gonorrhea - and of course herpes - are the ones most often transmitted through oral - receptive and/or insertive.

The bottom line for you is that if you're not already in the habit of getting regular, routine, complete sexual health check ups, now is the time to start. Provided you always use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, you can expect you the hiv portion of your complete check up to return negative results.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

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Re: low risk no risk who knows
« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2014, 01:31:36 PM »
Let me be clear that this one BJ is my only risk to STDs as I am not very sexually active. Four weeks since then I have

Midly blurry vision, can't read as far away as usual
Oral thrush
Dierrea for over a WEEK
Swollen painless lymph node in neck
Mouth ulcers which subsided
Muscle aches like it was bruised which subsided
Cracks white white bumps at corners of lips

Hsv outbreak

I am 100% sure I don't have HIV unless this BJ gave me it. Do you guys still recommend testing for medical reasons? These symptoms are very odd and all happening at once. And Ann, my question was relating to the fact that HSV2 lowers immunity and maybe that would make receptive oral more dangerous. Especially with my poor oral hygiene and raw part on my lip, with the large amounts of precum also. Do you think I should get tested? Keep in mind HIV in me is impossible other than this BJ.

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« Reply #5 on: January 08, 2014, 01:51:38 PM »
The thing about stds is that they can be present without symptoms and they are easy to get and you can get them from having sex yesterday or today or 6 months or years in some cases without knowing you are infected . Having regular checkups is the responsible correct thing to do .

Ann has already addressed your HSV concern as far as HIV goes so you can read her reply again .

If you are sick you should be talking to your doctor about it and if you wish you can test for peace of mind only at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm it . If you test for HIV expect a negative result . 


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