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Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« on: December 28, 2013, 01:07:21 AM »
Hello everyone, and thank you for reading my post.

My post is similar to that of Erics, but i have had a bit more time lapse than his encounter.

Long story short, i met a guy on Grindr - talked for a couple of hours and decided to do lunch. So, i got ready and brushed my teeth. Every morning when i brush my teeth, my gums bleed. I have not been diagnosed with anything from my doctor, but im pretty sure it may be gingivitis. Any way, similar with Eric, my gums bleed when i brush but then they do not anymore.

So, we go to his place after lunch (it was a solid hour, maybe longer) and then we got to fooling around. I gave him head, he gave me head. I refused to swallow, and there may have been some precum that was in my mouth as i was performing oral. This was on Saturday - November 9th. Today is December 28th - making it 7 weeks to the day since my possible exposure.

I am, to put it simply, freaking out. I am having panic attacks and i dont know whats up from down. I have purchased about 500 dollars in OraQuick and seem that i cant go a day without testing myself. I had a blood AB test done on the 26th which resulted in a negative - and every OraQuick test ive done has been negative. I had a rapid blood test done on the 17th and it came back negative also. I got a HIV RNA Test done today and I will find out come Tuesday or Wednesday for sure. Was it possible that HIV was transmitted to me by me performing oral an hour or so after i brushed my teeth and therefore, my gums were bleeding? There was oral and deep kissing, but thats about it.

HIS HISTORY - He said he is clean. He told me on that day that he doesnt do hook-ups like that, and that he hadnt done anything like that in 3 months and got tested last month (october) - meaning at max he waited 8 weeks to test and he came back negative. I do know that he got out of a relationship near september/october time frame.

SYMPTOMS-
I have lost my appetite. I cant each as much as before. I burp alot and have had nausea. I am not sure about loosing weight, but i know that if i keep this "appetite loss" up i will lose weight and i have been irritable. I woke up this morning to a slight sore throat, but that went away but came back tonight as i layed down. I have had a dry cough. No swollen lymph nodes or any rashes from what i could tell. No night sweats I am typing this as i am about to go to bed. This started the on the evening of the 23rd about an hour after i ate a sandwich that was in the refrigerator over night. I know that what im experiencing may be the common cold cause its cold here in Oklahoma.

Sorry for the wall of text, but i am really freaking out here!
« Last Edit: December 28, 2013, 01:16:15 AM by woahitzleo »

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2013, 07:09:06 AM »
Leo,

What a waste of money! You never needed all those hiv tests as you haven't had a risk. You do not need further testing over this incident as your result is NOT going to change. Stop testing and get on with your life.

In adults, hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal intercourse.

Unprotected vaginal intercourse.

Sharing drug injecting equipment.

Receiving oral isn't a risk.

Giving oral is only a theoretical risk if you have very bad oral health (gum bleeding after brushing does not qualify) and the guy you were blowing had an extremely high viral load. It's rare, if it actually happens at all.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Please do not refer to someone's sexual health as "clean". Using that word this way implies that those of us who are living with hiv are somehow "dirty". It's insulting, so think on.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2013, 09:11:31 AM »
Ann,

My apologies as I am usually very selective with my word choices. I never meant to be malicious with my wording toward HIV Positive people. I hope that those reading this will accept my apologies.

This morning I woke up with a severe cough which led to vomiting. I may be blowing this up out of proportion, but i am just very very scared,


Thank you

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #3 on: December 28, 2013, 09:17:43 AM »
Leo,

I'd be throwing up too if I'd wasted that much money on unnecessary hiv testing.

You don't have hiv.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #4 on: December 28, 2013, 05:07:55 PM »
Ann,

Thank you for your help. But, i forgot to list some symptoms that ive been feeling. Fatigue. Muscle weakness. I now have a canker sore on the roof of my mouth. I havnt had a fever or oral trush - my temperature ranges from 97.9 to 99.1 degrees F. My appetite is still bad - i had to work to get a grilled cheese sandwhich down for lunch today. Given what i have told you about my sexual history and my symptoms - do you still think that HIV is a definitley ruled out no?

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #5 on: December 28, 2013, 05:46:30 PM »
We do not discuss symptoms because they are not specific to HIV . You did not have a risk for HIV so if you are sick go see your doctor and find out why .

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #6 on: December 31, 2013, 04:37:38 PM »
Hello everyone -

Thank you for your help with this. I had one last question. I had an
HIV-1 RNA Qualitative test done and it came back non-reactive (negative). Does this negative and being at 7 weeks - how good of a sign is this?

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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #7 on: December 31, 2013, 04:44:54 PM »
Leo, of course your result was negative. Are you listening to anything other than your unfounded fears? You never had a risk. So of course your result was negative.

Cut out all the drama and get on with your life. You don't have anything to be concerned about HIV. Period.
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Re: Possible HIV Exposure - Sensitive gums
« Reply #8 on: December 31, 2013, 04:49:29 PM »
Thank you. I have extremely high anxiety, and I don't want my questioning to undermine your knowledge or anyone. The good you guys do on here is unsurmountable.

Have a great new year!

 


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