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« on: January 22, 2016, 12:21:05 AM »
I am male and received an erotic massage from a male therapist. We were both nude.
Alone with a great massage he also fingered my butt for several minutes a few times. I then turned and laid on my back. He was jacking and fingering me and I was jacking him. He cum before me and had a huge load. He shot onto my uncut penis and also hit my head. A small drop of cum landed in my mouth. I did not give him oral just jacked him.  I currently have a sinus infection and taking antibiotics after receiving a shot Sunday. The problem is the meds have my lips chapped and the inside of my mouth red and iratated.
He says he is hiv- and std free as of 4 weeks ago when he was tested.
I've read over numerous post here but when I put the question in Google I got lots of conflicting information on my risk.
Please help    I am a very worrying type person along with being married. :(

Thanks in advance for your help.   Seems this is the best and most knowledgeable site I've located. 

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« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2016, 01:03:15 AM »
Nothing you mention is a risk for HIV . Sexual fluids are not infectious for HIV once outside the body. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in UNPROTECTED anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies. Once hiv finds itself outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Help please
« Reply #2 on: January 22, 2016, 09:13:25 AM »
Thanks for the fast reply.
  He also licked my anus as well as licked the tip of my penis.  i failed to mention in my post. I'm just super nervous and scared. In a panic of worry.
Sorry 😟

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Re: Help please
« Reply #3 on: January 22, 2016, 09:23:27 AM »
Getting blow jobs , licking or rimming are not risks for HIV.
It is safe to move on.
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Re: Help please
« Reply #4 on: January 22, 2016, 09:36:59 AM »
The sperm that got in my mouth is my biggest fear. I didn't blow him but when he cum some got in my mouth.

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Re: Help please
« Reply #5 on: January 22, 2016, 09:42:32 AM »
The virus is very fragile ,once outside the body and exposed to air it is damaged and left unable to infect. This was a no risk incident.
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« Reply #6 on: January 26, 2016, 02:59:13 AM »
I was taking Prednizone for four days prior to this event. The bottle states is suppresses the immune system. I am only concerned about the semen in my mouth as the problem of getting infected. I have read that it takes several seconds for the virus to be affected by the air and this was an instant exposure. He came and  some (a drop for sure) cum was on my tongue in my mouth.
I spoke with him again today and he states he was HIV negative and STD free in December when he tested. I so want to believe him but I am just scared!  I cant eat or sleep. I cant get my mind off the issue. It is affecting my work by day and at night it bears on me so hard......
I called a clinic today about testing. She stated that they could test 11 days past the date so I have set a date for testing that is 21 days post exposure. She said I was in the lower risk group but there was a risk from the event.   She feels guilt is more of an issue. 
I appreciate this forum and the moderators. I just cant get my head around this !!
Its not I dont want to believe   its just so much conflicting information :/

It just helps to hear your thoughts. I got no one else to lean on

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Re: Help please
« Reply #7 on: January 26, 2016, 04:47:52 AM »
You did not have a risk. Getting a drop of cum on your tongue is no risk. Saliva has a host of enzymes that protect against infection.  You had no risk, you need to move on with your life.

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« Reply #8 on: January 26, 2016, 12:27:04 PM »
The meds had my mouth very irritated.
Will the Alere Determine test be accurate for peace of
Mind at the 21 day mark?
Thanks again for trying to help me !!!
I'm just obsessed with this event. It's affecting my work and
I can't sleep or eat :(

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« Reply #9 on: January 26, 2016, 12:34:40 PM »
We will not go endless rounds with you on a no risk assessment or pretend you had a risk. You can read about testing here … http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/HIVtests_5029.shtml
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Re: Help please
« Reply #10 on: January 26, 2016, 01:26:03 PM »
Oh, Thanks for your understanding.

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« Reply #11 on: January 26, 2016, 01:35:34 PM »
Your Welcome , please read this link as well.

http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/Transmission_9960.shtml

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« Reply #12 on: January 26, 2016, 04:45:31 PM »
Will do the reading. Thanks Wade.
 I wasn't trying to be a pest....Just trying to get my sanity back.....Thanks Again!!!!

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Re: Help please
« Reply #13 on: January 26, 2016, 06:08:53 PM »
OK, understood.  Absolutely no risk.  Get on with your life.
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« Reply #14 on: February 11, 2016, 11:21:29 PM »
I tested today which was 21 days after event.  The test was negative. It was a finger prick test. (Alere Determine™)   The lady said the test was good starting at 17 days post possible exposure.  She stated she would test 5-6 weeks post exposure to verify the negative results.
It was looking for the  p24 in the blood. 
Does this sound correct? 
Thanks again for all your help and support !!!

P.S. She sent this from their website:       On initial testing, the Alere Determine™ test had 100% sensitivity and 99.6% specificity. On repeat testing, specificity rose to 99.8%.

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« Reply #15 on: February 11, 2016, 11:23:57 PM »
We will not go endless rounds with you on a no risk assessment or pretend you had a risk. You can read about testing here … http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/HIVtests_5029.shtml

You do not have HIV … get on with your life . You are not listening to what we advise so there is nothing more to do for you . We will not pretend you had a risk for HIV.
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