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Author Topic: What kind of risk was this?  (Read 394 times)

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Offline g.pikup

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What kind of risk was this?
« on: October 20, 2014, 09:07:11 PM »
On October 1 of this year, I met up with a fellow college male off of Grindr.  I asked him his status, he said negative.  That last test was in the spring so I think it is a bit outdated, but anyways.

We met up - we made out, we performed oral on each other for like 30 seconds each, some frottage, and he fingered me with his precum.  That was all we did. The fingering with precum is what I am so concerned about right now.

I tested 2 weeks after the incident and it was negative.  I understand it was no where near conclusive, but if "symptoms" were appearing before then, I figured that meant the infection was taking place and antibodies would've been forming.

Side note, if "symptoms" are occurring, does that mean the body is fighting the infection and is forming antibodies? Symptoms were muscle and joint aches, probably due to my high stress and anxiety...Ugh and now I have a weird canker sore on the back of my tongue, maybe my wisdom teeth are coming in and cutting it, WHO KNOWS.

Anyways, was I at ANY risk for being fingered with the precum?  Why?


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Re: What kind of risk was this?
« Reply #1 on: October 20, 2014, 09:13:23 PM »
We do not discuss symptoms because the only way to know if you have HIV is to test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex and not from getting fingered, precum or not . HIV and sexual fluids are not infectious the instant they are outside the body so you need not worry abut fingering leading to an HIV infection .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: What kind of risk was this?
« Reply #2 on: October 20, 2014, 09:22:15 PM »
So if and when I test for this incident in the next 10 weeks, I can expect a negative result?

How soon does the virus die when exposed to air? I cannot say that it was even more than 30 seconds in the open before I was fingered with the precum. Probably less.

Is a 6 week test the earliest test I can do in order to get a good indication of my status?

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Re: What kind of risk was this?
« Reply #3 on: October 20, 2014, 09:24:38 PM »
HIV and sexual fluids are not infectious the instant they are outside the body so you need not worry abut fingering leading to an HIV infection .

If this is you're only concerns you should expect a negative HIV test .


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