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Author Topic: Going to test tomorrow, can't calm down  (Read 1029 times)

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Offline adobe1983

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Going to test tomorrow, can't calm down
« on: November 28, 2013, 06:55:48 AM »
Hi to everyone's reading, people who brings us knowledge and other who come to find it.
I'm not native so please excuse my poor vocabulary.

So I have been reading this forum for now a whole day, because it helps me to relax and calm down.

To be brief, I explained a friend K that he should get tested caused he did receptive and insertive anal sex  and oral sex, all unprotected. So bad as it comes, Japanese people are very badly informed on the matter.

So I was trying to find literature to explain him better my argument, when I landed on my country (France) main HIV page, who clearly classify receptive oral sex between men as "low risk" while classing insertive as "very low risk". I'm 30, and as far as I can remember, I used to be told that as long as my anal intercourse are protected, I wouldn't catch HIV. I'm vaccinated against Hep A and B, and while I could get infected by other STDs (which are of less concern to me), I thought I was doing it safe and right.

So here is my concern: I got tested in December last year negative and multiple times before that. I had something around 20 oral plays with different men this year, receptive and insertive, all unprotected, and pretty as much anal intercourse but always with condoms. Only one guy cummed in my mouth, and I rapidly spit it out. I suppose I had precum in my mouth almost every times, how couldn't it be. (I had one unprotected intercourse with a friend who I asked to get check, and he showed me the result, he was negative. I was about to omit that because it's irrelevant I think, but my conscience had me writing it).

I'm going tomorrow morning to test center with my friend K, and it frightens me to an unbearable point. I've read hundreds of times now that you say that it's not to be considered as a risk to have unprotected oral sex. I suppose you'll tell me about the study concerning sero-different people having intercourse. I was wondering, did they had sperm in they mouth too? Knowing their partners are HIV+, were they doing their best not swallowing precum?

I'm clearly in need for someone to tell me that I'm worrying about something I shouldn't, I read it all, but when it comes to your own person, the "low risk" just appear so big and such an irresponsible act of me. I know I won't feel completely ok until tomorrow result, but I need someone, who can truly put his honor on telling me that I shouldn't worry cause I did not take a risk to get HIV.

I read much post about people who had unprotected oral sexual intercourse, but I can't barely spot one where the guy did actually get checked and returned to say I'm negative.

Sorry for this long "essay", I hope this is going to help others like me who feel insecure.

Regards,
L
« Last Edit: November 28, 2013, 07:03:53 AM by adobe1983 »

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Re: Going to test tomorrow, can't calm down
« Reply #1 on: November 28, 2013, 07:07:30 AM »
Adobe,

The only thing you should worry about as regards hiv is the unprotected intercourse you had. Just because your friend tested negative doesn't mean he wasn't still in the window period. You simply cannot go by someone else's test results to know your own hiv status.

You should also test for all the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs, not just hiv. Some of them can be VERY serious if left untreated, and they don't always have noticeable symptoms. The ONLY way to know for sure is to test.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Going to test tomorrow, can't calm down
« Reply #2 on: November 29, 2013, 06:00:02 AM »
Thanks for your answer Ann and to all who read my post.

So I went this morning to the city free check service, I was afraid like, well you guys know as well as I do. I got few questions, they took some blood, and then I had to wait for around 30 minutes ... I strangely felt better off once the blood test was done, even if I did not know the result yet.

They called my number and .... I was negative. My *friend* was checked negative too, and it seems that he was waiting for the result to ask me to become his boyfriend. So this actually turned out to be the best day of my life. Oh God I can't say how happy I feel. I hope all the other persons who checked today had good results too, and that my actual joy will help the ones who are frightened to test to do it. Just do it. You'll feel better anyway, and it's better for your body and mental health too.

I want to thank all you guys again, you are doing a wonderful job here, I wish you all love and luck.

I'm sure I'll keep this moment in mind and never put myself at risk again.


Regards,
L

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Re: Going to test tomorrow, can't calm down
« Reply #3 on: November 29, 2013, 07:07:42 AM »
L,

Good news about both tests. :)

However, I would caution you that this does not mean you can immediately start having unprotected intercourse with your new boyfriend. You should wait at least three months for two reasons:

1. You need to be sure that you really are in a monogamous relationship.

2. You need to be sure you were both tested after the end of the three month window period. You only have his word as to where he was in the window period when you tested together yesterday.

Unprotected intercourse lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

You both also need to be tested for all the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs before the condoms come off. They can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test. FYI - syphilis shares a three month testing window with hiv for a conclusive negative result.

Good luck, and please don't be too quick to stop using condoms with your new boyfriend. Unprotected intercourse lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Ann
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