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Offline badlifechoices

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Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« on: November 22, 2013, 12:24:14 PM »

Hello there.

On September 20th, I had a very drunk encounter with someone I didn't know and we had anal sex (I was the bottom).  I'm not sure if a condom was used or not.  Since that day I've been in total agony with regard to my health.

I have had some symptoms and they still persist today although are getting better.  Very dry sore eyes, swollen glands in the throat, a semi-persistent headache in my front right temple.  I haven't experienced any other systems such as diharrea, weight-loss, rashes, "worst flu of my life", etc.

I went to the doctor but was too embarrassed and ashamed to get an HIV test so I told them about the symptoms but not about the encounter.  They sent me for an MRI and blood-work to check my thyroid and other basic tests and everything came back normal.

I took an oraquick test on October 28th and it came back negative.  I realize that this was only approximately 4 weeks after exposure, but I was so paranoid that I guess I jumped the gun a little.

I took another oraquick this last Tuesday (November 19th) and it came back negative as well.  This would be 7 1/2 weeks past the potential exposure date.

After both times I felt instant relief of course, but my symptoms continue and thus my anxiety is still off the charts.

I purchased another oraquick and plan on taking it in a couple weeks.

Given that I've taken 2 tests and they have come back negative, is it likely that I'm ok?  I know you can't answer that definitely, I guess I'm just posting to help my anxiety a little.

If, after I take the 3rd oraquick test in a couple weeks and it comes back negative, should I still get a different type of test or is the general consensus that the oraquick is accurate.

I guess the good news is that after 6+ years of heavy drinking, I haven't touched any alcohol since the day of the encounter, and funny enough, I have absolutely no desire too.  That fact alone has kept me somewhat sane through this ordeal.

Thanks in advance for the advice and understanding.


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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2013, 12:47:03 PM »
HIV testing is recommended at 6 weeks, past any possible exposure and then 3 months after that to confirm the results of the first test.  You have reliably tested negative at 7.5 weeks and that result is not likely to change, assuming you have had no new exposures.  Rather than continuing to test every couple of weeks, you should wait for the 3 months and take another test, which I expect to confirm your negative results.

Through my years of working with the HIV community, I have witnessed many folks who display symptoms of various degrees and many of those symptoms can be brought on by stress and anxiety.  If your symptoms really concern you, you should consult with your doctor as HIV is not your issue.

Assuming no new risks, I fully expect your 3 month test will confirm your negative results.

Best of luck.

Joe

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #2 on: November 22, 2013, 04:34:59 PM »
Just wanted to jump in and agree with Moderator Joe about the testing protocol. A test at six weeks is unlikely to change, though global standard still makes a three month antibody test definitive.

Also, as a person who is having an active sex life, you absolutely MUST get tested semi-annually for STDs, including HIV. You could have syphilis and not know it. And syphilis, if untreated, WILL destroy you.

I urge you to either find the fortitude to talk to your doctor frankly about your sexual activity, or find another doctor you CAN talk to about that. You are shooting yourself in the foot by denying medical practitioners the information that they NEED to help you.

 
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #3 on: November 22, 2013, 11:03:50 PM »
Thank you both for the replies.  By my very nature I'm not a patient person so the thought of waiting to test again is the most agonizing part of this.  Yes, I do need to just calm down and let this thing run it's course.

As to the frank conversation with my doctor, you are absolutely correct that I need to just do it.  It took me writing my original post this morning to realize just how silly I have been, so I have scheduled another appointment to get a full STD panel.

Thanks again for the support.  These forums are an amazing resource thanks to folks like you.

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2015, 10:52:34 PM »
I was really drunk on New Years Eve and went home with a guy.  I was on my back in the bed and he was on top of me and sat on my penis unprotected for about 20-30 seconds before I realized what was going on and immediately pushed him off and slept on the couch until I could sober up.  I feel like a total idiot.

Obviously this was a risk and I take full responsibility for my stupid behavior.

The question is, should I be thinking about PeP?  I don't really know the individual I was with.

I'm very concerned about this.  Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks.

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2015, 11:01:15 PM »
Please only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter . You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here .

PEP is not recommend for the insertive partner but you know the drill already as you have already had an alcohol fueled HIV exposure once before we know of … better work on that and limit you're drinking when you have sex before you end up with HIV like me, booze played a part in my seroconversion as well . HIV testing is recommended at 6 weeks, past any possible exposure and then 3 months after that to confirm the results of the first test.

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2015, 11:28:03 PM »
Thank you for the reply.  Sorry, didn't know about the single thread requirement.  Guess I should have read the rules more closely.

Thanks for the information w/regard to PeP.  Much appreciated.

And yes, my biggest problem is that I have a severe alcohol issues I've been trying to deal with for the last several years.  It's been very hard to control, but it's always good to have someone point it out to remind me of the dangers (both from the alcohol and the unintended consequences).

Keep up the good work and thank you again.

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #7 on: January 03, 2015, 09:13:31 AM »
I want you to know that I am not judging you but if you were to Google how often drugs and alcohol was a factor in people acquiring HIV you would be shocked. It is just food for thought.   

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #8 on: January 03, 2015, 06:42:39 PM »

I know you aren't judging me.  My reply was me judging myself.  Something I need to do more of before I crack open a bottle.

Hugs.

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #9 on: January 03, 2015, 06:45:11 PM »
Hugs back at ya .

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #10 on: February 08, 2015, 11:21:03 PM »

Ok, so now I'm a little freaked out.  It's starting on the 6th week since exposure and about last Wednesday I started developing a fever, sore throat, and a pretty stiff neck.  All these symptoms are still apparent and I'm getting a pretty queasy feeling that something is amiss. 

My Oraquick tests arrive on Tuesday and I'm hoping that this is all stress related.

So, my question isn't about symptoms, it's really about the reasoning for not going on PeP for the insertive partner.  I called an HIV doctor shortly after I posted here on the 2nd and they said the same thing.  Regardless of my outcome, are there studies about the chances of infection from a brief insertive encounter?  What medical studies have lead up to these conclusions.

I'm curious not only for my own peace of mind (until I test), but for the general population.  You would think that for a disease such as this one that, in a huge overabundance of caution, would always recommend PeP regardless of exposure type / risk?

Thoughts?  If this has been covered before, my apologies.

Thanks.
 

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #11 on: February 08, 2015, 11:28:22 PM »
You can learn more about HIV here in our lessons section…  http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/WhatIsAIDS_4994.shtml

The insertive partner rarely ever goes on to test positive for HIV in cases of brief insertions so I doubt there is a study specific to dipping . You should expect a negative result from your low risk exposure .

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #12 on: February 09, 2015, 10:59:16 AM »

It's the "rarely" part that scares me.  Seems rather vague.  Granted, I'm pretty scared at the moment and trying to find comfort in the word "rarely" is pretty hard.  Thus the questions about studies.

But thanks again for the reassurance.  It's much appreciated.

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Re: Still scared after 2 oraquick tests
« Reply #13 on: February 09, 2015, 11:01:46 AM »
There is really nothing more we can do for you other than wish you the best of luck and say once again you should expect a negative result .

 


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