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Author Topic: HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)  (Read 1356 times)

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HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)
« on: December 03, 2013, 09:23:19 AM »
Hi. I am a worker from Nigeria and had sex with a sex worker and fingered her for some time before the sex. I also sucked her nipples and I have small cuts(non-bleeding but not fully healed) on my lips from biting them. She then wore a condom for me, but she has sharp nails. After this, we had sex and i did not notice a condom break even though i did not cum before removing it (some tiny cum that i noticed inside the condom had vanished when i checked after some time). Again she wore another condom, rather violently, and we had sex, but i did not notice any breakage and i also saw the cum on top of my dick rather than at the tip. In spite of this, I am still scared. Do I have any risk of HIV? Also, if a condom breaks, is it a tiny hole or a big break? My mind keeps on telling me that the condom broke and that I will have HIV. I feel sad as I cheated on my wife. Please your help is needed for my mental state. Thank you

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Re: HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)
« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2013, 09:36:25 AM »
You can relax because you did not have a risk . Condoms are designed in such a way as to leave no doubt when they fail and you would have known if it did fail , there would be a large rip or it would break in half . A intact condom means no HIV .

Sucking nipples is not ever a risk , only breastfeeding infants can have a risk because of their immature immune systems . I read all of your concerns and you simply did not have a risk and it sounds like you are feeling guilty for cheating more than worrying about HIV so forgive yourself and move on . 

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)
« Reply #2 on: December 03, 2013, 10:02:01 AM »
Thanks a lot. I can concentrate better now. I hope to get tested in 3 months.

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Re: HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)
« Reply #3 on: December 03, 2013, 10:04:36 AM »
Thanks a lot. I can concentrate better now. I hope to get tested in 3 months.

You are welcome . You can expect a negative HIV test if this is your only concern .

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Re: HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)
« Reply #4 on: December 05, 2013, 03:38:57 AM »
One more thing. Some guys sued the condom manufacturers in Nigeria (Gold Circle) for contracting HIV whilst using the condom. One guy insisted that he used it correctly all the time but still contracted the virus. I am really scared that the same may happen to me. Please comment. Thanks

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Re: HIV thoughts are turning me mad(please help me out)
« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2013, 05:59:11 AM »
Latex condoms, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in preventing the sexual transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. In addition, consistent and correct use of latex condoms reduces the risk of other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including diseases transmitted by genital secretions, and to a lesser degree, genital ulcer diseases. Condom use may reduce the risk for genital human papillomavirus (HPV) infection and HPV-associated diseases, e.g., genital warts and cervical cancer.
Laboratory studies have demonstrated that latex condoms provide an essentially impermeable barrier to particles the size of STD pathogens.


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