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Author Topic: Slept with a prostitue. condom didn't break but i fingered her  (Read 1892 times)

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Slept with a prostitue. condom didn't break but i fingered her
« on: November 17, 2013, 07:56:03 AM »
Slept with a prostitute. condom didn't break but i fingered her and when i got home i washed my hands wiz alcohol to find under my finger some itching ( a cut or something). i'm scared as hell. any advice please. i sucked her nipple a little n kissed her neck. was using durex extra safe and i came inside z condom.

please tell me am i safe or what my dr. told me maybe that cut get u infected and to go after one week for early detection test. thx

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Re: Slept with a prostitue. condom didn't break but i fingered her
« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2013, 08:18:05 AM »

You did the only thing you needed to do in order to avoid hiv infection - you wore a condom for anal or vaginal intercourse.

Fingering is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection, regardless of cuts, nicks, hangnails or whatever on your fingers. Not one person has ever been infected through fingering and you are NOT going to be the first.

Neck-sucking and kissing are also NOT risks for hiv infection.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY FOLLOWING HAVING RELATIONS WITH A SEX WORKER, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Slept with a prostitue. condom didn't break but i fingered her
« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2013, 09:18:03 AM »
thx alot..
but y that dr is telling me that it's maybe danger and i have to take z test :(

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Re: Slept with a prostitue. condom didn't break but i fingered her
« Reply #3 on: November 17, 2013, 09:31:34 AM »
thx alot..
but y that dr is telling me that it's maybe danger and i have to take z test :(

We see this allot . Some doctors act with such caution when doing HIV assessments it becomes misleading to the patient when the assessments are not based on science based transmission routes . Also , its sometimes hard to get people to test for HIV and I think some doctors use scare tactics to get people to test .

Unfortunately when doctors use that tactic it doesn't educate the patient about HIV testing and transmission risk and it perpetuates the myths about HIV  . 
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Re: Slept with a prostitue. condom didn't break but i fingered her
« Reply #4 on: November 17, 2013, 10:43:56 AM »
thx alot.. u r great support and source of info.


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