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Author Topic: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?  (Read 927 times)

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Offline GuidedUp

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A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« on: November 12, 2013, 10:57:48 AM »
Dear Experts,

First, thank you for your time and energy in reviewing my concern. Always follow your general safety practices when engaging in sexual activities with a stranger, but this particular One Night Stand has made me somewhat startled and a bit shook.
Our rendezvous foreplay was about 2 hours in the dark. While I was fingering her in the vagina very rough and fast, she began bleeding a lot sometime during this event. I didnít know until I decided to look down there and we figured it was from inside her vagina, not menstrual blood maybe from cut. It was blood mixed with her vaginal fluids all over her thighs, her body, my body, my whole hand, the sheets, you get the picture. She was very, very wet and possibly the wettest girl Iíve been with, so thatís probably why the blood was everywhere. The thing is in between fingering, I was caressing her all over with my (bloody) fingers and then most likely licking, sucking and kissing the areas I touched. Turns out we didnít get to go all the way, so I understand this does not constitute your typical transmission protocols. Just didnít expect all this blood all over us.

Once I noticed blood, we both went to bathroom to clean up.. I checked for visible open cuts on my fingers and skin, but did not find any.  And I donít possess a microscope to check for the microscopic cuts some say could be of concern. But I was concerned seeing all that blood underneath my nails and just everywhere. Not sure if the dentritic cells (HIV receptors I think) are located there. And not sure if blood got through my briefs and touched by penis and opening.  So far, Iím most concerned about my mouth licking and sucking on the blood that was smeared onto her other parts of her body I touched after fingering her, assuming it did.  It may be quite fresh out the vagina. Just never encountered or been a situation like this, so pretty mentally shook and seeking some reassurance since I am overseas.

Question is, ďWould you recommend testing for HIV and Hep C?Ē,  or let it go?   

On another note, I am worried about her cut and told her to get checked for it, because not sure if vagina is suppose to bleed so easily like that. Hope she is okay and will be okay.

Your thoughts, answers on this are highly appreciated. Have a good one!

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Re: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2013, 11:05:49 AM »
You never had an exposure.

Offline GuidedUp

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Re: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2013, 11:49:34 AM »
Thanks RapidRod!

I was thinking if I had licked or sucked the blood that I smeared onto her body parts, my saliva would perhaps deactivate potential for infection. Also, was thinking the blood when exposed to oxygen should deactivate potential as well... I keep thinking this and telling myself no need to test.. but it was just so much blood, it got me shook up thinking it somehow may have latched on to a receptor cell...

I just never had thought anyone could bleed like this and it was the unexpected as I do my best to prevent exposures with strangers.



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Re: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2013, 02:42:37 PM »
You didn't have a risk for HIV in the situation you described  . These are the risk factors for HIV .

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! 

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Re: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« Reply #4 on: November 12, 2013, 10:45:05 PM »
Thanks for your input Jeff!

I also just finished reading JKinATL2's response to Ggreen123's concern and really liked JK's comparison description of the key made of ice and melting once exposed to summer heat to how HIV becomes deactivated once exposed to air.

The information on here has really progressed since being on this site a long time ago. Still learning and its cool how all the experts provide a list of how hiv is transmitted, and proper condom usage.

I think just seeing all that blood and thinking the what ifs of that night has me shaken somewhat and causing me to think too much. Like what if my penis pressed upon the blood during frottage or if there were cuts somewhere exposed and what not.. I'm making effort to stop thinking about what happened.

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Re: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« Reply #5 on: November 12, 2013, 10:56:23 PM »
Its understandable that if one doesn't understand how HIV is transmitted that coming into contact with blood is traumatic . The truth is HIV is a fragile hard to transmit virus that needs specific circumstances in order for transmission to occur .

You didn't have a risk in your situation , if you had a risk we would all be advising you to go test to protect your health and the health of others .

Testing for HIV is a good thing , so if you wish to test for peace of mind only , you have that option . I just didn't want you to think you had a risk in this specific incident .

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Re: A Bloody Mess from One Night Stand - Testing needed?
« Reply #6 on: November 13, 2013, 12:43:31 AM »
Thanks for your input Jeff!

I also just finished reading JKinATL2's response to Ggreen123's concern and really liked JK's comparison description of the key made of ice and melting once exposed to summer heat to how HIV becomes deactivated once exposed to air.

The information on here has really progressed since being on this site a long time ago. Still learning and its cool how all the experts provide a list of how hiv is transmitted, and proper condom usage.

I think just seeing all that blood and thinking the what ifs of that night has me shaken somewhat and causing me to think too much. Like what if my penis pressed upon the blood during frottage or if there were cuts somewhere exposed and what not.. I'm making effort to stop thinking about what happened.

hey thanks! I always love it when my metphors take legs.

As the other moderators have said, you have had  no risk. And you seem ro understand why!

This is good news :)
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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