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Author Topic: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?  (Read 1407 times)

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Offline HanselDvall

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it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« on: November 06, 2013, 10:08:43 PM »
Good day to you,

Thanks for your purpose here, and for  providing light to many people: hopefully you could light my thoughts as well.

I recently met a guy that we've been chatting online for some time. We finally met, clicked, kissed, and the encounter was promising and good all together. But it was too good to be free of any twists: he's positive, healthy, strong, and undetectable, under medication ( his disclaim)

He told me the truth and wanted to be honest; by that time though, and before we went any further, we already played a little bit (no full intercourse) and we were already nude in bed. He rimmed me, and pocked/teased me from behind; he didn't penetrate me, but I'm sure I felt for a couple of seconds the tip of his organ's head trying to get in.

Not only that, I even did a little oral on him where I notoriously tasted a small amount of precum, which I'm not sure if I swallow or let it out while licking.

When washing myself, I tried to look for any sign of anal blood, since I sometimes bleed when I have intercourse. But I couldn't find any trace. To double check that he didn't ripped me with his penis's head.

Regarding my mouth, I had no wound, sore/pain of any kind before I did oral to him.
Even though he insisted that what we did was safe, and because he is under medication, I do still worry and I'm concerned. I've always tried to have an open mind and be educated regarding the matter of neg people dating positive.

But what are my chances to be infected , is precum a huge medium of infestation? I'm dying to go get tested, but do I really have to wait at least a month to have a piece of mind ? The event just happened two days ago, and I'm building anxiety thinking about it :(
 

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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #1 on: November 06, 2013, 10:24:44 PM »
You never had an exposure.

HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug users
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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2013, 11:17:40 PM »
Just to reiterate Rapidrod's assertion, you have had ZERO risk in th escenario you described.

Use a condom for penetrative anal and vaginal sex and you will avoid HIV. It really is that simple.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Offline HanselDvall

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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2013, 01:23:15 AM »
Thanks for the education.
I know that condoms are greatly effective, but I got paranoid due to the little bit of playing around and poking unprotected . And as I mentioned , he was precumming some when I was doing oral, and I can guess he was also when he used the head of his penis to get inside. Lastly , there's the fact that I'm always tight and that causes me to be easily irritated and bleed a little .

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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #4 on: November 07, 2013, 01:47:21 AM »
You didn't have a risk , if you had we would not hesitate to tell you .

There are many serodiscordant couples , that one positive and the other negative . Serodiscordant couples have sex in the same manner as you everyday and its safe to do so if you use condoms for anal and vaginal sex . You had protected sex and were not at risk for HIV .

Offline HanselDvall

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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #5 on: December 07, 2013, 07:42:44 PM »
Thank you all,

As a follow up. I got tested. Priliminary results show that I'm neg, and I'm still waiting for the conclusive ones a week from now. But...std results show that I got the bacteria of gonorrhea located in my throat, from that same encounter :(
How serious is this? Is it easily curable? I'm concerned. I'll be going this Monday for a shot and medications though. I do hope it erases that bacteria from my body

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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #6 on: December 07, 2013, 08:17:32 PM »
Thank you all,

As a follow up. I got tested. Priliminary results show that I'm neg, and I'm still waiting for the conclusive ones a week from now. But...std results show that I got the bacteria of gonorrhea located in my throat, from that same encounter :(
How serious is this? Is it easily curable? I'm concerned. I'll be going this Monday for a shot and medications though. I do hope it erases that bacteria from my body
You didn't have an exposure and never needed an HIV test.

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Re: it's precum a potent medium of transmission?
« Reply #7 on: December 08, 2013, 06:42:50 AM »
Hansel,

As you've been told, you didn't have a risk. That means you do not need further testing at this time - unless you've been having UNPROTECTED anal or vaginal intercourse with a person of unknown hiv status that you didn't tell us about.

I wouldn't go as far as saying "you never needed an hiv test". You just didn't need to specifically test over this one NO RISK situation.

As a sexually active adult you should be testing at LEAST once a year. Provided you always use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, you can fully expect your hiv test to come back negative.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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