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Offline turbo

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Unprotected sex 4 weeks later symptoms
« on: November 04, 2013, 05:46:09 AM »
Anyway I slept with a guy from a dating site for a one nighter not sure if he is safe in what he does or if he really had a boyfriend anyway I was the bottom and we didn't wear protection. HIV has never occurred to me till a lot of my symptoms seemed to be the same as what is described in ARS.

Anyway 4 weeks later I became ill with a head ache feeling uneasy and nausea with a fever following shortly after also a stiff neck and bones feeling painful for 20 seconds then disappearing. The fever lasted about 2 days and might have had help due to panadol I took to bring my temp down from 39 degrees Celsius. Anyway the the dizzy side of things and the stiff neck lasted almost 2 weeks but the head ache persisted a little after that and seems to have gone. So now I have a cough that does produce some phlegm every now and again but was wondering does this sound like ARS and should I be worried. I also didn't feel quite there if you know what I mean in the first week and a half also.  I have had no sore throat to worry about just a little itchy now and have had no rash either.

The biggest problem is I had sex with my wife the first few days feeling like this and just hope if I am that I haven't passed it on. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I had destroyed someone elses life through my stupidity.

Please help and comment and don't sugar coat it i need to know. I'm away for work as we speak so can't get a test yet but when I get back will be at week 6 perfect time for a test, so let me know your thoughts.


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Re: Unprotected sex 4 weeks later symptoms
« Reply #1 on: November 04, 2013, 06:52:22 AM »
Turbo,

This guy's history and boyfriend status doesn't really matter, what matters is what you two did together. What you did was most definitely a risk. In fact unprotected, receptive anal intercourse is THE HIGHEST risk you can take sexually.

Neither symptoms nor even the lack of symptoms will ever tell you a single thing about your hiv status. ONLY testing at the appropriate time will.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

The earliest you should test is at six weeks, and you MUST test.

You HAVE put your wife at risk for hiv and all the other STIs as well. You may have knowingly consented to a risky situation, but she didn't have that luxury as it is normal to expect your husband to not be sleeping around. A person newly infected with hiv is usually at the most infectious they'll ever be, due to the typically extremely high viral load in the first few weeks and months.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Unprotected sex 4 weeks later symptoms
« Reply #2 on: November 04, 2013, 08:15:43 AM »
Hi Anne thanks for the reply but was after if this is the normal reaction I get home soon and can go get tested right away when I do. I know I have put my wife at risk and if this does show up negative it is the last time I will ever stray I can guarantee that.

I just had a rash show up on the base of my foot that just started getting itchy it is like small bumps. I just need to know just to keep myself sane while I stay at work and try not to think about this.

I managed to get hold of the guy and he said that he gets checkups every 3 months for everything he believes so I might be lucky but I know I won't know for sure till I get the test done.

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Re: Unprotected sex 4 weeks later symptoms
« Reply #3 on: November 04, 2013, 08:54:18 AM »
Turbo, your foot rash or whatever it is does not in anyway qualify as an HIV specific symptom. But then you need to know that neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms will ever tell you anything accurately about your HIV status.

As Ann has covered the basics thoroughly for you, I'll just repeat that if you test negative at 6 weeks, the chances are very good that you will test negative again for a conclusive result at 3 months.
Andy Velez

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Re: Unprotected sex 4 weeks later symptoms
« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2013, 12:08:53 AM »
Yes been for the test and it says negative for everything just shows symptoms mean nothing and yes I was scared as shit till I heard what it was

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Re: Unprotected sex 4 weeks later symptoms
« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2013, 06:35:40 AM »
Turbo,

If you've tested negative at six weeks, you must still confirm that result at three months. It's highly unlikely to change, but you MUST test again to rule out a slightly delayed seroconversion.

Ann
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