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Author Topic: I'm positive but bf negative  (Read 2784 times)

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Offline Lasthope

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I'm positive but bf negative
« on: March 26, 2015, 01:43:44 AM »
I'm so scared someday he will leave me I'm positive but he negative and I'm glad he negative I really love him and he knew my status. When you blood positive life very hard. I wish my blood can change negative again I don't want to lose him really hope.

Offline yellabee3

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Re: I'm positive but bf negative
« Reply #1 on: March 26, 2015, 03:09:31 AM »
I totally understand how you feel. I would give anything to give myself some sense of normality.

Offline Lasthope

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Re: I'm positive but bf negative
« Reply #2 on: March 26, 2015, 04:07:17 AM »
Hi, yellabee3
I don't know what I gonna do with my life. Coz he can make me laugh, smile and feel normal not different. I wish he understand and still stay with me.

Offline Weber

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Re: I'm positive but bf negative
« Reply #3 on: March 26, 2015, 08:37:01 PM »

As a newbie, your concerns and fears are very understandable. But they will cool down, promise. Very first months/years of hiv I think it's very common to lose some self-confidence and having constant negative thoughts about our desirability. Yet, healing will start once your establish the notion that it's you who controls hiv not the other way around. It does not define you or identify who you are, what your goals in life etc. whoever stays in your life will stay because of loving you for who you are. Loving someone for me means loving everything about them and tolerating or managing areas of contradiction. If your bf leaves you based on hiv, I don't think he is the right person for you in the first place. Do you wanna spend your life with someone who judges you over a disease? I know it sucks but I try to look at our dx from a more productive perspective. As much as it is very stressful, disclosure actually gives us the opportunity to eliminate wrong ppl from our lives in a pretty quick way and save precious time that would have otherwise spent on an unnecessary relationship.  This may sound overly optimistic to you now, but trust me your self-confidence will come back in time and  if he is the right person your by will be right by your side as well :)

Big hugs...

Offline Lasthope

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Re: I'm positive but bf negative
« Reply #4 on: March 26, 2015, 09:40:13 PM »
Thank you, weber

Yes, it's my first month to found out I'm poz. Very shock and scared but not a bit ok coz I thought it just virus but just sad if I lose my bf coz I love him so much.


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