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Author Topic: Standard STD/HIV Advice for Women  (Read 902 times)

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Standard STD/HIV Advice for Women
« on: September 15, 2013, 01:50:21 PM »

I hope I am not infringing upon this site because I see more posts from men then women. I do hope that I can gain some sound advice.

I am a 30 Yr Black American woman and I realize that the HIV rates among Black women in the US is relatively high and I wanted to gauge my risk assessment and see what testing window I need to utilize. I also hope that my post may assist other women who come to the site.

I do not usually engage in stupid behavior, but I did. I had 7 instances of unprotected vaginal sex with a 47 yr old Black male co-worker between Aug-Sept  14, 2013. We knew what we were doing (period). There has been heavy flirtation between us for a year and we did discuss STD's and HIV prior.   His medical history is Multiple Sclerosis and Asthma, he takes pain medication and a daily asthma treatment, and he said he had a vasectomy in his 20s. Yet, after our last encounter, on Friday, he revealed that he was married and the guilt was starting to wear him down.  I thought OMG I was a mistress, not cool. He explained that this is his second affair, the 1st being when he was 26 and then me. He said he has been faithful until now. 

Well, it has been broken off, naturally! I told him that I was going to the dr. ASAP and he took that into offense. He said, I would never endanger your life. I thought, dude, your married and I am stupid. Wow.

My plan of action:

This week get tested for all basic STDs-gonorrhea, chlamydia, trich. Get a pap smear and wait at least 6 weeks for a preliminary HIV test. I will keep a close pregnancy watch, just in case the vasectomy was not true.

The only symptoms I have had are a classic cold (congestion, pressure on the ears, mild sore throat, minor cough, sinus drainage) No high fevers or rash. He, too is getting over a sinus infection!

PS- I was last tested in Dec 2011 for everything! Therefore the timing is right. I know, condoms, condoms, condoms. 

Offline Jeff G

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« Reply #1 on: September 15, 2013, 02:18:54 PM »
You did what you can do under the circumstances . You can test at 6 weeks and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

You pretty much are doing what we would advise and that's get checked for all STD and test at the appropriate time . 


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