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Offline Randyfied

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French kissing for a long period of time
« on: March 18, 2014, 05:44:29 PM »
Well...I purchased an Oraquick home test and I'm too terrified to take the test at this moment.  My risk is that I made out with a woman about a year ago several times for long periods / deep French kissing.  I don't know if there was blood... But we both have bad gums....so probably.  I've had a surgery last year as well.... Could have been exposed there.  I've not had sex but with one woman in my life and We are monogomus.  Her results were negative over the summer.  I haven't been tested in awhile.... But my only risk factor was making out with a woman that I shouldn't have... I am looking At the test right now.. I'm scared that if my risk factor is small and I have a false positive I will lose it.  plus my lady just got pregnant and I'm afraid my risk my have infected he and she will be positive... This is too much stress. ..should I take this test... I have exposed myself and my lady.

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Re: French kissing for a long period of time
« Reply #1 on: March 18, 2014, 06:20:36 PM »
Kissing is not a risk bad gums or not ... its NOT a risk . You do not need to test over this specific incident but since you have a test take it ... it will be negative and then you can put this behind you . I repeat ... you did not have a risk from Kissing .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: French kissing for a long period of time
« Reply #2 on: March 18, 2014, 06:41:58 PM »
But it was more than one incident... It was 3 or 4 long make out sessions of deep French kissing.  I'm too scared to test... I worry about a false postive because I may have lupus.  I am in a monogamous sexual relationship.  My lady is negative and these events were my only risk factors.

Is it truly safe to move on without worry or concern?   

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Re: French kissing for a long period of time
« Reply #3 on: March 18, 2014, 06:46:18 PM »
Is it truly safe to move on without worry or concern?

Yes it is safe to move on as you never had a risk.  Kissing is NOT A RISK, no matter the duration, intensity or any other factors.  That is not how HIV is contracted.  You do not need to test over these incidents, because they represent NO RISK of HIV infection.

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Re: French kissing for a long period of time
« Reply #4 on: March 18, 2014, 06:58:59 PM »
Joe is correct ... stop torturing yourself and move on .

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Re: French kissing for a long period of time
« Reply #5 on: March 19, 2014, 06:00:58 AM »

French kissing isn't a risk, and neither is Spanish kissing, Nordic kissing, El Salvadorian kissing, or even Australian kissing - and I hear they kiss Down Under.

It doesn't matter how long or how often you engage in this multinational kissing - kissing simply isn't a risk. Deep, shallow, sideways, backwards, a peck on the cheek, a tickling of the tonsils. KISSING IS NOT A RISK FOR HIV. 

Now, about this phantom blood you're worrying about. Unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before you kiss, then there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause the slightest hiv concern. You'd have to be kissing in the middle of a blood-bath before you'd even get my attention. (And even then I'd be more worried about your psychopathic proclivities than I would be worried about you catching hiv.)

Hello!?!?!? This is the 21st century, not 1980. We've known that kissing poses absolutely no risk for decades now. Please do keep up dear.

Re-read your entire thread, and concentrate on Jeff's post where he tells you how to protect yourself against hiv. In a nutshell, all you need to do is to not share drug injecting equipment and wear a condom for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently. Follow this advice and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Dial back the guilt on having kissed someone other than your significant other and get on with your life.

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