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Offline Carl888

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Hi really worried please help
« on: September 08, 2013, 08:20:52 AM »
4 weeks ago I received oral from a foreign girl. I was quite drunk but I'm 99 percent certain all contact was with a condom.  And 2 weeks ago i gave oral to a girl. However since then I have been feeling guilt/ paranoid etc.

And 2 days ago I had a sore throat and a bit of flu like symptoms which have eased off already but at work last night I noticed small like blisters/ulcers on my bottom lip,  about 6 or 7 of them and I am really starting to worry. Can't get to doctors/clinic till
Tomorrow so just wondering whether to be this concerned or not and would really appreciate any help thanks.

I have had no fever or vomiting or rashes etc and just put it down to a common cold which I get around this time of year. It's just the little lumps on my lip that freaking me out

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Re: Hi really worried please help
« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2013, 08:22:09 AM »
All I have now other than small blisters on inside of lip is a slight dry throat with no cough which I have been using throat spray for so maybe that can cause blistering of lip?

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Re: Hi really worried please help
« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2013, 08:32:25 AM »
Performing Oral sex on a woman is not a risk for HIV and no one has been infected from cunnilingus , you wont be the first . There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Hi really worried please help
« Reply #3 on: September 08, 2013, 08:35:12 AM »
Thanks for the reply jeff that is good to know and has helped me a bit!  Only thing now is my main concern that I could get it off receiving oral off someone who could be positive. What would be chance of that? Like I say I'm 99 percent sure it was all with condom. But even if not what are the chances/risks of it that way thanks

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Re: Hi really worried please help
« Reply #4 on: September 08, 2013, 08:51:14 AM »
Carl, you can stop worrying right now. Getting oral is one of the most common of sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic there has never been a confirmed case of transmission to a guy through his getting oral. Not one. It is safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first.

Keep it simple. The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and oral intercourse. As long as you always use condoms for those activities properly you will be well protected.

There's no need for testing at this time nor for further concern on your part about HIV.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #5 on: September 08, 2013, 09:03:42 AM »
People make the mistake of lumping all oral sex into one risk group and its not helpful to do so . Its important to remember that if cunnilingus were a risk for HIV then we would have a large community of lesbian's with HIV , and we do not simply because its not a risk .   

Cunnilingus isn't a risk period , nor is getting a blow job . There is a theoretical risk from giving a blow job to man under very specific circumstances . The man receiving the oral sex would have to have a high viral load and the person giving the blow job would have to have significant open wounds in his mouth , in which case you probably wouldn't be giving head . In the 30 years of the epidemic there have only been a scant few documented cases in this Theoretical risk group .   

Your saliva contains dozens for enzymes and proteins that damage HIV and render it unable to infect and that's a significant hurdle in its own for HIV to over come . 

If she did have HIV ( which is doubtful ) it wouldn't matter if you used a condom or not receiving oral , it just isn't a risk .   


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