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Author Topic: Protected sex, but one of condoms in bin was broken  (Read 314 times)

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Protected sex, but one of condoms in bin was broken
« on: November 27, 2016, 12:02:50 AM »

Please could you tell me what you think my risk is, and what I should do.

On 27 October, I went to a gay sauna and had sex with another gay man.  I was receptive, he was wearing condom.  This lasted 2 minutes but I got seriously freaked out when he asked me if I was into bareback sex.  I stopped the sex and left but returned to the cubicle a while later to check the bin, to see if the condom he had been wearing was okay.  There were two used condoms in the bin, one was intact, the other was completely obliterated, with a huge hole in the end.

It freaked me out to find this, especially after him talking about bareback sex.

He didn't ejaculate inside me, but he did penetrate me.  I'm pretty sure that the intact condom was the one he used and the broken condom must have been from a previous occupant and nothing to do with me, but it scared me a lot.  I wasn't aware of any sensation of the condom breaking during the brief intercourse, but I cannot be 100% sure, only 90% sure that the condom was intact.  After hearing him talk like that, and then finding the broken remnants of a condom, this really sounded alarm bells for me.

I've waited 30 days, and would like to take an HIV fingerprick test in the next few days, but I'm unsure from conflicting information whether it will be definitive or not.  Some of the test centres here in London say the window period is only 30 days, others say 6 weeks.

Please could you tell me what you think of my risk, and what window period you would advise for testing?

thank you very much.

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Re: Protected sex, but one of condoms in bin was broken
« Reply #1 on: November 27, 2016, 12:58:19 AM »

Just because he asked you if you were into something and you are freaking out...
I am guessing there are tones of things you are into that would be different to me and vice versa, its not a reason to panic.

Look continue to practices safer sex and test at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV. No reason here to freak out and test immediately, now if it gives you some peace of mind by all means test but do so and move on.

I've waited 30 days, and would like to take an HIV fingerprick test in the next few days, but I'm unsure from conflicting information whether it will be definitive or not.  Some of the test centres here in London say the window period is only 30 days, others say 6 weeks.

Not that you have any reason to panic over this incident but no the window is simple 3 months even in the UK (HIV is not different in the UK from the rest of the world) if you have an incident. Now I know they do stress high confidence in 6 weeks so do we however 3 months (13 weeks) remains a conclusive result post incident.   

UK Testing guidelines bhiva "British HIV association" : Although fourth generation tests shorten the time from exposure to seroconversion a repeat test at three months is still recommended to definitively exclude HIV infection.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information can be found in my signature including some basic information on:
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