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Gave oral sex, risk?
« on: February 07, 2014, 08:29:03 PM »

I'm a bi male and about 4 years or so ago I gave bj's two people without a condom, they told me they were disease free when asked.  I did not swallow semen, although there could have been some precum. I did not have anal intercourse. I remember being sick for about a couple of days around that general period. I didn't think much of it as it was around the flu season and my roomie had been sick so I thought I got it there. Fast forward 4 years ago to today, my doctor did some tests and found my Hemoglobin levels were very low and I need to improve my diet and see another doctor soon, all my other tests like Iron which are associated with low Hemoglobin were fine and WBC count was fine. I went home and started looking up causes of low hemoglobin on the internet and there's quite a lot but one that caught my eye was HIV which apparently lowers hemoglobin levels. I am going to get tested and have an appointment of Wednesday but it's eating me alive right now. What's my risk?

Edit: I also wanted to add, I can't be sure but my penis head might have come in contact with the penis of one of them and possible some semen might have been splashed on it when he ejaculated. I'm don't know if this happened or if my mind is playing tricks on me. Either way I cleaned myself up right away after the thing
« Last Edit: February 07, 2014, 08:35:37 PM by Lars887 »

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Re: Gave oral sex, risk?
« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2014, 08:42:36 PM »
You need not worry that you were infected in this manner . There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

The oral transmission of HIV is very rare and only happens under certain conditions . The person getting a blow job would have to have a high HIV viral load and the person performing oral sex would have to have significant wounds in the mouth such as meth mouth or syphilis chancre . There has only been a scant few documented cases in 30 years and some of those had other risk factors .

Your symptoms are specific to many other conditions other than HIV so it makes no sense to settle on HIV and ignore a thousand other conditions . If you are uneasy then go test ... it will be negative if this is your only concern .   

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Gave oral sex, risk?
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2014, 08:50:47 PM »
Thanks for the reply Jeff. You reply seems reasonable and convincing. I will still get tested though. Looking stuff up on the internet is killing me, I can't eat, I can't sleep and I can't even enjoy my weekend. I have suspected myself of several conditions trying to diagnose my anaemia online. Anyways I digress. Thanks again for taking the time to reply

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Re: Gave oral sex, risk?
« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2014, 08:56:34 PM »
If this is your only concern for HIV you really are tormenting your self over nothing .

HIV testing is a good thing so I will not dissuade you from doing it but I'm telling you that you are not going to test positive over giving a few BJ's . 

Go easy on yourself with the unfounded fears because its not warranted or doing you any good .


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