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Offline Afraider100

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Kissing with colombian prostitute
« on: August 18, 2013, 10:54:13 AM »
Hello there, i am in medellin for family holidays. Two nights ago, i went to a strip joint with a buddy of mine and unfortunately with a lot of drinks, i kiss like 20 times a girl i liked (black girl)! I also licked/sucked her dried nipples! I also gave her kisses on the neck and the arms etc.

What worries me is that i bite my lips because of the stress. So the skin gets ripped and the followinh day it starts to reconstruct itself. Now, it wasn't fully reconstructed when the incident happened,its like a little darker than pinkish but there is no blood and its kind soft when i pass my tongue over it.

Since the place was kinda dark and the girl had dark lips and i was drunky, i didn't manage to see if she had something bleeding or cut on her lips. We didn't deep kissed but normal open kiss with tongue touching. I dont have ulcers or bleeding inside my mouth.

We didn't have any genital sex. I said no and left!

Another girl gave me a lip-kiss only out of nowhere.

I am odc and hypocon by nature and i said the truth to my wife. Im afraid to infect her of hiv if i had a relative risk. I dont feel like i will be able to be stressed like that for the next three months.

What are your thoughts? Am i paranoid and should relax and not get tested because it's not worth it? My wife is disease free and i am too (until 2 days ago)

Thank you for ur inputs and support! Hope to get positive feedback as i hate this situation ive put myself in!

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Re: Kissing with colombian prostitute
« Reply #1 on: August 18, 2013, 11:39:03 AM »
Afraid,

Saliva is NOT infectious, so kissing is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Neither is kissing nipples.

By the way, enough with the racism. We do not permit racism here - hiv is a virus ANYONE can get - any HUMAN. Doesn't matter what race you are or anything else.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER KISSING, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Kissing with colombian prostitute
« Reply #2 on: August 18, 2013, 10:00:59 PM »
Hello there,

Thank you for your replies! I wasn't being racist, maybe it souded like this but i was just commenting, sorry if inoffended someone! Could you or someone else explain to me if i had a skin bruise on my lip (i bite my tongue and remove it and the. It starts heeling, usually no bleeding) maybe there was a micro openess in which blood from her could have gone in? Can makeup cover sores etc?

What are my chance of herpes if no visible sores ?

Thank you for your help!

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Re: Kissing with colombian prostitute
« Reply #3 on: August 18, 2013, 10:28:22 PM »
Hello there,

Thank you for your replies! I wasn't being racist, maybe it souded like this but i was just commenting, sorry if inoffended someone! Could you or someone else explain to me if i had a skin bruise on my lip (i bite my tongue and remove it and the. It starts heeling, usually no bleeding) maybe there was a micro openess in which blood from her could have gone in? Can makeup cover sores etc?

What are my chance of herpes if no visible sores ?

Thank you for your help!

Saliva is not infectious. You can have bruises, cuts, scrapes, sores, and none of that will facilitate an HIV infection.

You categorically can NOT get HIV from kissing, no matter how many caveats you heap upon your experience.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Kissing with colombian prostitute
« Reply #4 on: August 22, 2013, 12:07:18 PM »
Hello there,

Thank you for your kind answer. This is my last free post, I think I will suscribe because I have so many doubts in my mind I can’t control myself. First of all, you all seem to say that kissing is not a way to pass HIV, which is kind of giving me a little peace. The thing that stresses me the most is that since I was drunk, I do not remember if she had cold sores or mouth bruises or anything. I did not see blood or smell blood for what I can remember but you never know since I was drunk. I am not afraid of having contracted HSV and Syphilis too. The room was also dark and it was dark outside also.

I talked about this incident with my girlfriend and she was upset but she forgave me. I know I have an excellent woman by my side and I can assure you that I will never do something like this again because it’s stressing the hell out of me and I do not want to have to live like this again. I am afraid of kissing her to transmit her something and especially hiv for this stupid mistake I did.

I have to tell you that the day before as mentionned I just « ate » some skin on my upper lips, which means the skin was broken and could lead to an entry of the blood or hiv virus. Here is a picture :

link removed by Ann

I am not sure what to think, some websites and doctors think that having bruises and blood contact in the mouth is a risk for hiv, others say even if it’s bleeding, no risk is possible to get hiv. What is the real deal ?

I have the remaining questions :

1.   If blood was present in her mouth/lips/ulcers/sores, how much of it does it take to infect me if we dry kiss (no saliva) the lips ? how much does it need with saliva ?
2.   What when i kissed her skin on other parts of her body there was a bruise and some blood out of it, how much blood do I need in my mouth to be infected ?
3.   Should I get tested and not kiss my wife for the next 3 months until 90 mark hiv is hopefully negative ?

I would not be able to forgive myself and being an egoist and putting my girlfriend in danger because of my mistakes.

Thank you all for your help and to clarify things with me. You are a true ressource.
« Last Edit: August 22, 2013, 12:10:11 PM by Ann »

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Re: Kissing with colombian prostitute
« Reply #5 on: August 22, 2013, 12:13:12 PM »
Afraid,

I removed your link to the photo of your mouth. We don't want/need to see it.

Unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before you kiss them, there is absolutely no way there could possible be enough blood present to cause the slightest hiv concern.

You need to get a grip of yourself and let this go. If you take out a subscription, you'll end up being given a time out for excessive posting over a NO RISK situation, so don't waste your money and our time.

You DID NOT have a risk for hiv infection. Kissing is NOT A RISK FOR HIV INFECTION!!!

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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