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Possible Risk?
« on: August 13, 2013, 11:26:15 AM »
So, I met a girl through a common friend and as soon as we started flirting she told me she was prostitute looking for a 'real' relationship. I was a little overwhelmed and scared by this information, but we got to know each other with time until one very drunken night I ended up at her house where we hooked up. We basically just engaged in fingering and cunnilingus (no open wounds anywhere, no blood at all involved). We did not share any dildos or penetrative sex toys. To be honest the oral sex part is what's been worrying me the most. Of course it's ignorant to assume that all sex workers have HIV, and I don't think she was infected since she told me she protects herself with her clients, but I'm still not sure how risky what I did was. From I've read on other topics, I've gathered I'm pretty much out of the woods, but since I have no one to speak about this openly, I decided to post anyway.
I'd also like to ask how I can protect myself in the future, given that I am a lesbian? There seems to be so little information about this going around, and even though it's silly, I'm scared to ask my doctor about it and suffer any form of judgement/prejudice. Should I get tested over this specific incident? Is it true lesbians have lower risk of an infection than heterosexual/gay couples?

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Re: Possible Risk?
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2013, 11:43:35 AM »
Hi Confused .

Hiv transmission doesn't stand a chance of happening via female genitals to mouth - there are just too many obstacles on the oral route.
The first obstacle is the mouth itself. The mouth is a veritable fortress, standing against all sorts of pathogens we come into contact with every minute of our lives. It's a very hostile environment and saliva has been shown to contain over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv.
Hiv is a very fragile virus - literally. Its outer surface doesn't take kindly to changes in its preferred environment; slight changes in temperature, moisture content and pH levels all damage the outer surface. Importantly, it needs this outer surface to be intact before it can latch onto a few, very specific cell types and infect.
Which leads to the second obstacle. Hiv can only latch onto certain types of cells, cells which are not found in abundance in the mouth.
The third obstacle to transmission this way is having hiv present in the first place. The female secretion where hiv has been shown to be present is the cervicovaginal fluid. This fluid is actually a thick mucus that covers and protects the cervix.
The fluid a woman produces when sexually excited comes from the Bartholin's glands, located on either side of the vaginal opening. I have yet to discover one shred of evidence (and believe me, I've looked) that shows this lubricating fluid to have any more hiv present than other bodily secretions such as saliva, sweat or tears. Saliva, sweat and tears are NOT infectious fluids.
So there you have it. Once the results of the serodiscordant studies started rolling in, what we know about hiv transmission on the cellular level was validated. The only people who were getting infected were those who had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. Period. One of the three studies went on for ten years and involved hundreds of couples.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME For this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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« Reply #2 on: August 13, 2013, 06:44:14 PM »
Thanks so much, Jeff, your answer has calmed down a whole lot. So there are no reported cases of infection through cunnilingus? Also, are dental dams helpful at all? I read about them in every safe-sex website but have never met anyone who's ever used it.
I have decided to get tested within 3 months of my incident, first so I can relax about this, and obviously for general health purposes.
Thank you !

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Re: Possible Risk?
« Reply #3 on: August 13, 2013, 07:00:40 PM »
Thanks so much, Jeff, your answer has calmed down a whole lot. So there are no reported cases of infection through cunnilingus? Also, are dental dams helpful at all? I read about them in every safe-sex website but have never met anyone who's ever used it.
I have decided to get tested within 3 months of my incident, first so I can relax about this, and obviously for general health purposes.
Thank you !

The only case of oral transmission via cunnilingus I remember was from a woman who claimed preforming cunnilingus led to her infection , it later turned out she was shagging a old boyfriend who turned out to be poz .

HIV infections simply do not happen from cunnilingus so you can rule it out as a risk factor and as reason to test . I do agree that HIV testing is a good thing for you to do as a sexually active person , just didn't want to leave you with the impression it was necessary in this incident .   

No need to reply , so you can save your last post if you ever have another question .   


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