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Offline PhatBob

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Am I infected after sleeping with new partner
« on: August 11, 2013, 11:40:06 PM »
Good Morning,

Yesterday I went to a massage parlour where the masseuse applied oil to my penis and then began to perform Frottage on me.
She then got up and as she got up I noticed that there was blood all over my penis and there was blood dripping from her vagina.
Some of the blood dripped onto my stomach and some on my finger.
My concerns are that I am uncircumcised and I also have a tear on the bit of skin that connects the head of the penis to the foreskin, but that has been there for years.
What would happen if the menstrual blood got underneath my foreskin or went into the urethra as there was a lot of blood? And does having a tear in the skin matter?
Would I have also noticed if my penis went into her vagina during frottage as there was oil and very slippery?
And lastly my finger where some of her blood also dripped on has a fresh cut could this be a pathway for HIV to enter?

Thank you very much for your help.

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Re: Menstrual blood exposure during Massage
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2013, 08:35:11 AM »
You didn't have a risk for HIV in that situation . HIV is a fragile virus that cant survive outside the human body , its instantly damaged and rendered unable to infect as soon as its exposed to oxygen , instantly . We are thankful HIV is such a delicate virus or we would all be in trouble .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME FOR THIS INCIDENT , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Menstrual blood exposure during Massage
« Reply #2 on: August 22, 2013, 06:53:08 PM »
Thank you for you response Jeff.
I take it that the fact that is has now been 2 weeks and I am starting to feel unwell, soar joints, mild soar throat, feverish is probably coincidence rather thatn anything else?
Again thank you for your help.

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Re: Menstrual blood exposure during Massage
« Reply #3 on: August 22, 2013, 07:07:53 PM »
You should discuss your symptoms with your doctor. You did not have a risk for HIV so even if your mind is scaring you that doesn't change the facts of your situation which was a non-risk scenario.
Andy Velez

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Re: Menstrual blood exposure during Massage
« Reply #4 on: August 22, 2013, 07:13:50 PM »
The sex you had was protected and the blood wasn't infectious once exposed to oxygen so if this is only concern then you need not worry HIV is the culprit for your illness .

I would advise you to see your doctor if you are unwell . Although you don't need to test over this incident you can do so for peace of mind , you can test at 6 weeks and again at 3 months to confirm the results if you want to .

If you haven't had a sexual health checkup in awhile now is a good of time as any to begin . I just want to assure you although you didn't have a risk testing and std screening is a good idea to have at least once a year and more often if you are having lots of sex .

When you are not armed with the facts its understandable that blood and sex is a scary combination but the truth is HIV is a fragile hard to transmit virus that has to have some very exacting conditions in order to thrive or infect .

Go get your checkup and tell your doctor you are not feeling well .   

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Am I infected after sleeping with new partner
« Reply #5 on: November 18, 2013, 10:15:22 PM »
Hi,

I have recently been dating a girl for the last month and during this time we have been performing unprotected sex as we both want to be in a monogamous relationship with each other.
My new partner has confirmed her last sexual experience was 4 months ago.  Last week to put my mind at ease she went and got a HIV and STi test which all came back negative.
Now 4 weeks after we first had unprotected sex I am starting to feel run down, soar joints, slight soar throat.
I am now worried that I may have caught HIV from her even though her test results have come back negative. 
Thank you for your help

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Re: Am I infected after sleeping with new partner
« Reply #6 on: November 19, 2013, 06:44:11 AM »
Bob,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

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You've been putting the cart before the horse. You're supposed to wait three months and test together, BEFORE having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with a new partner.

If you've never had a complete sexual health check-up, including but NOT limited to hiv testing, it's high time you did. You've been making unwise decisions and you do need to test.

We cannot possibly comment on your decision to trust what a person has told you about their sexual history, other than the fact that it's unwise to do so.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.
Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ANYONE who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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