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Offline Worried2xover

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What is my risk?
« on: August 06, 2013, 09:26:00 PM »
Dear good people:
First of all, I would like to say thank you for all the advice and answers you provide to stressed souls like me.

I am male and had an encounter with a sex worker in country where HIV is prevalent, on Jun 8. I had protected vaginal sex (condom used correctly), fingered her and engaged in prolonged deep kissing. This happened two months after I tested negative for HIV (no exposure in between the negative result and the encounter)

I gather from reading other posts in this forum that none of my activities exposed me to HIV and I probably do not need HIV testing. Nonetheless, I have been stressing over the situation for almost two months now; specifically because I do not have the healthiest of mouths: I have a badly decayed tooth in back of my mouth (the tooth next to where my wisdom tooth was) and it is abscessed and blackened. My inside cheeks are also irritated because of friction against my teeth. My mouth was not bleeding. And regarding the fingering, I had hangnails on the fingers during the session.

Please help me answer the following:

1.   Having abscessed and blackened decayed tooth, is my risk of contracting HIV by engaging in deep kissing elevated by any magnitude and should I test for HIV? (I didn’t test or smell any blood while deep kissing; just a breath of stale cigarette smoke from the girl’s mouth)

2.   Is Hangnail a concern in regards to HIV while fingering?

3.   We both had a bottle of beer each before heading to the bedroom (she also likely did smoke before our meeting); do alcohol and cigarette smoke derail the effectiveness of saliva in inhibiting HIV transmission?

4.   And finally, I noticed a swelling of my left occipital node three weeks after the encounter and also near my left ribcage under my armpit (still swollen at around 1cm) and heat bumps on my triceps that caused a burning sensation when touched, and chest muscle ache for three days. Should any of these worry me as symptoms of HIV infection?

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

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Re: What is my risk?
« Reply #1 on: August 06, 2013, 09:45:28 PM »
Hi worried

1 . Kissing isn't a risk for HIV and no one has ever been infected from kissing no matter what your oral health is . The risk factors for HIV are ...
Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

2 . Fingering isn't a risk ever .

3 . Beer and cigarettes do not effect HIV transmissions one way or the other .

4. Your symptoms are not specific to HIV and since you didn't have a risk and tested negative for HIV without other concerns or risk for HIV since your last sexual encounter you are HIV negative and do not need to test again .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Offline Worried2xover

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Re: What is my risk?
« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2013, 11:13:38 AM »
Thank you, Jeff.

Your answers ease my worries.

Just a follow up to your response...I would like to clarify that my hiv negative test was two months BEFORE my encounter. Is that how you understood it when responding?

I am also engaged to get married next year. Could you reassure that me I do not pose any hiv risk to my fiancee as a result of my encounter on Jun 8? I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I ruin her life/dreams.

Thank you.

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Re: What is my risk?
« Reply #3 on: August 07, 2013, 11:26:48 AM »
Worried,

You do not need further testing at this time because you have NOT had a risk. Your test from two months ago is still valid.

You should not be having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with ANYONE - not even your fiancée, until such time as you have both tested together for hiv and all the other STIs as well.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, FINGERING, KISSING, OR SHARING CUPS, EATING UTENSILS, CIGARETTES OR ANYTHING ELSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: What is my risk?
« Reply #4 on: August 07, 2013, 02:05:31 PM »
Thank you, Ann and Jeff.

Your answers and advise are priceless. Thank you and God be with you. Cheers.

Offline Jeff G

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Re: What is my risk?
« Reply #5 on: August 07, 2013, 02:07:39 PM »
You are welcome . Its safe to put this behind you now and move on to happy things .

 


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