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Author Topic: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(  (Read 2233 times)

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Offline Jeffreyj

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I went to my brother's last weekend for his annual Octoberfest Party. I was really excited this year because I would get to spend time with my nephew. He joined the marines as a courageous 18 y.o. just after 911. I am so proud of him. He spent 4 months over in Iraq. He served his country for 2 years.
He told me how he is now too scared to walk his dog at night. Even though he now lives in the Delaware burbs, a very safe place, he worries that he will get shot. He can't sleep at night. He had to leave several times during the party to get away from the crowd of people. He has that "stare" that they talk about that soldiers get during war....He is not the same happy go lucky kid I knew before. He is a different person, and i can only hope he can get through this. Damned it. What a shame.
I spoke at length with his girlfriend. He said he went to the VA and they treated him like dirt, and tried to get rid of him before ANY TREATMENT! I was sickened and agered beyond belief.
Surprised? No. This war was started on lies. But for God's sake, can't we at least have the decency to take care of those who have risked their lives?
His girlfriend raised hell, and got him finally to see a DR. I told her I would be there for them both, if they ever need anything.  I can scream and holler with the best of them. I believe in getting results, and thank God she does as well.
I just want to say, I'm against this ill-conceived, idiotic war. But I stand proudly behind our troops, who risk their lives for this country. Yeah, HIV sucks, but it can always be worse.
Thank you for reading. And Thanks to every US Troop.
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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #1 on: October 19, 2006, 07:26:07 PM »
Jeff,

I hope he gets the help he needs.

Alan
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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2006, 07:52:09 PM »
I'm happy your nephew made it back alive and saddened, but not surprised, that he has been affected as he has been.  I can't imagine what he's seen and experienced in Iraq but hope he can get counseling and move past the trauma.

Our "War President" has paid lip service to the courageous men and women fighting in Iraq while at the same time he's worked to slash V.A. benefits and lower the pay of soldiers and reservists fighting in this ungodly mess. 

Like you I support our troops and wish there were an easy way to bring them all home tomorrow.  Given the reality of the situation though we're stuck in this quagmire for years.

My thoughts are with your nephew.

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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #3 on: October 19, 2006, 08:08:25 PM »
Jeff,

I know how this feels, my brother in law was in Afghanistan then had to go to Iraq..he too returned not the same as he left. He is depressed, jumpy, anxiouse, and untrusting.  Every soldier is effected differently it seems. My good friend went and came back seemingly unchanged...but people handle it differently..

I hope your nephew is doing better! He is lucky to have such a supportive family!

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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #4 on: October 19, 2006, 09:02:48 PM »
Jeff... I hope he gets better...  I think allot of us can relate to the bombshell that has been dropped on us in our own way..  We all have different ways of coping with catastrophic changes in our lives, be it war, be it financial, be it loss, be it hiv/aids.   I know your Nephew needs you now just as so many others need you now for other reasons.   Take care of yourself first and whats left over share with the rest...

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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #5 on: October 19, 2006, 09:10:02 PM »
Jeff,

I will be praying for your nephew!

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Offline Jeffreyj

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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #6 on: October 19, 2006, 10:46:20 PM »
Thanks all for the sweet thoughts. Sometimes I get so angry it helps allot to vent here. I just feel so bad for all of our soldiers. I hope and pray for all of them. And, all of all. Love you guys!
 
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Offline Biggums

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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #7 on: October 20, 2006, 01:17:53 AM »
Jeff,

Hoping your nephew adjusts well.  God bless them all.
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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #8 on: October 20, 2006, 03:17:00 AM »
Jeff,

Hoping the best for your nephew and many Bright Blessings....
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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #9 on: October 20, 2006, 10:30:07 AM »
Jeff, as troubling as the after effect is right now, I'm just grateful he's back home.

And I can hardly bear the pain thinking of all those who will never return alive.

Best to you guys,
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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #10 on: October 20, 2006, 05:33:01 PM »
Being in a war must be traumatizing. I hope he gets better soon. Soul wounds are the most difficult to heal.
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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #11 on: October 20, 2006, 08:38:25 PM »
I was really excited this year because I would get to spend time with my nephew. He joined the marines as a courageous 18 y.o. just after 911. I am so proud of him. He spent 4 months over in Iraq. He served his country for 2 years.



Jeff,

And you should be proud of him. I don't even know your nephew, and I am proud of him !! I am proud of everyone that has served, or given their lives over there. I am just glad he's back home safe!

I only had to deal with the VA, once back in 1973, shortly after I got out of the military. I hope he gets the necessary care, that he deserves and is "ENTITLED TO", for putting his life on the line, And serving his time. If I understand it correctly, this administration, has not done all that much for the vets.  >:(  And there have been cuts. But your nephew needs to follow through, with the psychological care that he will need. I remember friends of mine that served in Vietnam, that just did not get that care...




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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #12 on: October 20, 2006, 09:08:41 PM »
I am sorry to hear about your nephew, and at least he is alive. Not very comforting though. This is  one of the biggest issues of this war that this so called pro military admin is cutting services.
Have you written to any one?
Being so close to election time I would see if if a local running official could help. Though I would also talk with your nephew, doing it behind his back would only intensify his feeling of anxiousness.
The problem is many soldiers don't want to feel they are being let down, maybe you can reach out to other servicemen in the same predicament .
 This is just on tv- you need to check it out;
http://www.pbs.org/wnet/air/episodes_108.html
pisode 108
Question 7

It began as a hunch in the newsroom of the HARTFORD COURANT and grew to become a major exposť of shocking mental health care practices within the American armed forces -- practices that have led soldiers to be medicated without proper oversight, redeployed despite suffering post-traumatic-stress disorder (PTSD), and ignored when showing warning signs of suicide. "Question 7" examines how two journalists revealed these failures in the U.S. military's mental healthcare system.

When the media reported in 2005 that military recruitment standards were being lowered in order to offset recruitment shortfalls, COURANT journalists Lisa Chedekel and Matt Kauffman wondered about the impact this new practice was having on the military's psychological standards. As they learned, the pre-deployment screening process is largely ineffective; soldiers are asked to complete an eight-question personal survey on which only one question, No. 7, pertains to mental health: "During the past year have you sought counseling or care for your mental health? Yes or No."

The COURANT analyzed data from more than 900,000 questionnaires and discovered that only a tiny fraction of soldiers answered "yes" to Question 7. Among those who did disclose past psychological treatment, however, nearly all were ultimately deployed.

Deeper investigation revealed that the military provides scant resources -- if any -- for people seeking mental health assistance while on active duty. One soldier featured in the COURANT's report tells AIR he was referred to a chaplain by a physician's assistant. The chaplain, he says, told him that "I would feel better once I got over to the desert and started killing people."

Among soldiers who were sent on second tours of duty -- a practice known as "recycling" -- many were suffering from PSTD, reported the Courant. Others were prescribed psychotropic drugs by the military but were receiving little or no oversight. Psychiatrist Arthur Blank, a former Vietnam field psychiatrist and past director of the Department of Veterans Affairs' counseling centers, was featured in the COURANT's report. He tells AIR, "Patients starting an antidepressant definitely need to be monitored. These drugs affect different people very differently...people need to work with a psychiatrist over time -- frequently for a few months -- in order to find the right [drug] and the right dose."

"Question 7" also interviews Paul Rieckhoff, founder and executive director of Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America (IAVA); and Air Force veteran Warren Henthorn, whose son, Army Specialist Jeffrey Henthorn, was one of 22 U.S. Army suicides in Iraq in 2005. According to the COURANT, Henthorn's trouble signs had been ignored before he took his own life.


   

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Re: Iraq: My Nephew is back, just not the same person has returned :(
« Reply #13 on: October 21, 2006, 03:09:44 AM »
He said he went to the VA and they treated him like dirt, and tried to get rid of him before ANY TREATMENT! I was sickened and agered beyond belief.
Surprised? No. This war was started on lies. But for God's sake, can't we at least have the decency to take care of those who have risked their lives?
His girlfriend raised hell, and got him finally to see a DR. I told her I would be there for them both, if they ever need anything.  I can scream and holler with the best of them.

Glad he has you in his corner Jeff. ... When I saw Born On the 4th of July I was bawling but I knew it was a true story. Horror like that can't be made-up --- -I didn't want to believe my government could be so monstrous to use people (souls! hello!) and then chuck them like paper cups.  :'( :'(  Make sure he doesn't see that movie. It ripped my (non-military) heart out  :'(  :'(

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