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May Have transmitted HIV
« on: August 01, 2013, 09:30:58 PM »
My girlfriend at the moment is showing signs of acute retroviral syndrome (ARS) after 7 weeks from an unprotected incident with me. I inserted my penis in her vagina without a condom for about 5 seconds just to see what it feels like (never had unprotected sex before), and then realized I should stop. I've had sex before with men as a bottom but I made sure the top always used a condom, and it was 3 different men of which I am unaware of their status. I've also given them oral but I've seen how your posts say that it's not likely to transmit it this way.

What is worrying me is the possibility of somehow getting HIV from those men even though they used a condom and passing it on to my girlfriend from that time of unprotected sex. She was tested a few days after the incident, the RNA test and it came back positive, but her doctor said that that is likely her lupus provided a false positive.

So 7 weeks after that test she is has swollen lymph nodes under her armpit, slight fever, rash on her face and arms, fatigue, and headaches. I'm not sure if this is ARS or a Lupus Flare since the symptoms seem very similar. She's going to the doctor tomorrow to take blood. I am very worried and do not know how I will live with myself or tell her that it's my fault. I know I should have got tested (I Haven't yet) I was just too stupid due to thinking I was safe because I practiced safe sex with everyone else.

I read that the risk is very low but is there any advice you can give me besides get tested and wait it out?

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Re: May Have transmitted HIV
« Reply #1 on: August 01, 2013, 09:49:40 PM »
The risk factors for HIV are ...
Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

If you haven't had unprotected intercourse or engaged in any of the other risk factors then you do not have HIV and couldn't have passed it on to your girlfriend .

False positive to happen with autoimmune conditions so she should follow up with a doctor or clinic who is qualified and competent in HIV testing .

You can not diagnose HIV by symptoms , testing is the only way to know your status so anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: May Have transmitted HIV
« Reply #2 on: August 01, 2013, 11:28:31 PM »
ok thanks
Now I know how you people hate hypotheticals but what is the likeliness of giving her hiv from 5 seconds of unprotected vaginal sex if I did have HIV

Sorry again This will be my last post

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Re: May Have transmitted HIV
« Reply #3 on: August 01, 2013, 11:42:38 PM »
ok thanks
Now I know how you people hate hypotheticals but what is the likeliness of giving her hiv from 5 seconds of unprotected vaginal sex if I did have HIV

Sorry again This will be my last post

I am being honest when I say there are too many variables to give odds on HIV transmission . You shared that you have always had protected intercourse , unless you have been sharing IV drug injection equipment you do not have HIV .

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« Reply #4 on: August 09, 2013, 09:55:06 PM »
Sorry I know I said that was my last post but I remebered some information. During my second time having receptive anal sex I remember hearing a slight popping sound and he realized the condom broke and we stopped right then and there. Im not sure how long after but no more than 3 weeks I also had a rash on my buttocks and arms, woke up with sweat all over my bed like it was wet, fever, fatigue, and a lump in my armpit which has never happened to me before.

Is it likely that a transmission occured when the condom broke?
this would make my transmission to her likely right?
Are there any other sti's or stds that could cause this?

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« Reply #5 on: August 09, 2013, 10:08:16 PM »
If you had unprotected anal sex then you need to test for HIV . You can do so 6 weeks past  any unprotected sex and again at 3 month to confirm the results .

The only way to know if you have HIV is to test , that's why do not discuss symptoms .
Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

If you are feeling ill go see your doc and find out what's wrong .

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Re: May Have transmitted HIV
« Reply #6 on: August 09, 2013, 10:23:08 PM »
Sorry I know I said that was my last post but I remebered some information. During my second time having receptive anal sex I remember hearing a slight popping sound and he realized the condom broke and we stopped right then and there. Im not sure how long after but no more than 3 weeks I also had a rash on my buttocks and arms, woke up with sweat all over my bed like it was wet, fever, fatigue, and a lump in my armpit which has never happened to me before.

Is it likely that a transmission occured when the condom broke?
this would make my transmission to her likely right?
Are there any other sti's or stds that could cause this?

Having a condom break while anally bottoming is indeed a risk. It is on the lower end of the scale but it is still a risk. You need to test six weeks from the time of the incident, and then at the three month period to be certain.

You should be aware that many STDs can be transmitted despite the proper use of condoms, including syphilis, chlamydia, herpes, HPV, and gonorrhea. Assuming your girlfriend is aware that you two are not in a mutually monogamous relationship, she should be routinely tested for these things (syphilis shares a three month window period with HIV) alongside yourself.

You should both be aware that many of these STDs present with miminal to no symptoms, especially in males - but can be absolutely catastrophic in females.

The symptoms you present are far too vague to pin down to any STD, but they could easiliy be syphilis. With syphilis, you could develop a chancre, a painless open sore, inside your anus and never be aware of it.

As long as you are not in a mutually monogamous relationship, you need to be wearing condoms for penetrative sex AND both be tested for STDs twice a year.

 
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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