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Risk assessment
« on: July 31, 2013, 02:16:08 PM »
Hello I've been reading through these forums for the past few days and would like a Risk assessment. I'm fairly knowledgeable when it comes to prevention of HIV transmission and wear condoms when ever anal happens, I'm circumcised and only ever active but feel I've put myself at risk.

16 days ago I was in a nightclub and got talking to someone whom I've seen about on the scene for quite a few years. I know this person only through the odd conversation. I've seen this person in a few adult films also.

I ended up going to a restroom with this person and asked my usual questions about status etc and was told they knew their status and was neg and single.

I ended up allowing this person to preform oral for several minutes on me. This ended with me going soft as i was pretty wasted and not reaching orgasm. This person however continued to masturbate and did ejaculate. I stupidly put my hand onto their penis and sucked semen off my fingers.

Now I do have a few issues orally my gums often bleed and also I get quite bad spouts of throat issues and have seen ENT specialists several times over the past few years. I have quite bad allergies also. My mouth also has a few cuts in it around the back from where I have two teeth that constantly catch on the rear of my gums.
This weekend through conversation with another friend I was informed that the person from the night club had tested pos recently and had a boyfriend who was helping them cope through it all. So blatantly lied to me on both accounts.  This person i was talking to happens to be friends with them both. Was also informed that this person is receiving disability benefits for their illness so that says to me that they have known for sometime.

I actually felt physically sick from the pit of my stomach knowing what id done. I don't take risks with unprotected anal but assumed oral was a no risk situation. I've read through these forums and seen several times that this is apparently true.

Yet I've been told recently through speaking to health officials that there is a risk and that 3% of new cases here in the UK are now accepted as being contracted through oral. Also I may have an underlining problem with an STI as for a few months I've been having burning on and off. My Dr assumed it was a UTI as its not always there and goes for several weeks at a time, I usually get checked out every 6 months and have had an antibody blood test this week as its actually been 6 months or so since my last check up.     

From the information I've acquired from other websites and health sites it states that there is a 2-5x greater risk of becoming infected if you have a suspected STI and greater so if you suffer from bleeding gums and allergies.

So my question is could I be infected, as I've said before I didn't orgasm when receiving oral, it lasted only a few mins and I sucked their semen off my fingers after I gathered it off their penis after they ejaculated.

Thanks for your help.

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Re: Risk assessment
« Reply #1 on: July 31, 2013, 02:37:11 PM »
You didnt have a risk . Getting a blow job is not a risk nor is licking cum off fingers . HIV is fragile and becomes instantly damaged and unable to infect as soon as its exposed to air , instantly .

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

You can relax now because your friend never did any thing to put you at risk . The way to acquire HIV is through . Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use , unprotected anal and vaginal sex. Mother to child during or shortly after birth and very specific healthcare situations , none of these apply to you .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV AT THIS TIME FOR THIS INCIDENT , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Risk assessment
« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2013, 02:49:21 PM »
Thanks for the reply, You've really eased my mind. As I said I do use protection when it comes to penetrative sex and get tested every 6 months currently. Wasn't sure if there was something since my last test giving the burning but should have them results within the next weeks too.

Thanks once again.

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Re: Risk assessment
« Reply #3 on: July 31, 2013, 02:55:14 PM »
Your welcome James .


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