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Offline lovelife1989

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sad fear and despair
« on: July 22, 2013, 02:04:17 PM »
first,, hello all mod ad and everybody in forum, how r u today
 sr my bad english,, im i vietnam,, a small country in asia and iam learning english ^^
today i post a my risk,, please help me with your knowlege,, please...im begging you
im a man 25 year old,, just married about 2 year,, in 4 months ago,,  I made ​​one stupid thing put me and my love family in danger,, i drunk so much and come to massage and massage staff give me a blowjob,, danger is my penis have a scratches ,, what is my risk,, if she have a blood because She recently blowjob for a man before me ,, i scare she was brushing and has blood,,i know may be you will talk no risk,, but i so scare,, you said infection only occurs in side the body,, but i think inside body vs inside mouth is the same,,if she have cut have bloods on her lip and her cut immediately expose to my scratches on penis like vaginal intercourse .. what is my risk,, how many ?  :'(
everyday every time i look at my wife and my mother,, my heart breaks ,, tearing and cry,,my wife is pregnant i just know ....i will cannot forgive myself if ....
thank and appreciate  you very muck ,, god bless you and us


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Re: sad fear and despair
« Reply #1 on: July 22, 2013, 03:25:59 PM »
Hello!

Your english is very good! I was able to completely understand your post.

You did NOT have a risk for HIV in getting a blowjob.

Saliva is NOT infectious. Saliva contains over a dozen elements which render HIV incapable of infection. It does not matter that you had scratches on your penis. No one has ever gotten HIV from getting a blowjob.

There is a slight risk of other sexually transmitted diseases, which are more robust than HIV But there is NO way you could get HIV from the event you described.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline lovelife1989

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Re: sad fear and despair
« Reply #2 on: July 23, 2013, 12:38:56 AM »
thank u so much Jkinatl2,, im so happy with your help,, but i was fighting with my mind,, i could not let it pass or give it up,, to 3 day my wife pregnancy,, what should i do ? will do i become the first infect by getting BJ ,, may be have many people infect by getting BJ in the earth have 7 billion people that they dont reported ?  cant you help me again...answer me why getting BJ not infect,, saliva not infect i know,, but if it have bloods why not it not infect because i "real" have a scratches in my penis dont like people say if..or...v.v..
I am so sorry and apologize to bother everyone with my story,,I had the worst day of my life
again,, thank u very much ,, god bless you and your family

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« Reply #3 on: July 23, 2013, 01:20:29 AM »
thank u so much Jkinatl2,, im so happy with your help,, but i was fighting with my mind,, i could not let it pass or give it up,, to 3 day my wife pregnancy,, what should i do ? will do i become the first infect by getting BJ ,, may be have many people infect by getting BJ in the earth have 7 billion people that they dont reported ?  cant you help me again...answer me why getting BJ not infect,, saliva not infect i know,, but if it have bloods why not it not infect because i "real" have a scratches in my penis dont like people say if..or...v.v..
I am so sorry and apologize to bother everyone with my story,,I had the worst day of my life
again,, thank u very much ,, god bless you and your family

Hello!

Again, I am absolutely able to understand you. Thank you for writing so clearly.

In every lab test, every documented reported case, and in following hundreds of couples through deades of research, no one has ever... EVER ... been infected through receiving a blowjob. Your scratches on your penis, while I am sure they might have been painful, are not unique.

You are absolutely and without a doubt HIV negative. You did not and can not get HIV from a blowjob.

Guilt and fear are powerful things. You have a lot happening in your life. Please do not let HIV take a superior place in your worries. No matter what else befalls you, HIV is not something you need to worry about.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: sad fear and despair
« Reply #4 on: July 23, 2013, 02:13:41 AM »
i thank u thousand times,, i felt better alot... i want say one thing,, keep your very good work  continue ,, you and all forum is the best i've ever known

 


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