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Offline Derek86

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Risk Situation?
« on: May 18, 2014, 05:43:51 PM »
Hey all, thank you very much in advance for any help provided, I appreciate it a whole lot. So, about my situation, a few weeks ago some lymph nodes in my neck swollen and I googled and eventually led to me being paranoid about HIV, despite how "low risk" my only ever encounter was.

So, around 10-11 months or a Year or so ago, I was in a tent with a girl and she was on top of me, and I fingered her for a good while. This is low risk right? My fingers are much longer than normal and might have been cut (not deeply), this doesn't affect things I presume? Ontop of this, afterwards while she was still on top, she took my penis in her hands and backed onto it (not inserting it), so my penis rubbed against her inner thigh and possible vaginal lips too, but  certainly did not penetrate her lips. I was not wearing a condom, and I touched my penis with her fluid on my hand as well. This is a low risk situation I imagine. It is my only ever sexual encounter of any nature, and I do not use needles for drugs or the like.

Anyhow, I got tested last week and have to wait another few days for my results (testing for all STIs including HIV), and I have been stressing immensely, because my girlfriend of 6 months comes back from work leave in a couple of months and this would be devastating.

In your expert opinion, is there much risk of my test coming back HIV positive? Perhaps I caught another STI and also got HIV from that? I just need some reassurance as I am struggling to sleep, eat, or function at the minute, and I am a nervous wreck. Thank you very much.

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Re: Risk Situation?
« Reply #1 on: May 18, 2014, 06:13:32 PM »
Fingering is not and never will be a way of transmitting HIV, neither is rubbing against your partners vagina without penetration.

The four main ways of HIV transmission is:

Blood
Vaginal fluids (when penetration takes place)
Semen
Breast milk.

Also sharing needles is a risk.

Please educate yourself on HIV transmissions if you are going to become sexually active, and please take responsibility for your own health by wearing condoms when the time comes.

Getting tested for all STI's is a step in the right direction, also when you start to have regular sex a check up every six months is a good idea.

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Re: Risk Situation?
« Reply #2 on: May 18, 2014, 06:35:54 PM »
Jan is correct that you did not have a risk for HIV from fingering . The risk factors for HIV are ... Unprotected anal and vaginal sex, sharing IV drug rigs after an infected person and from mother to child during or shortly after child birth . Breast milk can only be infectious to infants with developing immune systems .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! 

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Re: Risk Situation?
« Reply #3 on: May 18, 2014, 06:53:52 PM »
Oh wow, that is a huge relief. By the sounds of this my test will go along fine then. That is a load off of my mind guys, thank you so much. Have great days and the very best of luck in the future, I feel much more educated on the matter after reading the information posted here.

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Re: Risk Situation?
« Reply #4 on: May 18, 2014, 06:59:16 PM »
You're welcome !

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Re: Risk Situation?
« Reply #5 on: May 19, 2014, 03:24:05 AM »

I have been stressing immensely, because my girlfriend of 6 months comes back from work leave in a couple of months and this would be devastating.


You and your girlfriend should have both had complete sexual health check ups before you two stopped using condoms. I presume you don't use condoms with her, otherwise you would not have any worries about transmitting hiv to her.

You need to realise that ANYONE could have hiv and protect yourself accordingly by using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until you're in a mutually monogamous relationship where you have tested TOGETHER.

Many people end up hiv positive in committed relationships, for the simple fact that people don't test as often as they should and unknowingly become infected, then unwittingly pass it on to their partner years later. Simple condom use before testing together could avoid this type of heartbreak.

And by the way, a negative test for you is meaningless when it comes to your girlfriend's hiv status. I was with an hiv negative partner for eighteen months before I was diagnosed and he remained hiv negative. With hindsight I knew I had been infected during a previous relationship and had been poz for about four years prior to diagnosis. Condoms were not used in either relationship (before my diagnosis). So what I've told you above I've learned the hard way.

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Re: Risk Situation?
« Reply #6 on: May 19, 2014, 09:32:24 AM »
Thanks Ann! Using my final message just to send this to clarify.

It's a tricky situation but for various reasons, my girlfriend and I did not have sex (of any description) before she had to leave for a couple of months. This is due to her health and depression that she was facing. So with that, I have never had "sex", oral or penetrative, ever.  What I was more worried about was, having to cope with such a problem right as it was meant to be happy for her return.

I truly appreciate your advice, I really do, and of course I will be using a condom for certain when we do have sex, because as you mention, it could be entirely possible that she does have Hiv. So with that in mind I will be using condoms until she is tested (which I will recommend to her). Thank you so much, Ann.

A call from the doctor regarding a blood test (for a different issue) I took last month, stating I need another in a month due to "slightly out of range" white blood cell counts and thyroid (?) issues, needless to say this has left me extremely worried regarding my STI results due soon and HIV in particular. Sigh... You guys seem confident that I will test negative, so I have taken high spirits from that. Despite knowing that my event was a "no risk" situation I can't help but fear the worst. But I will just think back to the messages here and seek comfort until I hopefully test negative

Thank you all for your help and advice regarding everything, it has helped my stressed mind beyond believe. Truly, thank you

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« Reply #7 on: May 19, 2014, 09:41:11 AM »
Derek,

If you've never had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse and have never shared drug injecting equipment, then you've never had a risk for hiv infection.

In adults, hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal intercourse.
Unprotected vaginal intercourse.
Sharing drug injecting equipment.

And that's it.

When you do start having anal or vaginal intercourse, use a condom until such time as you are in a mutually monogamous relationship and have tested hiv negative together.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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