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Require Risk assessment
« on: July 10, 2013, 03:39:50 PM »
Hii All
I have read your forum and wish to have risk assessment on my following case

I am  working in UAE since 1 year. Actually my problem is something odd for which I would seek your guidance.


On October 25 2012, I had slept with a prostitute from Kazakhstan (23 years old) in UAE, Before Sex I did brushed and cleaned my teeth. It was approximate 45 to 30 min before the sex. When the lady arrived, we had kissing and I went to buy condoms. I took condoms and came back. So In this way we had protective sex. After 1-2 shots (Intercourses), lady said if you want blow job with extra money without condom, I will do it for extra money. I got Blow job but i did not ejaculated, Later I finished with protective sex. I don't know the status of this girl. I met her recently and asked about this in detail. She confirmed me that she is clean and she never does sex without condom.  She used to do the blow job for money but never get ejaculations inside. She added that she is using some pharmaceutical products to clean body and mouth. Usually take bath after sex and full clean after sex. She carries with her sometime. She also had boyfriend. She said she had a kid of 5 years old. She still in contact with me.

I would like to know is this encounter will be risky in terms of Blow Job ?  Kissing after during sex  or casual kissing after brush can invite risk of infection ?


2nd Incident, I had sex with a Russian lady. A Fully Protective sex, She never allowed to kiss on lips. During the sex I Smooched/kissed her vagina. She confirmed no problem. She is also in contact with me.

But now I am paranoid with the thought of getting commitment.     


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1. I had donated my Blood on 12-Dec-2012  (approximately 7 weeks after 1st encounter) in UAE only. Here If you found any infection, deportation is sure.

2. I had my medical check up done on 2nd June 2013. however they didn't done HIV, They did VDRL which was negative and other tests.

3. So far I don't feel any symptoms and that girl too. She came almost 9 months back. 


waiting for your reply. I am really worried and paranoid with the thought of testing also. I am getting dreams of deportation. I took huge loan in this country.

I will have VISA test to be done in September 2014 or may be early

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Re: Require Risk assessment
« Reply #1 on: July 10, 2013, 03:52:07 PM »

Getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Kissing is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. Not one person has ever been infected through kissing or getting blowjobs and you are not going to be the first.

Protected intercourse is just that - protected against hiv. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER KISSING, BLOWJOBS, CUNNILINGUS OR PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Require Risk assessment
« Reply #2 on: July 30, 2013, 12:31:34 PM »
Dear Ann,

Thank you for your reply however i have few more doubts.

1. Suppose i did brush few minutes before sex and got blood during brushing. then after few minutes i had kissing (say 15 to 20 min). is it a risk ?

2. I had one more experience, that i got my condom broken while inserting into vagina when i had sex with an kenian woman. I  know recognised suddenly ( within few seconds) and got removed broken condom and replaced it. is it a risk ?

appreciate if your respond.


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Re: Require Risk assessment
« Reply #3 on: July 30, 2013, 12:38:51 PM »
Kissing isn't a risk , ever . As for the broken condoms ... The risk for the insertive partner is significantly lower than it is for the receptive partner. And we are talking about a single incident of relatively short duration. All of those are factors which make for a very low risk situation . I haven't seen a case where a broken condom led to an infection in the situation you describe .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs , if it makes you feel better simply go test .

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Re: Require Risk assessment
« Reply #4 on: August 01, 2013, 04:57:18 PM »
Thank you Jeff
I got one more doubt...what if i kiss vagina and swallow the kiss ? Is it risky considering infection of hiv?

I had a VDRL, Hepatitis A and B test done after 7 months of this encounter. and I had donated blood in UAE afert 7 weeks of unprotected Blow Job. In UAE or everywhere blood goes under testing and screening for HIV infection. However in UAE, the report goes to government and government ensures the deportation procedure. So far 8 months completed and nobody informed me that means my results are negative. So should i make ya woooo for Blood tests after 7 weeks ?

Appreciate your help and response.

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Re: Require Risk assessment
« Reply #5 on: August 01, 2013, 05:13:06 PM »
Cunnilingus is NOT a risk for HIV , no has ever been infected from preforming cunnilingus so you have no worry's .

These are the only risk factors for HIV ...

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

You didn't have a risk to begin with so if you are still wondering and worrying about your status simply go test and get your negative result .


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