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Concerned, should I be?
« on: July 07, 2013, 02:19:03 PM »
Had unprotected oral and vaginal with an white English girl on holiday. This was 1 month ago. 5 days later my tongue went white and has remained so since, I've had 1 ulcer as well. I've also been suffering from frequent urination up to 20 times a day but that has eased. I was tested for all std's at 1 week, and in the day they found high levels of urethral bacteria but then the results all come back negative. Tested again at 4 weeks, all results negative but waiting for HIV result next week. Had some sore throats, drowsiness although some of that may be down to my guilt and anxiety issues.

I guess what I'm asking is should I be worried about HIV based on my symptoms? Permanent white tongue for a month that doesn't scrape off and nystatin or mouthwash does nothing. Frequent urination, some drowsiness and sore throat at times. Very worried as I've clearly had something wrong but got no answers, also been tested for diabetes and that was a no.

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Re: Concerned, should I be?
« Reply #1 on: July 07, 2013, 02:39:25 PM »
Also, what are my chances of being unlucky? She's white, 18 and told me I was her 3rd partner and the other 2 were protected (don't know whether to believe that) and it was 1 night only

Just trying to get some rationality, I clearly have and have had problems since this encounter yet 4 weeks down the line I'm not closer to knowing what it is and am awaiting a HIV test result

I did have a normal blood test for diabetes which tested various different things, would any abnormality from HIV have shown somewhere?

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Re: Concerned, should I be?
« Reply #2 on: July 07, 2013, 02:48:29 PM »
Hi Anon , the oral wasn't a risk but the unprotected vaginal sex was , so you will need to be tested . Your symptoms are not specific to HIV and could be from anything , so the thing to do is test for HIV at the appropriate time .

You can test 6 weeks past any possible exposure and then again at 3 months to confirm the results . Testing is the only way to know your HIV status , not symptoms .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!   

You used up a question on a irrelevant question ... You cant judge your HIV status by that of someone else . If you must know , using your logic you are just as likely to give her HIV or an STD as she is you , so get tested and use condoms next time .

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Re: Concerned, should I be?
« Reply #3 on: July 07, 2013, 03:19:24 PM »
Thank you for the reply.

I am getting tested and it was a mistake I will never make again.

I guess my concern is that I have these problems and I have been tested twice at 1 week and 4 weeks for chlamydia, ghonarea and all the other std's and im just waiting for my blood results at 4 weeks back

the white tongue particularly concerns me as I have read a lot about it linked with HIV.

my concern is that at present I cant put it down to anything else, its not another std, or diabetes and all my results from the normal blood tests (where they did the diabetes check amongst others) came back fine

im worried and after some reassurance, or not as the case may be

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Re: Concerned, should I be?
« Reply #4 on: July 07, 2013, 03:37:19 PM »
You are welcome Anon . Just remember to test at the appropriate time for HIV and that's 6 weeks post exposure and again at 3 months to confirm it .

As for your symptoms , its amazing how many people have all the symptoms that fit HIV up until they test HIV negative and then the symptoms vanish over night . Don't make the mistake of blaming every ache and pain on a virus you probably do not have , its going to make for a miserable life until its time to test again if you do this  . Find things to do between now and then you enjoy doing instead of Googling HIV symptoms and upsetting yourself .       


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