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Offline atlguy29

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New to board, risk question
« on: October 18, 2006, 12:21:11 PM »
Hello everyone, first I want to thank you guys for the excellent information you provide us.  This is my first post but I have been trying to educate myself on here for awhile.  Now for my encounter, Im 29 yo male, last week I had sex with an female escort.  She provided the condom and started out performing oral on me followed by having intercourse which lasted probably five minutes all protected.  After it was over I withdrew and the condom was still on no visible tears or anything, so i took it off and disposed of it.  Now after four-five days it feels that my uretha is burning not so much when I urinate just at rest.  I realize that it may just be feeling guilty for what Ive done but I feel I took the right measures to protect myself.  My qustion is first do you think I was protected against hiv and second is it possible I could have contacted another form of std?  And also is it possible I could have some allergic reaction to the condom cause the slight burning?  I dont want to seem like a bad worry well as Ive read tons of posts on here I just want to get your professional advise.  I feel out of all the websites Ive read you guys have the most knowledge on here.  Thanks again for what you do.

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2006, 02:09:59 PM »
As far as HIV is concerned you weren't at risk. You used a condom which is exaclty what you're supposed to do. They provide very effective protection.

Have you ever had an allergic response previously to a condom? Some men are allergic to latex,which is the kind of condom most commonly used.

A blow job is not a risk for HIV.

If your symptoms persist you should discuss them with your doctor. There are other STDs which are much easier to get than HIV.

This is not an HIV situation as far as I can tell from what you have reported.
Andy Velez

Offline atlguy29

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #2 on: October 18, 2006, 05:17:41 PM »
Thanks Andy for the reply, which other stds could I have been exposed to while wearing a condom?  I cant really remember being allergic to any latex condom in the past, hopefully its just my nerves because this is the first time with a escort and I have been beating myself up for it.

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #3 on: October 21, 2006, 08:35:44 AM »
Ok, its been eight days after my encounter with an escort with a condom.  My penis head is still burning slightly and now my testicles ache a little, gonna go asap and get the whole std check up.  But know I'm starting to get worried about hiv again.  I know a condom was used the whole time but if I contacted chlamydia or gonn (theclap) sorry for spelling couldn't I be at risk of hiv as well.  I took this well up until now, but anxiety is setting in and I'm really worried.  Any information is very appreciated.

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #4 on: October 21, 2006, 08:42:18 AM »
Oh yea one more question, what about the skin at the base of your penis where the condom stops, would it be possible to come in contact with hiv there or on your testicles if you had maybe small abrasions or something?

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #5 on: October 21, 2006, 10:18:08 AM »
alt,

The transmission of chlamydia and/or gonorrhea is quite different from hiv. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus, while the others are robust, easily transmitted bacterias.

You did NOT have a risk of hiv infection in what you describe. Not even with abrasions not covered by the condom. Hiv needs to bump into very specific types of cells in your body before it can infect. These types of cells are not present in superficial cuts or abrasions.

These cells are found down inside your urethra and this is why you must ensure you are wearing a condom before inserting your penis into an anus or vagina.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #6 on: October 28, 2006, 09:53:52 AM »
Well, I went to the doctor and told him my symptoms, slight burning, testicles aching.  So they did a urine sample and said it was fine that they would send it off for a culture.  Anyway he went ahead and treated me with a antibiotic doxycycline 7 days 100mg just in case.  I told him about the encounter he doubted any type of std where it was protected and also said that I probably would have seen some discharge as well.  That usually if you have some sort of bacteria std such as chlamydia or gonorrhea you would know it.  So as of now I am taking the doxycycline so I m hoping that takes care of my symptoms and puts my mind at ease about hiv and this whole encounter.  One more thing if the urine sample does come back that it was gonorrhea will I need to go back and get a different antibiotic? as Ive read the doxycycline is mainly for chlamydia.  And if one of those STDs came in contact with my urethra with a condom couldn't hiv as well?  And do you suggest a hiv at six weeks.  Thank you again Andy and Ann for all your help and advice. 

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« Reply #7 on: October 28, 2006, 11:08:58 AM »
alt,

If your urine sample comes back showing any pathogen, then I'm sure the doctor will take the appropriate steps to make sure it is taken care of. This is something to discuss with him, if and when the time comes.

As I said to you in a previous post, the transmission of chlamydia and/or gonorrhea is quite different from hiv. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus, while the others are robust, easily transmitted bacterias. Hiv is very sensitive to its environment, while the others are not. They can be transmitted outside the body while hiv cannot. It can take something as simple as transfering infected fluids from the other person to your own body via the hands. This does NOT happen with hiv. Hiv needs to be transmitted INSIDE the body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse.

You also need to know that while your doctor is correct in saying that gonorrhea and chlamydia usually have symptoms, it is altogether possible to NOT have symptoms yet have the infection. It is also possible to get these infections in the throat (via oral sex) but not have symptoms. If you engage in oral sex, it would be a good idea to include a throat swab in your routine sexual health check-ups.

While you do not need to test for hiv over this specific incident, please re-read my earlier comments about routine sexual health care check-ups.

Ann
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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #8 on: November 01, 2006, 08:59:29 PM »
Ok I got a call from my doctor today saying my urine test came back normal, no gonorrhea or chlamydia.  So that really eased my mind.  This past three weeks has been crazy, I really didn't think I would let this encounter get to me the way it has.  I kelp telling myself I used protection dont worry, well I guess the guilt set in on what I had done, which was cheated on my wife with a sex worker.  Then all these what ifs started coming in my mind and started driving me crazy.  What if I give her something was the worst, which I have abstained from sex til I went to the doctor to get tested for STDs.  So now do you guys think its safe to resume sex with my wife which has been unprotected for the last four years or should I wait to test for hiv?  Again everything was protected, the sex worker put the condom on me, no tears breaks anything like that and this has been the only encounter I have had.

  I just wanted to tell you guys thanks again, you have been the only one I have told this to.  And any of you guys that are reading this and thinking about going out and messing around behind your partners back please think twice, its not worth it believe me.  So Ill wait for your response and then Ill try and put this behind me and move on.  You are special people, keep educating all of us we really appreciate it.

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #9 on: November 01, 2006, 09:12:36 PM »
Why would you have an HIV test when you had protected sex? Is there something you have not told us about? Protected sex means exactly what it says, PROTECTED. You don't need an HIV test.

Offline atlguy29

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #10 on: November 07, 2006, 08:06:06 AM »
Yes it was protected but my worry is I have no ideal what kind of condom it was, she provided it as well as put it on me.  I have read that lambskin and condoms that contain n-9 doesnt protect against hiv.  This lady is an escort so Im hopeing she uses the safest condoms and knows what she is doing.  What are your thoughts on this?

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« Reply #11 on: November 07, 2006, 08:39:45 AM »
atl,

Why would a sex worker use condoms that wouldn't protect her? Besides, lambskin condoms are difficult to find and expensive when you do manage to track them down.

Condoms with N-9 in the lube still protect against hiv. However, the N-9 may irritate the RECEPTIVE partner's genitals and if a condom breaks and the INSERTIVE partner is positive, the RECEPTIVE partner MAY be at increased risk due to the irritation. Unless you were the receptive partner in this incident, N-9 doesn't concern you.

Did you bother to read through the condom and lube links in my signature line like I asked you to previously? If you haven't - get reading.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #12 on: November 15, 2006, 03:14:50 AM »
Well, I still was not able to put this behind me so I went for a hiv test last Thursday, it had been about a year and a half since my last test so I figured I would get tested to ease my mind.  So now Im really frecking out and scared to get the results because they have always told me at the place where I got tested two days for the result if negative five days if positive I have been by there every day and my results are still not in.  I know this to be true because in the past Ive always gotten my negative results back in two days, now its going on five days.  So now Im a total mess, Im thinking back as far as a year now about my possible exposers which are about three encounters at message parlers in which ALL where protected.  Prtected oral and vaginal intercourse.  As much as I wanted to feel confident about my exposers because they all were protected is lost now.  Dont know how to tell wife because I probably have infected her as well.  Cant sleep, just needed to tell you guys, I need some support.  The lady told me the results should sure be in Wednesday, I wanna go and pick them up but am really scared.  Btw in all three occasions no broken or tore condoms.

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« Reply #13 on: November 15, 2006, 05:53:42 AM »
alt,

Stop trying to read things into the delay. We're in the thick of cold and flu season so it could be something as simple as the lab running understaffed. Chill out.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: New to board, risk question
« Reply #14 on: November 15, 2006, 09:22:16 AM »
Thanks ann for the reply, so do you still think my chances are good in getting a negative result? 

So basically the most important thing is condoms cover the urethra and that even if I shave the base of my penis and testicles I still am protected even if I get vaginal fluids down there correct?

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« Reply #15 on: November 15, 2006, 09:26:46 AM »
alt,

I'm fully expecting a negative result.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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