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Author Topic: Risk level from Frottage and cut?  (Read 2399 times)

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Offline dave313131

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Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« on: July 08, 2014, 12:13:34 AM »
Hello there,
About three months ago, I made a big mistake and I had oral sex with a stranger I met online. We had unprotected oral sex where I gave him a blow job and he ejaculated in my mouth. I am so worried over this incident that my life is not enjoyable anymore. I will be going to get tested this week and so nerve wrecked. My question is, how likely is it that I got HIV from this incident. Two to three weeks prior, I had a temporary crown inserted. I don't believe I was bleeding at the time of the sexual encounter. Another question I have is, how exactly do we know that HIV through oral is a small risk? I have heard of studies of a positive and negative couples but isn't it likely that the positive have controlled viral loads? Is that why these studies don't produce any case of transmission?

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Re: HIV transmission through oral sex and swallowing?
« Reply #1 on: July 08, 2014, 09:13:05 AM »
You can relax Dave, you are not going to test positive for HIV from giving a BJ . The risk for sexually transmitted HIV comes from unprotected anal and vaginal sex and not Blow Jobs .
If you do test it will be negative and for peace of mind only . 

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


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Re: HIV transmission through oral sex and swallowing?
« Reply #2 on: July 08, 2014, 06:11:07 PM »
Thank you for the reply :), just one last thing I forgot to mention, earlier that day we jacked off and we both cummed on our own stomachs. He then used a towel to clean himself up but then passed me his towel to clean myself up. Later that day I realized that I had a pimple on my stomach that I popped a week ago from the incident and I might have rubbed the towel with his cum. My pimple wasn't bleeding at the time. Does this pose a risk?

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Re: HIV transmission through oral sex and swallowing?
« Reply #3 on: July 08, 2014, 06:17:07 PM »
HIV is transmitted from ...
Unprotected anal or vaginal sex .
Mother to child during or shortly after childbirth .
Sharing IV drug rigs immediately after an infected person .

You can't get HIV from pimples and cum ... seriously, use condoms for anal and vaginal sex correctly and consistently and you avoid HIV .... its so simple .

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Re: HIV transmission through oral sex and swallowing?
« Reply #4 on: July 08, 2014, 07:22:07 PM »
Why thank you Jeff :) I'm going to get tested tomorrow but it will be 80 days since the incident. Is this the right time to get tested or should I wait a bit more? I think I will go tomorrow, would the results of 80 days be conclusive if I test negative?

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Re: HIV transmission through oral sex and swallowing?
« Reply #5 on: July 08, 2014, 07:38:12 PM »
You have not had a risk to test for so if this your only concern the you can test any day now for a conclusive result .

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« Reply #6 on: March 12, 2015, 01:19:28 AM »
Hi, last night I met a man that I met online and he performed frottage on me. The thing that has me worried is that I had a lot of anal itch( not sure why exactly) and do bleed sometimes around the outer anus. I'm worried that the guy performed frottage while I was bleeding because I felt some irritation when he did do it. I told him I wanted him to use a condom but for some reason, I let him continue since he told me frottage is very safe but I was too embarrassed to tell him about my anal  problems I have. He did then use a condom when we did anal sex. I noticed that he did not precum much is that a good sign? He told me he tested negative for HIV.

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #7 on: March 12, 2015, 01:36:37 AM »
Frottage is not risk for HIV, you had protected anal sex so you are good to go.
 
HIV infected blood has to get into the blood stream in order to infect, this did not happen in your case.

Just remember to use condoms at all times.

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #8 on: March 12, 2015, 02:22:19 AM »
What about the fact that I might have had a cut and he put his penis directly on the cut I think?

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #9 on: March 12, 2015, 04:18:39 AM »
The answer is still the same..no risk.

When we talk about cuts we are talking about large open cuts, cuts that need attention, again this wasn't the case.

If you continue to be sexually active then please read the lessons on how HIV is and is not transmitted

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #10 on: March 13, 2015, 01:59:31 AM »
Should I get tested for this then? When I used toilet paper, my cut was bleeding a little bit .
Also, I did oral sex on him and I had an irritation on my tongue and might have been bleeding a little bit. Was I at risk for this?

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #11 on: March 13, 2015, 02:14:55 AM »
You do not need to test as you never had a risk.

Joe

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #12 on: March 13, 2015, 05:08:46 PM »
what if I had a cut on my tongue, bleeding gums earlier that day, and i think I might have had a throat infection... would I be at risk with all those things I had?

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #13 on: March 13, 2015, 05:27:23 PM »
what if I had a cut on my tongue, bleeding gums earlier that day, and i think I might have had a throat infection... would I be at risk with all those things I had?

We are not here to play "what ifs".  No matter how you try and change the facts you DID NOT HAVE A RISK AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST.

Joe

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #14 on: March 16, 2015, 09:59:51 PM »
Hi, the guy from last week that I had frottage, made out with and protected anal sex but says he is really sick. Does this mean anything?

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #15 on: March 16, 2015, 10:16:18 PM »
also the guy rimmed me could that make him sick? I had an itchy anus at the time ...

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #16 on: March 16, 2015, 10:23:36 PM »
As you have been told repeatedly, you did not have a risk for HIV. And that still holds true.

But now it's time to say if you keep returning about this same non-risk incident with more doubts and worries, you are going to find yourself getting a Time Out for 28 days.

You did not have a risk. Cut it out and get on with your life.
Andy Velez

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #17 on: March 16, 2015, 10:44:44 PM »
but could he have gotten sick from other std's ? I'm now worried I might of given him something and I don't know it I feel really bad now Im sure I have something in my anus with this itch and I need to get tested asap for everything.

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #18 on: March 16, 2015, 10:50:17 PM »
Other STDs are much easier to contract than HIV.  Consult your doctor for a full STD screening, because if you have something, it is not HIV, as you never had a risk.

Joe

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Re: Risk level from Frottage and cut?
« Reply #19 on: March 16, 2015, 11:14:33 PM »
If you continue to be sexually active then the responsible thing to do is to have STI checks on a regular basis, for your safety and those of your sexual partners.

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