Quantcast

Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
Newsletters
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr Instagram
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Username:
Password:
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
March 30, 2015, 12:48:56 AM

Login with username, password and session length


Members
Stats
  • Total Posts: 659776
  • Total Topics: 50593
  • Online Today: 191
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online
Users: 5
Guests: 160
Total: 165

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

IMPORTANT UPDATE
Posted Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" POZ forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all POZ and AIDSmeds pages, including our "How is HIV Transmitted?" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" lessons, will remain accessible to all. 

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: Unprotected oral with stranger  (Read 818 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline swimmerboy

  • Standard
  • New Member
  • Posts: 2
Unprotected oral with stranger
« on: March 06, 2015, 06:34:17 AM »
Hey, so the thing is, about 2 months ago, I hooked up with a stranger on Craigslist and we gave each other oral. I have read that giving oral sex has only been found to be a 'theoretical' or 'exceedingly low' risk of HIV infection, but I am still freaking out with panic.

About 30 minutes before having oral sex, I brushed my teeth and there was a bit of blood from my gums. I have heard of this to be a factor that increases the risk of getting HIV, but I was not aware of this at the time.

There was no ejaculation in my mouth, and I from what I remember, there was very little precum on his glans when he pulled his penis out, if any at all. This guy claimed very confidently that he's disease-free, and is a stickler for hygiene himself.

But assuming that he may have been HIV positive, could there even be a minute chance that I may have contracted HIV? I have tried diagnosing myself from "HIV symptoms" off Google, and there may have been some similarity like a mild cold, burning legs etc, but these may have been caused by other factors. However, the prospect of getting HIV is really freaking me out. This has been my only real sexual encounter, and the slightest similarity I detect between Google's HIV symptoms and my own bodily manifestations makes me anxious. Please help!

Cheers.

Offline Andy Velez

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 26,150
Re: Unprotected oral with stranger
« Reply #1 on: March 06, 2015, 08:36:19 AM »
You are worring needlessly. Receiving oral is absolutely no risk for HIV. And you would have to have a freshly yawning open wound in your mouth or hideous gum disease to have even the possiblity of risk from giving oral.

Transmission just doesn't happen that way. Your saliva has over a dozen enzymes and proteins which form a very effective barrier against the transmission of viable HIV.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern on your part. You can of course if you wish get tested for your peace of mind and collect the inevitable negative result. But it's really not necessary. Get on with your life. And just make sure that you always use condoms for vaginal or anal intercourse. Unprotected intercourse is the only confirmed risk for the sexual transmission of HIV.
Andy Velez

Offline swimmerboy

  • Standard
  • New Member
  • Posts: 2
Re: Unprotected oral with stranger
« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2015, 02:50:20 AM »
You are worring needlessly. Receiving oral is absolutely no risk for HIV. And you would have to have a freshly yawning open wound in your mouth or hideous gum disease to have even the possiblity of risk from giving oral.

Transmission just doesn't happen that way. Your saliva has over a dozen enzymes and proteins which form a very effective barrier against the transmission of viable HIV.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern on your part. You can of course if you wish get tested for your peace of mind and collect the inevitable negative result. But it's really not necessary. Get on with your life. And just make sure that you always use condoms for vaginal or anal intercourse. Unprotected intercourse is the only confirmed risk for the sexual transmission of HIV.

Dear Andy,

Thank you for your reply. It's made me feel a lot better.
I'm still trying to come to terms with how this isn't an issue at all and I should just get on with my life. Those "symptoms" still seem to haunt me every now and then (especially the burning and throbbing limbs). I've read that symptoms go away 6 weeks after the contact (and they seemed to have disappeared precisely at the 6 week mark from what I recall - which is another cause of [albeit needless] concern for me).
But I have heard that anxiety and panic can also trigger physical changes, so hopefully they're in no way related to the actual contact itself.
I will definitely use protection in future sexual encounters just to be safe. This ordeal, even if completely harmless, was just too much to handle for me.

Cheers.

Offline Andy Velez

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 26,150
Re: Unprotected oral with stranger
« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2015, 08:45:20 AM »
Sounds to me like you are being pretty harsh on yourself about this incident.

Fortunately there was no risk for HIV as I have said previously. If you can't let go of your feelings about it, you might see a therapist and talk things out in a safe setting.

We can't help you with that in this setting.
Andy Velez

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2015 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.