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Author Topic: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.  (Read 1246 times)

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Hi everyone, I'm a gay from Vietnam, sorry about my bad English and my long post, but im really worry and cannot get it out of my mind, so please help. My situation is:
1, i have a boyfriend for 5 years, the last time we had xxx is on April 02 (with condom but before that he frottage me around my butthole) and then he told me that he is H+. I took a Combo p24 test on May 13 (after xxx 41 days) and a rapid test on June 07 (after xxx 66 days) and both are negative. From April 02 to May 13 we were hangout a couple time but no xxx, just go out, have lunch... I cannot remember if we kissed or not. The last time we hang out is on May 08 (to the cinema and drink the same cup of coca). Can i believe on my tests above?
2, i met a man on June 11, no oral sex, no anal sex, only handjob and only I cumming out (his cannot "stand up"). But can i be at risk if my penis touch his skin? If there are any pimple? Bleeding pimple?
Thank you so much. Hope to hearing from u soon.

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Re: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.
« Reply #1 on: June 18, 2013, 03:57:11 PM »
At no time did you have a risk of contracting HIV.

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Re: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.
« Reply #2 on: June 18, 2013, 04:10:25 PM »
You are at NO RISK so long as you use a condom for anal and vaginal sex.

A pimple on his skin is not a risk.

Rubbing your penis on him, or he on you, is not a risk.

Kissing is not a risk.

Sharing a soda is not a risk.

Your ONLY risk is having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, and since you did not do any of those things, you were NEVER at risk for HIV.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.
« Reply #3 on: June 19, 2013, 05:36:48 AM »
You are at NO RISK so long as you use a condom for anal and vaginal sex.

A pimple on his skin is not a risk.

Rubbing your penis on him, or he on you, is not a risk.

Kissing is not a risk.

Sharing a soda is not a risk.

Your ONLY risk is having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, and since you did not do any of those things, you were NEVER at risk for HIV.

Thank you so so so much for your reply. Im still a little anxious. Do you think that I can trust my results or I need another test for both situation above. Thank you again.

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Re: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.
« Reply #4 on: June 19, 2013, 06:22:27 AM »
Td,

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. Your negative results are conclusive.

You do NOT have hiv.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.
« Reply #5 on: June 19, 2013, 08:55:25 AM »
Td,

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. Your negative results are conclusive.

You do NOT have hiv.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

OMG, THANK YOU SO MUCH. I FEEL A LOT BETTER NOW. BUT SORRY FOR THIS DUMB QUESTION. WHY AND HOW CAN I TRUST MY RESULTS? Is this period of time (p24/antibody combo test at week 7 and rapid test at week 10 from xxx) enough?

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Re: Please give me some advice in this situation. I am so worry now.
« Reply #6 on: June 19, 2013, 10:10:35 AM »
Td,

You can trust your results because YOU DID NOT HAVE A RISK for hiv infection.

NO RISK = NO INFECTION.

You do NOT have hiv.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

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