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Offline Twiottle

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Risk From Sex With HIV+ Guy On Medication
« on: December 02, 2013, 07:27:07 PM »
I've known my friend for the past 4 years.  When we started having sex he was negative.  Last year, he tested positive.  After he became infected I stopped having sex with him.  I knew the risk was low, but it still felt awkward to me.  Last night, we had sex and now I'm worrying about the little details. 

1) Before we met up, I used Listerine before brushing my teeth.  Then I used scope.  This is my normal routine, but now with him, it makes me think twice.  Would this make me more susceptible to getting hiv from sucking him?  The Listerine does a deep cleaning, but maybe it also leaves the gums a bit irritated, giving an entry point for HIV?

2) After it was over I noticed I had two scrapes on one of my fingers.  I have no idea how it happened.  I guessing either the lube cap did it or ripping open the condom?  Regardless, they were there and they were fresh.  The scrapes happened sometime during sex.  I fingered him a bit.  If I fingered him with that finger (most likely happened), was that a risk?

3) And this is the one I'm most worried about.  His room was lit dark, so I didn't notice this till it was over.  He had a rash on the side of his chest.  During sex I touched / rubbed him all over.  So, I must have touched the rash.  Are these HIV rashes contagious?  There is a chance the scraped finger touched one of the rashes.  Part of the rash almost looked like it had a scab on it.  It was very nasty looking.  Was I at risk?

I'm sorry to say this, but I'm kinda traumatized over the rash / scab.  I feel bad, but I don't think I can ever have sex with him ever again.  And, do to this experience, I might never have sex with another hiv+ person ever again.  I was safe, used condoms, but I did suck him without using a condom.   I'm curious about HIV rashes.  How often do they appear?  Do HIV+ people often get rashes?  Before last night, I was very open to having sex with an HIV+ person.  I felt that if they took their medication everyday that they would live a normal lifespan and it would all be fine.  I know a different HIV+ person and he told me that he takes his meds and forgets he has it.  That he feels healthy and exactly the same as when he was neg.  That's how I pictured it to be, but seeing the rashes on my friend after sex traumatized me.  Do rashes appear often?  People focus on the fact that meds keep you alive to live a normal lifespan, but living with getting those type of rashes often must be extremely difficult.  In a way, this was a positive experience because now more than ever I will be extremely picky over who I'm with.  I don't know if I'll ever trust anyone with bareback sex.

Also, for those of you here that try to scare people into safe sex.  Most of those people that think "HIV is not a big deal anymore, you just take a few pills each day and you feel fine," for those people, show them pics of HIV rashes.  That will change their minds.  The side effects of having HIV is a topic that hardly ever gets talked about, that will scare most people.  It definitely scared me, to the point that I almost feel traumatized.  I don't know if I ever again will be able to have sex with an HIV+ person.  I feel bad for saying that, but its how I feel right now.

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Re: Risk From Sex With HIV+ Guy On Medication
« Reply #1 on: December 02, 2013, 07:39:37 PM »
The risk factors for sexually acquiring HIV is unprotected vaginal or anal sex , so you did not have a risk in the slightest . The rash your friend has probably has nothing to do with HIV and even if it did you were not at risk from touching or kissing it even if it was HIV related .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Risk From Sex With HIV+ Guy On Medication
« Reply #2 on: December 02, 2013, 07:43:28 PM »
Thank you, your reply was helpful.  But, you didn't really answer the HIV rash question.   After it was over, I googled HIV rash and read that most HIV+ people experience HIV rash and other skin conditions.  Do these type of rashes happen often?  For the HIV+ people here, how often have you guys experienced the rashes?

I get tested at least every 6 months, sometimes every 3 months.

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Re: Risk From Sex With HIV+ Guy On Medication
« Reply #3 on: December 02, 2013, 07:54:33 PM »
Thank you, your reply was helpful.  But, you didn't really answer the HIV rash question.   After it was over, I googled HIV rash and read that most HIV+ people experience HIV rash and other skin conditions.  Do these type of rashes happen often?  For the HIV+ people here, how often have you guys experienced the rashes?

I get tested at least every 6 months, sometimes every 3 months.

I don't have statistics how often people with HIV gets a rash and didn't mention it because it has nothing to do with your risk assessment . Google it again and see what you find and let me know . 

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Re: Risk From Sex With HIV+ Guy On Medication
« Reply #4 on: December 02, 2013, 08:25:25 PM »
Thank you, your reply was helpful.  But, you didn't really answer the HIV rash question.   After it was over, I googled HIV rash and read that most HIV+ people experience HIV rash and other skin conditions.  Do these type of rashes happen often?  For the HIV+ people here, how often have you guys experienced the rashes?

I get tested at least every 6 months, sometimes every 3 months.

I have had HIV for 20 years and never experienced an HIV specific rash.

The rashes, BTW, only happen during seroconversion and are NOT caused directly by HIV. Rather, they are caused by the body's intial defense against HIV. Everyone's body has a slightly different reaction to seroconversion, and this is exactly why we cannot diagnose HIV through the symptoms of initial seroconversion.

As a risk assessment site, I can assure you that you have had no risk and do not need to test over the incident as you described it.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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