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« on: June 08, 2013, 08:23:12 AM »
threee weeks ago. I had  protected anal sex in which i was the insertive partner. The condom broke and I didn't notice.

I am on my third week and I haven't developed anything except one sore on my tongue which I occasionally get, and then my tongue is sort of whitish. I don't have any patches and the white I have I can't remove. I think it has always been like that. could it be oral thrush?
Other than that, I am all goood. Just very anxious

I'll get an antibody + p24 test next week. and then I'll get tested at 3 months.

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Re: worried sick
« Reply #1 on: June 08, 2013, 08:38:08 AM »

You have had a risk and you do need to test. Neither symptoms nor even the lack of symptoms will ever tell you a single thing about your hiv status. ONLY testing at the appropriate time will. We don't like to talk about symptoms here for that very reason.

However, you're highly unlikely to develop oral thrush so early on. Just because your tongue looks a bit white doesn't mean it's thrush - oral thrush hurts like hell and you'd know about it when drinking hot or carbonated beverages or eating spicy foods.

The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

You're not likely to end up positive, as the insertive partner, over this condom break. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and much more difficult to transmit from a bottom to a top. I've been answering risk assessment questions here since 2001 and have yet to see an insertive partner end up poz over a condom break and I do not expect you to be the first.

You DO need to test, however. Low risk is not no risk.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence. Make sure you do this - a correctly used condom rarely breaks.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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« Reply #2 on: August 11, 2013, 10:26:05 AM »
Hi guys. I have a really dumb question. I know HIV isn't transferred by fingering but here it goes.

Two days ago. I was scratched by my cat in my pinky finger and it left a 7mm-1cm cut which bled for a little while.

The next day, a little scab formed over. In the afternoon I went swimming for about two hours and when I left the pool I noticed the scab had gone and the area was a bit reddish. Later that night, I had protected anal sex with a guy of unknown status.  However, I also fingered him with what later I noticed was the cut finger. I didn't feel any pain while doing so. However, when I pressed the cut with my hand, it sort of stung and hurt. I didn't notice any bleeding in my cut or in his anus

It's been less than 24 hours since the incident. Do you recommend getting tested or take the PEP? Do you think there is any probability that I have acquired the virus through the cut. His ass was very wet.

Thank you in advance

« Last Edit: August 11, 2013, 10:28:20 AM by alex1012 »

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Re: worried sick
« Reply #3 on: August 11, 2013, 10:42:40 AM »
I moved you new thread into your old one where you should keep all of your thoughts and concerns . Please do not start another thread and only use this one . You can find this thread by viewing your profile and selecting show own post .

Fingering isn't a risk and there has never been anyone infected in that manner . Your fingers simply do not have the right type of cells for HIV to latch onto in order to infect . If you were to chop off the tip of your finger you may have a problem but then again you wouldn't be fingering a butt if that happened would you . 

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Re: worried sick
« Reply #4 on: August 11, 2013, 10:44:16 AM »
thank you so much!

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Re: worried sick
« Reply #5 on: August 11, 2013, 10:50:46 AM »
You are welcome !


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