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Need some help please
« on: June 07, 2013, 07:01:21 PM »
Hello everyone,

First of all, I apologize in advance because I am not a native english speaker, so I will do my best to explain my situation.

I had a single protected anal sex with a sex-worker guy, and I received unprotected blow job from him (He sucked my penis without condom), But my concern is that during the anal sex, before he ejaculate he pulled his penis and the condom slipped in me, then he pulled the condom from inside and I don't know if there is pre-cum inside the condom or not, finally he ejaculate on my face.

I went to the GUM and did the antibody test, the result was negative. Then I asked The sex-worker guy to do the test and he was also negative.

My questions are :

1. If i let him to do the 4th generation HIV test after 2 weeks, Is this will be reliable that I am in safe ?

2. My concern is that maybe he is in a window period, is it possible to transmit the virus to me when the condom slipped off?

3. Any ideas about any test that I let hem to do it to make sure that he was negative when he was intercourse me?


Thank you
« Last Edit: June 07, 2013, 07:04:02 PM by Farol »

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Re: Need some help please
« Reply #1 on: June 08, 2013, 12:19:55 AM »
1) you had no risk. Condoms slip all the time, and as long as the head of his penis was covered there was no risk.

2) an HIV test after a risk (you had no risk) should be taken six weeks, then three months after a risk (you had no risk) to be sure. You should not take a test after 2 weeks.

3) It is not your secual partner's responsibility to assure you of anything. He took precautions by using a condom. Please stop pestering him. Your anxiety over this no-risk event is YOUR problem, not his.

Please understand that you had NO risk in the events as you described them.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Need some help please
« Reply #2 on: June 08, 2013, 12:31:09 AM »
Hi Farol . You didn't have a risk in the situation you described . The oral sex isn't a risk so we can take that off the table . The condom was intact and covering his penis during the anal sex and he slipped out . The important thing is that he was wearing an intact condom and once he pulled out there wouldn't be any risk , any precum at that point would have been exposed to oxygen and not a risk . HIV is a fragile virus and can not survive outside the human body , its instantly damaged when exposed to oxygen and rendered unable to infect .

As a sexually active adult having regular sexual health checkups that include testing for HIV as well as all other STD's is the responsible thing to do . I wouldn't ask anything more of the person you had sex with , its now your health and your responsibility to know your status and that has nothing to do with him at this point .

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but HIV is forever.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care checkup, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine checkups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!   

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Re: Need some help please
« Reply #3 on: June 08, 2013, 08:01:51 PM »
Thank you jkinatl2 and Jeff ,

I would like to ask you if I want to go for a test (just for the peace od mind), What kind of tests do you think and when to do it? I have read about PCR after 6 weeks and DUO after 4 weeks.

Your reply is highly appreciated.

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« Reply #4 on: June 08, 2013, 08:42:14 PM »
 
1) you had no risk. Condoms slip all the time, and as long as the head of his penis was covered there was no risk.

2) an HIV test after a risk (you had no risk) should be taken six weeks, then three months after a risk (you had no risk) to be sure. You should not take a test after 2 weeks.

3) It is not your secual partner's responsibility to assure you of anything. He took precautions by using a condom. Please stop pestering him. Your anxiety over this no-risk event is YOUR problem, not his.

Please understand that you had NO risk in the events as you described them.




I quoted JK because his answer is perfect for your new question , if you insist on testing again go to your GUM clinic again at the appropriate time and take an oraquick test or what ever they are using .   

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Re: Need some help please
« Reply #5 on: June 09, 2013, 05:59:13 AM »
Farol,

You absolutely do NOT need expensive PCR testing and no GUM clinician in his or her right mind will waste precious NHS funds on PCR testing for this NO RISK situation.

Any further hiv antibody testing over this NO RISK situation would be purely for your own peace of mind and not for any medical necessity.

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