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Scared of risk-please help
« on: June 04, 2013, 11:29:14 AM »
Will make it simple-

Went to a strip club-got a private show-the dancer was masturbatimg herself and ejaculated. She then took her hand out and put her wet fingers on my lips and in my mouth and on my chin-I had shaved earlier in the day and cut my lip and chin.

She later offered me unprotected sex, which I denied.

Is this situation a risk? Should I test? I'm otherwise abstinent.

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Re: Scared of risk-please help
« Reply #1 on: June 04, 2013, 11:39:53 AM »
Hi Dsalmon , you didn't have risk in the manner you are concerned about , HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse and never in the manner you are worried about .

As long as you use condoms correctly and consistently for vaginal and anal sex you will avoid HIV . 

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Scared of risk-please help
« Reply #2 on: June 04, 2013, 12:22:41 PM »
Even if she was positive and with the earlier cuts I had from shaving earlier-no need to worry or test from this incident?

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Re: Scared of risk-please help
« Reply #3 on: June 04, 2013, 12:30:52 PM »
salmon,

ALL the risk assessments we give in this forum are made with the assumption that the other person is hiv positive.

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection in this situation.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV OVER ANYTHING THAT HAPPENED DURING YOUR LAP DANCE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Scared of risk-please help
« Reply #4 on: June 04, 2013, 06:06:48 PM »
Thank you for prompt responses-greatly appreciated.
One last question about this incident-she had a pretty big hickie on her neck I didn't see until after my private dance-she said she had it from before but that I made it worse-I had been kissing/biting her neck-I'm worried if I caused the skin there to maybe break a little and thus exposed me to blood-would that be a risk/need I test over this matter?
Thanks in advance.

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Re: Scared of risk-please help
« Reply #5 on: June 04, 2013, 06:19:28 PM »
Thank you for prompt responses-greatly appreciated.
One last question about this incident-she had a pretty big hickie on her neck I didn't see until after my private dance-she said she had it from before but that I made it worse-I had been kissing/biting her neck-I'm worried if I caused the skin there to maybe break a little and thus exposed me to blood-would that be a risk/need I test over this matter?
Thanks in advance.


Kissing a hickie, no matter how hard (ow) is absolutely not a risk for any STD. Including, of course, HIV.

Please understand that HIV is transmitted through unprotected vaginal and anal sex. Period.

The reason for this is twofold.

One: Only certain cells in the body can be latched onto and infected by HIV. Those cells are found in the genitals and bloodstream.

Two: HIV cannot remain viable when exposed to oxygen, saliva, and a host of other things. Therefore you won't get it from kissing, no matter what or where.

Can we please agree that we've provided at least that level of education? It's essentially all you need, and it's what we've got.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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