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Offline bc99

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To test or not to test
« on: October 17, 2006, 04:21:56 PM »
Hi there

I had some fun butr dunno what i did i am still drunk and i am writing this

i have been to a disc in china kissed the girl(slut) alot, i dunno where all i kissed her  but am sure non of us removed our clothes and did more than any kissing. i am in my room now and i know for sure she dint come in here.I have kissed her on her cheeks back top \of her clother. but i dint have any other contact apart from this. i dunt reme what else happeened but i know i am in my room now and she is not there and am 100% sure she dint come in as i know she went home in her taxi in the cab. Please tell me wht are my risk for any std. Please i am married with 1 child and dunt want any std but am heavily drunk now and have been previously on this site as the biigest ever aafraid of Hiv. Ineed u beautiful Ppls help.Please help Me.

I Love u guys bye bye amd goin to hurl.


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Re: Had some Fun
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2006, 05:38:48 PM »
bc,

Kissing is NOT a risk for hiv infection. I would advise you to come back when you're sober and read through the Welcome Thread.

I would also thank you to not refer to women as sluts when posting on this forum.

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Re: Had some Fun
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2006, 05:41:59 PM »
The only real danger in this situation is that you were/are so friggin' drunk out of your mind. It doesn't seem as if anything took place beyond some kissing, which is not a risk for HIV transmission. But drinking excessively is a dangerous condition in which to start fooling around sexually because it diminishes your ability to negotiate safer sex.

So how about you stop behaving like an adolescent loose on the town and lay off of the drinking when you can't handle it! No kidding.

As far as HIV is concerned I don't see any cause for concern here nor for testing.

 
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Offline bc99

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Re: Had some Fun
« Reply #3 on: October 18, 2006, 01:28:16 AM »
Hi andy/ ann

Thanks you guys for taking your time to reply back. guys i am going to write a story which will be helpful for all ww. i was here around three years ago and had gone literally crazy cos i had protected encounter with two sex workers(by the way ann i am sorry to refer to women as sluts itwas the tequilla), i actually had visited a psychaitrist and maan i was in a position to die. then when i tested at 6 weeks my result was indeterminate so now you'll can imagine what i went through. but then the results were always negative for 2 years that i tested along. I spent 1000's of $'s for tests. i did get married and had a child as well and during pregnancy the hospital also conducted hiv test as a routine with all the other test on my wife and she was fine as well. i had decided that i will never in my life sleep with another woman may whatsoever. And yes i have been here in china for the past 7 days but i never slept witha woman maywhatsoever. i did get carried away and touched here and there but never went further than that, never got a lady to my room cos i cant take the fear. yesterday i was trashed but yet i did come home check my lips for cuts i remeber not smooching on lips but ya only kissed around a lot and she licked my ears. But i came home washed my self checked myself for cuts and brushed twice.

My only worry is herpes, If any 1 has any info please pass it on.
Thanks guys,

Love ur life......................
Be SAFE and try to abstain from sex with unknown ppl.


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Re: Had some Fun
« Reply #4 on: October 18, 2006, 10:21:29 AM »
Some general info about herpes:

It's transmitted by contact with herpes sores that are commonly on or near the mouth, ass  or vagina during the carrier's outbreak periods. It can also be transmitted even if no visible sores are present. That's called "asymptomatic viral shedding."

Symptoms usually first appear from 2 to 20 days after exposure to the virus. Sores which appear in clusters tend to be preceded by tingling sensation around penis, butt, mouth and may or may not also be accompanied by swollen glands.

Visual examination by a doctor at site of sores is usually enough to diagnose herpes. Several tests are available to provide a more definitive diagnosis.
Andy Velez

Offline bc99

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To test or not to test
« Reply #5 on: December 10, 2006, 01:10:10 AM »
Dear All

I did post a few weeks ago but cant find my old post so i am starting with a new one. I was in china in October and was sharing a room with a friend. He called a sex worker for a bj and before he started i was in my boxers and she was wearing a micro mini skirt and i don't remember if she had worn anything inside anyways i made her sit on my lap with clothes on and as i was erect my genitals might have popped out ( i ain't sure) and been inserted by mistake in hers (she was with her skirt on). I know this sounds funny but later on when i went to the toilet i noticed some colorless fluid on my genitals and i am not sure what it was. Any suggestions.

Regards
BC

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #6 on: December 10, 2006, 01:48:55 AM »
You didn't look very hard. I found it in 5 seconds...

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=4881.msg55390#msg55390

And this new information doesn't alter the previous "No risk" summary of your previous post.

R
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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #7 on: December 10, 2006, 09:20:27 AM »
bc,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

The colourless fluid on your penis was probably your own pre-cum from being aroused. If you've never noticed pre-cum before, well, there's always a first time for everything. You didn't have a risk.

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #8 on: December 10, 2006, 09:35:52 AM »
Hey all

Thanks for the reply and ya sorry for the new thread. The problem with me i am very very afraid after the incident which i was involved in 4 years ago and now have developed a phobia of HIV. Though i am very very happy with the way my life is going on and do not indulge into heavy sexual act with an unknown person but ya sometimes my mind wanders and gets back into place within few seconds of wandering, which i think is good for me.

Anyways you guys are really great and the job that you'll do for people i don't think i can ever reach to a great position like you'll. I have been visiting your site on and off but some of you people are really dedicated to this site and helping people which is great.  I wish the best to all of you people.

Regards
BC

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« Reply #9 on: January 14, 2010, 01:49:44 AM »
Dear Andy/ann

i am returning to the site after a longtime. pleas let me know if testin is required with my following incident.
1) 10 sec unprotected blow job with a sex woreker and then protected andi am not reallly concerned about this
2) while opening a bottle of liqor the paper sharpely entered thumb nail and had a very stingyfeeling there but did not see blood. now after 45 mins  i had fingered her with this thum anally and vaginally. no blood again
3) whlile fingering her we were in 69 position and 100% i felt some sqirt cum in my eye and face which really scares me. no sex.

thanks for you valuable and helpful answers.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #10 on: January 14, 2010, 02:13:51 AM »
You were never at risk of contracting HIV from fingering. Cut or no cut.

Offline bc99

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« Reply #11 on: January 14, 2010, 02:17:32 AM »
Hi rapid rod

thanks for your valuable reply. the main concern is 100% 2-3 drops of her cum did go in my eye.


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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #12 on: January 14, 2010, 03:06:59 AM »
You cannot contract HIV from getting vaginal fluid in your eye.

MtD

Offline bc99

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #13 on: January 14, 2010, 01:35:31 PM »
hi Matty

thanks for the reply but i would also like andy and anns professional view to exactly know how to go about it.

regards

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #14 on: January 14, 2010, 03:15:28 PM »
How to go about WHAT?

You didn't have any risk for HIV transmission so there is no need for testing. Period.
Andy Velez

Offline bc99

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #15 on: January 14, 2010, 09:41:35 PM »
Dear andy

i was just concerned as my cut was 40 mins old and i am not imagining the ifs,the sex worker actually squirted on my face and 2-3 small drops in my eye and when i asked abt her status she said she dint know and said that even if ppl are theywill never speak the truth, by these words of hers i am forced to believe she may be positive.

do you still think no risk?

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #16 on: January 14, 2010, 09:48:14 PM »
At no time were you at risk.

Offline bc99

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #17 on: January 15, 2010, 02:52:51 AM »
Dear andy

i was just concerned as my cut was 40 mins old and i am not imagining the ifs,the sex worker actually squirted on my face and 2-3 small drops in my eye and when i asked abt her status she said she dint know and said that even if ppl are theywill never speak the truth, by these words of hers i am forced to believe she may be positive.

do you still think no risk?

andy /ann
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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #18 on: January 15, 2010, 03:29:59 AM »
bc,

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.


Please consider yourself warned!

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline bc99

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #19 on: January 23, 2010, 12:29:07 PM »
dear andy/ann

sorry dont mean to offend or disrespect the site rules. i was just confused that if eye is a mucos membrane and fresh vaginal fluid drops in eye, how is this not a risk??

thanks and will try to be within the guidelines.

thanks again

Offline RapidRod

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Re: To test or not to test
« Reply #20 on: January 23, 2010, 12:33:49 PM »
dc180679, what were you told in the other forum and no you don't follow the guidelines on either forum.

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« Reply #21 on: January 24, 2010, 10:00:06 AM »
Hi rod sorry about that was just lookin for clarity.as i wasnt imagining this incdent as actually fresh vaginal fluid drops did enter my eye which is a mucos membranne. and as i read some ppl have been infected with eye exposure.

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« Reply #22 on: January 24, 2010, 10:04:05 AM »
If you continue surfing the net you will find all sorts of stories about how people claim to have been infected. Under careful scientific scrutiny those claims don't hold up.

You need to stop looking for misinformation to feed your fears. Get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #23 on: January 24, 2010, 11:15:21 AM »
thanks and love to andy ann and rod.... sorry for the repetation its just my anxiety..... will def try to avoid :)

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« Reply #24 on: January 24, 2010, 12:10:01 PM »
Fortunately fears are not facts. Get professional help with your anxiety if you need it.

You have no sound basis for concern about HIV. Period.
Andy Velez

 


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