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what are my chances of infection?
« on: May 26, 2013, 02:10:09 AM »
Hello! The reason im writing this post is because im highly concerned and regretfull of some decisions ive made.
I just broke up with my girlfriend and was devastated, I stupidly decided to call escorts and go to massage parlors to "overcome" my situation, I did have sexual relationships with escorts and masseuses in these parlors, but they were always with condom and I never ejaculated nor bleeded (4 times total)...Im still in my window period (which I've read is 3 months in some places and 4-6 weeks in other) before taking a test, I once gave oral sex to one of the escorts, but it wasnt full, was sort more of a *quick kiss to the down lips* sort of thing...there was another time where I realized that my condom slipped halfway, but the head and uretra of my penis were still protected by the condom...my question is, how high is my posibbility of having an HIV infection? Thanks for your answer, Thanks!

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Re: what are my chances of infection?
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2013, 02:28:08 AM »
Hello! The reason im writing this post is because im highly concerned and regretfull of some decisions ive made.
I just broke up with my girlfriend and was devastated, I stupidly decided to call escorts and go to massage parlors to "overcome" my situation, I did have sexual relationships with escorts and masseuses in these parlors, but they were always with condom and I never ejaculated nor bleeded (4 times total)...Im still in my window period (which I've read is 3 months in some places and 4-6 weeks in other) before taking a test, I once gave oral sex to one of the escorts, but it wasnt full, was sort more of a *quick kiss to the down lips* sort of thing...there was another time where I realized that my condom slipped halfway, but the head and uretra of my penis were still protected by the condom...my question is, how high is my posibbility of having an HIV infection? Thanks for your answer, Thanks!

The head of the penis is the ONLY vulnerable area for HIV infection for the insertive partner during anal/vaginal sex. For circumsised males, the vulnerable area is ONLY the urethra.

Your sex was protected, even if the condom had ridden up on the shaft.

You have had NO risk in the events as you describe them, and do NOT need to test over these specific events. I do, of course, advocate that every sexually active person who is not in a mutually monogamous relationship get a full STD panel (including, of course, an HIV test) every six months.

PLease continue using condoms for penetrative anal and vaginal sex, and you wil avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: what are my chances of infection?
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2013, 02:44:35 AM »
Thank you so much jkinatl2...that really give me an ease of mind!  I just need one more question to take advantage of my 3 posts...and is that, why in some other places i've read that even using condom you are at risk of infection? and does the oral sex that I described you changes anything? as a matter of fact, what are the possibilites of getting an infection through oral sex? and is it possible that I am just overreacting out of guilt and fear?

I would really appreciate an answer to this, and thank you for what you are doing, i've been having this fear and waiting for the time to checked and imagining every possible scenario in my head, having an ease of mind is just like having a second chance which im not blowing away! I decided to not have sex again until I find a partner, Thank you very much and I wish and hope for the best for you and your loved ones!



Hi mods! Hope you guys are all doing fine!
I know I am probably over asking, so I promised this is going to be the last post (plus im hitting the 3 posts mark lol) my questions are the same as the last reply, and I have to add one more, I've been browsing the web and I've found that some places claim that even using condomos you still have chances of getting the infection, this is confusing me, so my question will be, what facts can prove that the usage of condom prevents or does not completely prevent the HIV infection? I appreciate all your efforts and I thank you in advance! hope you have a good day and please help me to have a better understanding of all of this! hope you have a good one!



edited by Ann to quote an unnecessary post in order to delete said unnecessary post
« Last Edit: May 27, 2013, 06:38:14 AM by Ann »

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Re: what are my chances of infection?
« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2013, 06:57:25 AM »
jfp,

I took pity on you and quoted your third post and added it to your second post so I could delete your third post - and I did this because we neglected to answer your additional question in a timely manner, thus prompting you to unwisely use up your last free post. (Your additional question in the third post was basically a re-wording of the same question in your second post.)

Use your last post wisely, because you will not be afforded this courtesy again.


You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection. Giving a woman oral is not a risk, getting a blowjob is not a risk, and protected intercourse is not a risk. NO RISK.

We are not responsible for the misinformation published by other websites. You need to keep in mind that many websites are run and/or funded by people of a sexually conservative mind-set, religious or otherwise, and the messages they put out are basically designed to stop you from having sex in same-sex relationships, or otherwise outside of a so-called "traditional monogamous marriage" between a man and a woman. It's all bollocks and doesn't do anyone any good.

Some of these sex-negative websites will claim that condoms have microscopic holes that hiv can wiggle through - and that is pure science-fiction. What you get on this website is science-FACT; thoroughly researched, first-tier, peer-review study, scientific FACT.

Condoms can break however, but a correctly used condom rarely breaks. Make sure you're using condoms correctly and breakage won't be a problem. Broken condoms are VERY obvious, so don't bother coming back with "what iffs" about any of your condoms breaking without you knowing. You WOULD have known if any of them broke.

Even if a condom breaks, if you're the insertive partner you're unlikely to become infected. In over twelve years of answering questions on this forum I have yet to see the insertive partner end up hiv positive following a condom break.

The receptive partner is more at risk following a condom break, but I cannot recall a receptive partner ending up poz following a condom break either, although I'm sure it happens occasionally if the (hiv positive) insertive partner has ejaculated inside after the condom broke.

You also need to realise that many of the articles written elsewhere on the internet have been written by (often hiv paranoid) hiv negative people who really don't know the score. We here do know the score and most of us have been in relationships with hiv negative people who remained hiv negative through the simple use of condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse. It's that simple. We don't just talk the talk, we walk the walk. Every day of our lives.

The fact is that condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

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