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Offline Takeshi

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Super scared
« on: May 23, 2013, 05:16:13 PM »
Could you please tell me something.

I hook up with this guy the another night and we essentially kissed, oral sex was with condom and anal sex was with condom too (although full penetration did not occur, and the guy simply gave up the penetration and ended up masturbating alone... I was super tight... first time  :-[ )...

But something is really getting me nervous em super preoccupied... he fingered me vigorously and used his saliva as lube... my anal area is kind hurt now... is there any  risk of infection? I already had a test done, and I'm gonna do another one in two months and 8 days... I'm super scared... please any comments to this?

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Re: Super scared
« Reply #1 on: May 23, 2013, 05:30:51 PM »
Hey!

There is no reason to be "super scared." Or even scared for that matter.

You absolutely, categorically will NOT get HIV from getting fingered (or fingering anyone). Saliva is NOT infectious. As a matter of fact, saliva contains over a dozen elements which neutralize HIV and render it inert. So to head off any followup questions regarding the guy's oral health, not even if he had HIV, a high viral load, and bleeding gums would it have been a risk in any way.

As a matter of fact, condoms for oral sex are overkill, and I wouldn't be shocked if, along the road, you receive more than a little pushback from people who don't use them for that activity.

Here is the thing - the ONLY confirmed/documented sexual transmission routes for HIV are unprotected anal and vaginal sex.  That's it. Use a condom for anal/vaginal sex and you will avoid HIV.

It really is that simple.


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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Super scared
« Reply #2 on: May 23, 2013, 05:34:51 PM »
Could you please tell me something.

I hook up with this guy the another night and we essentially kissed, oral sex was with condom and anal sex was with condom too (although full penetration did not occur, and the guy simply gave up the penetration and ended up masturbating alone... I was super tight... first time  :-[ )...

But something is really getting me nervous em super preoccupied... he fingered me vigorously and used his saliva as lube... my anal area is kind hurt now... is there any  risk of infection? I already had a test done, and I'm gonna do another one in two months and 8 days... I'm super scared... please any comments to this?

You did NOT have a risk . Saliva has property's such as proteins and enzymes in it that damages HIV and renders it unable to infect . HIV is sexually acquired from unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse and not in the way you are concerned with .

You do Not need further HIV testing at this point . If this incident was your only concern in the last 3 months then you can rely on the recent HIV test as conclusive proof that you do not have HIV .

Keeping in mind that you didn't have a risk and do not need testing at this time its important to remember that the window period for testing is 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . If you had a risk all of these test you are taking are not doing you any good because its pointless to test before at least 6 weeks .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care checkup, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine checkups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!

Its OK for you to move on and put this behind you now . 

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Re: Super scared
« Reply #3 on: May 23, 2013, 05:36:07 PM »
Thank you for your quick answer.

 


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