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Offline kickerboy3

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totally depressed
« on: October 17, 2006, 08:06:03 AM »
Hey,

I am an 37 j old male from Belgium (don't speak English very good so i hope you will understand what I'm writing).
I am single and sometimes i visit prostitutes. The only thing they perform on me is oral without condom (sometimes till i ejaculate).
I'm sure to have cath HIV from oral receptive.
Ten months ago i had a sore throat, fever for 2à3 days (highest 38,4%), and sinds that period, i have never been healthy, i had muscles paines for 3 month, very tired,i lost 7 kg, and now sinds 6 months i have painful and lightly swollen lymph nodes (under the arms and between the legs).
I am now living for ten months in constant stress, i search the net for weeks and i can't function normally.
The only thing i can think off is hiv, from the moment i wake up until I'm going to sleep.
Sometimes i hope never to wake up again in the morning.

Greetz,

Andy

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2006, 09:35:20 AM »
In the entire history of the HIV epidemic there has never been a documented case of HIV transmission from a guy getting a blowjob. And you aren't going to make history by becoming the first.

What you need to do is see your doctor and discuss the physical things you are concerned about. Nothing you are describing is in anyway suggestive of HIV infection. But then symptoms are never the way to know about your HIV status. If you had a real risk, which you didn't, then testing at 13 weeks after the most recent incident would be the way to know your status accurately.

There are other STDs out there and they are much easier to catch than HIV. For anyone who's sexually active it is good idea to regularly have a full STD panel done. That means at least once a year and every six months is even better.

Whatever is going on with you has nothing to do with HIV. Stop diagnosing yourself. That's bad for your health.

This is not an HIV situation. Period.

Andy Velez

Offline kickerboy3

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2006, 10:25:36 AM »
Thank you very much for your answer.
I've cherched the entire net for STD's and diseases with swollen lymph nodes for many months and i always came out "HIV".
I became ill in december 05 with fever (38,4) and throath infection, for about 3 days. Swollen lymph nodes came in juin 06 untill now.
I have no family and almost no real friends. I'm scared to death.

Andy

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2006, 10:29:13 AM »
Seek the attention of your doctor.

Offline kickerboy3

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #4 on: October 18, 2006, 04:19:11 AM »
Dear Ann,

Can you please help me and give my mind some rest?
I'm too afraid to go to the doctor. its now ten months that i dont feel well. i've lost a lot of weight and i'm still having painfully nodes under arm and between legs. When i wake up, i have no energy to stand up.
I don't understand, i have had only oral sex with girls (they doing oral on me).
I've called the HIV line in Belgium and they told me that oral is indeed a risk. Now i'm even more confused.

Andy

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #5 on: October 18, 2006, 04:30:02 AM »
You just have to go to the doctor. Again, you don't get HIV from receiving a blowjob. If you are having symptoms and pains, see your doctor. You can't be helped on the internet.

Offline kickerboy3

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #6 on: October 18, 2006, 04:36:02 AM »
There's another site "the body" and they say that there is a very small risk from getting a blowjob, so i recieved a lot of blowjobs, this increase the chance of getting infected or am i wrong?

Andy

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #7 on: October 18, 2006, 04:39:59 AM »
Yes, there has never been anyone infected by receiving a blowjob in 25+ years. You probably have an STD, and didn't have it taken care of but it's not going to be HIV.

Offline kickerboy3

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #8 on: October 18, 2006, 08:11:16 AM »
Thank you very much for your answer.
I've been sudying all the possible STD's but i didn't find one that have the same complaints like i have.
I'm so confused.
Can Ann or Andy give me some advice. Is it because i am so stressed or is it HIV (du to the blowjobs i recieved?)
Thank you very much for everthing you are doing for people like me.

Andy

Offline kickerboy3

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #9 on: October 19, 2006, 03:48:04 AM »
Dear Ann or Andy,

Can you please help me a little bit?
I'm loosing my mind.

Thanks

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #10 on: October 19, 2006, 06:39:42 AM »
Dear Ann and Andy,

This is what i found at the site " the body" from doktor BOB, a famous specialist in the US.
Now i am even more scared, (10 months of sympthoms)

""So what are your chances? The estimated per-act risk for acquiring HIV from unprotected insertive oral sex (yes, this includes hand-behind-her-head deep-throating!) with a partner confirmed to be HIV positive is 0.5 per 10,000 exposures. ""

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #11 on: October 19, 2006, 06:57:54 AM »
Kicker,

I don't care what they say at the Body (and those numbers are based on a discredited study), you didn't have a risk of hiv infection. Getting a blowjob is not a risk.

If you cannot bring yourself to take our advice and go see your doctor, then you'll just have to suffer. We can't make you go - and frankly, I've got little sympathy for someone who refuses to go to the doctor when they feel ill. It makes no sense.

This is not an hiv situation.

Ann
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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #12 on: October 19, 2006, 09:01:42 AM »
Dear Ann or Andy

Thank you for your answer, i know i have to visit a dokter.
I recieved many unprotected blowjobs  from different sex workers the last couple of years  (probably 50).
Doesn't that makes it a little bit risky?

Thank you very much

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Re: totally depressed
« Reply #13 on: October 19, 2006, 09:13:22 AM »
kicker,

50 or 50,000 blowjobs, a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection. Period.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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