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Offline bocker3

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The worst part of having a pet......
« on: May 22, 2013, 04:03:47 PM »
The worst part of having a pet is when you have to make a decision to say goodbye.

Today I made an appt. for our cat, Charlie -- this will be his final visit to the vet.  He is 15 years old, has early kidney disease, early heart failure, has lost more than a third of his weight since last Aug (when he spent 3 days in ICU for Congestive Heart Failure), doesn't seem to want much food and has begun urinating all around the house.

This little guy (pure black, short-haired domestic cat) came into our lives just about 8 years ago.  5 weeks after we got him, I was diagnosed poz and that day as I sat crying about it, he came and curled up on my lap and just looked up at me.  He sat there purring and nuzzling my hand for scratches-- he so helped me pull myself together to talk with Sid that day.

He's always been more "dog" than cat.  He comes when called (most of the time).  Greets us with enthusiastic, and non-stop meows.  He rolls around and drools while we pet him.  Any night that I am watching TV he is curled up on my lap, sleeping.

Hi appointment is Friday at 5:30 -- I can't tell you how much I am going to miss him -- there is going to be such a large hole in our house.  I know I'm doing the right thing for him though -- and I will be with him, petting him and talking to him right up to the end. 

My heart is breaking though.....  I hate this part!!!   :'(  :'(  :'(

Mike
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Offline darryaz

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #1 on: May 22, 2013, 04:06:40 PM »
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.  Please remember the many years of joy Charlie gave you (and you to him!)


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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2013, 04:14:23 PM »
Mike , Im so sorry to hear you are having to go through this . I am a pet person so I'm no stranger to what you are having to do , so with that my heart goes out to you . Hugs .

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #3 on: May 22, 2013, 04:20:53 PM »
Oh Mike I'm so sorry.

I know how hard this will be on you, but I also know you will do what's right for Charlie, he is relying on you to stop his pain and suffering, as animal owners and lovers it's a part of life we dread, but know that one day we will all have to make that same decision. 

Sending hugs to you and Sid.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #4 on: May 22, 2013, 04:55:07 PM »
Hey Mike,
Had to go through the same last year with our 15 year old dog. The bond between us humans and our animal pals is what makes times like this so difficult.
My heart goes out to you and Sid. :'(
m.
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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #5 on: May 22, 2013, 05:56:27 PM »
Oh Mike, I'm so sorry.  Having pets is wonderful, until it comes time to say good-bye.  I have a kitty myself that has pulled me through many hard days; she's my side kick. 

Peace to you and your partner, knowing that you'll be giving Charlie peace. 
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Offline tednlou2

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #6 on: May 23, 2013, 12:04:05 AM »
I am sorry Charlie is in bad health, and you have to make this decision.  I always hope I will never have to make this decision.  My dog of 16 years luckily went very quickly one night.  I always hope they will just get old and die in their sleep. 

I wish you all the best through this difficult time.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #7 on: May 23, 2013, 12:42:48 AM »
so sorry to hear this news. This decision is always a hard one; but a neccesary, loving and caring one to make.
hugs and love to y'all.
 :-* :'( :-* :'(
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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #8 on: May 23, 2013, 02:20:32 AM »
It is always so hard to do that. You have my deepest condolences. Your cat was well and truly loved, and you are doing the best possible thing by sparing Charlie from pain and suffering. I hope that we each have such an angel, when our times grow short.

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Offline wolfter

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #9 on: May 23, 2013, 08:13:39 AM »
So sorry to read this.  I absolutely understand your heartbreak and how terrible the final decision is.  Even though you know it's the right thing to do, it doesn't lessen the pain.


Sending you positive energy. 

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #10 on: May 23, 2013, 08:25:34 AM »
((((((Mike))))))

So sorry to hear this. I know how much it hurts. My own cats, past, present and (most likely) future have always meant the world to me. Vester, Fred and Monster send their condolences as well.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2013, 11:02:50 AM »
Im so very sorry to hear the sad news about Charlie.He has been blessed to have such a long life.Pets really are one of the family

Our cat had to be put to sleep at the age of 21 yrs.

((((Thinking of you)))))))))

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Offline WillyWump

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2013, 05:36:40 PM »
Oh sweety I'm sorry :'(

Losing a pet is never ever easy. Ever. and having to put one down is even worse. I feel for you. But you are showing Charlie the greatest love by recognizing his pain and helping him make the transition.

and always remember, Charlie will be waiting for you at Rainbow Bridge

Hugs
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« Last Edit: May 23, 2013, 05:39:43 PM by WillyWump »
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Offline bocker3

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2013, 11:38:15 PM »
Thank you all.  Tonight Charlie slept on my lap for a couple of hours - he really does seem to be "winding down" faster now.  He still came and woke me up this morning for breakfast, but didn't eat that much.

I have to go to work tomorrow to lead a half-day session, but I am coming home right after to spend a couple of hours with him -- I'll let him lay on my lap and I'll just pet him and love him a little while longer.  It is going to be a tough afternoon!!

I know I'm doing the right thing, but there isn't a fucking thing easy about it.


Again -- thank you for all your kind words and thoughts.

Mike
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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #14 on: May 23, 2013, 11:50:20 PM »
=( So sorry to read all of this Mike.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #15 on: May 24, 2013, 08:44:19 AM »
Very sorry to hear about this. What a great time you have had together. You're being as good a friend to him as he has been to you. Will be thinking of you later today.

Hugs. 
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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #16 on: May 24, 2013, 12:48:03 PM »
my sincere sympathy .. a loved pet is  so  entrenched in our lives  ...been through this a few time......remember the good  times......

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Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #17 on: May 24, 2013, 02:04:08 PM »
Very sorry about your loss Mike.  Please accept my sincere condolences.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #18 on: May 24, 2013, 06:19:17 PM »
It's been a very hard day, but he was a brave little guy.  They took his paw print in a heart shaped memorial for us -- with CHARLIE spelled across the top.  it will take a day to harden, but I don't think I can look at it soon anyway.

R.I.P. Charles T. Cat, you will be missed.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #19 on: May 24, 2013, 06:28:24 PM »
It's been a very hard day, but he was a brave little guy.  They took his paw print in a heart shaped memorial for us -- with CHARLIE spelled across the top.  it will take a day to harden, but I don't think I can look at it soon anyway.

R.I.P. Charles T. Cat, you will be missed.

M

Guys , I wish I was there to give you each a big Hug ... I really do .   

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #20 on: May 24, 2013, 07:02:46 PM »
Dear Mike & Sid,

My deepest condolences on the loss of Charlie.  In his honour, I offer the following:

A Catís Prayer

Although I am too proud to beg,
and may appear to be a very independent creature,
I ask for your loving care and attention.
I rely on you for my well-being much more than you may realize.
This I promise you, my benefactor, that I will not be a burden on you.
Nor will I demand more of you than you care to give.
I will be a quiet peaceful island of serenity for you to gaze upon;
a soft soothing body to caress,
and I shall purr with pleasure to rest your weary ears.
Since I am a gourmet who appreciates different taste sensations,
I pray you will give me a variety of nutritious foods and fresh water daily.
You know dear friend, how I love to go.
Allow me, I pray, a warm sheltered place
where I can rest peacefully and feel secure.
If I am wounded in battle or suffering from disease,
please tend me gently, and see that I am treated
by loving and competent hands.
Please protect me from the inhuman humans
who would hurt and torture me for their own amusement.
I am accustomed to your gentle touch and am not always suspicious
nor swift enough to avoid such malicious acts.
In my later years when my senses fail me
and my infirmities become too great to bear,
allow me the comfort and dignity that I desire for my closing days
and help me gently in my pain or passing.
Hear this prayer, my dear friend, my fate depends on you.

*author unknown

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #21 on: May 24, 2013, 07:29:20 PM »
That's nice ^


It's been a very hard day, but he was a brave little guy.  They took his paw print in a heart shaped memorial for us -- with CHARLIE spelled across the top.  it will take a day to harden, but I don't think I can look at it soon anyway.

R.I.P. Charles T. Cat, you will be missed.

M

Heart wrenching. You had me in tears earlier during our texting  :(. My Condolences.
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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #22 on: May 24, 2013, 08:30:06 PM »
So sorry to hear about this, Mike. It's never easy, but the hardest part is over. It just comes back from time to time, but it gets easier. I heard, and sometimes saw out of the corner of my eye, both my cats for a few weeks after they passed.

Hugs,
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Offline bocker3

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #23 on: May 24, 2013, 08:53:44 PM »
Thanks again all.  Your words help.  Joe -- that was beautiful!!

Here is a picture of my precious Charlie.......



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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #24 on: May 24, 2013, 09:22:56 PM »
sorry, no words.
just tears.
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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #25 on: May 24, 2013, 11:20:05 PM »
My dog's name is Joshua and He's a Sheppard & Rottweiler mix and a month ago my building was sold and the new owners gave me an ultimatum which was keep my apartment and get rid of my dog of 6yrs or move.  Getting rid of my dog was never an option so I moved into a new building surrounded by pet owners and who would have taught Joshua would have found a girlfriend but he and I had a long talk nose to snout and I told him No puppies he looked at me rolled his eyes and walked away.  One of the things I love about my dog is stubbornness and He's sneaky but when having a bad day will lay his head on my lap. As he goes up in age my biggest fear is death because everyone knows pets don't live forever.  As a pet owner I've already lost two rabbit's Babb's & bugs and since their passing I refused to adopt another bunny.  My friends ask if anything were to happen to Joshua if I could open up my heart to another dog and I can honestly say I doubt it but with millions of dogs living in shelters in search of love I might consider it but in the mean time I will continue to spoil him. I wish I could get him to walk properly on a leash because he is a determined puller.  I should also add that I have two sets of gerbils & fishes and I'm planning to adopt 3 guinea pigs and 2 birds and may get Joshua a buddy for Christmas.

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Re: The worst part of having a pet......
« Reply #26 on: May 25, 2013, 04:03:48 PM »
What a gorgeous cat.  Just reading your posts, Mike, made me tear up.  I am so, so sorry about your pain and can definitely tell Charlie was well loved and well cared for.  I will definitely give my kitty an extra hug.  :'(
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