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Offline Scaredandconfused37

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Another fingering question
« on: July 23, 2015, 12:06:13 AM »

I am hoping that by posting here I can share some of the worry I currently have and maybe gain a little perspective.

20 days ago I had an encounter with a a female CSW (UK). If I'm honestit wasn't the best experience in the world and due to not wanting to take any risks I only received unprotected hand relief however, the source of my concern is that I did finger this lady for about 5 minutes, all fairly innocent so far I guess. The problem is that when I left her residence I noticed 2 small scrapes on the back of my hand (at the bottom of my knuckle of the hand I used to finger her with) I didn't notice any bleeding but that's not to say there wasn't any previously as I mad washed my hands before leaving.

The scrapes took a couple of days to form a scab (I guess due to the lack of blood on the wound) however it was red and slightly painful during that time (could see the second layer of skin etc ). When I think about it I'm sure I didn't have the scrapes before the encounter and can only imagine that they were caused by the ladies belt or zip.
So now since day 10 (and maybe slightly before) I have had swollen glands in my neck and throat, a mouth ulcer (on the inside of my lip) has appeared although I have had these before, lymph nodes under my armpits feel as though they are a little tender although I cannot actually fee them with my hands, random slight muscle aches and yesterday started having diarrhea. As you can imagine I am absolutely scared out of my mind!

I saw a doctor about PEP within the 72 hour window but he suggested that it was not needed, I then saw another doctor at a private clinic in London who suggested that I had nothing to worry about and that testing was not necessary and I should just put it all behind me. (If only I could).

I became so worried due to the symptoms I have that I took a PCR RNA test on Monday, day 17, and am awaiting the results - this in itself is killing me.
 This is the only exposure I have had as I am in what was otherwise a monogamous relationship (I have a wife and 2 young children) and will definitely lose them should the worst happen.

I really don't want to be the first case of HIV infection via this route but given how ill I feel with random symptoms I just can't see that I will receive anything but a positive result when they come through :(

I'll post the results when they do arrive which will be by the end of this week. I have tried to read the lessons learned and other similar posts which have given me some short term comfort but just can't get past the fear.

Apologies for the extra long thread and hope to hear from you soon

Offline Jeff G

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Re: Another fingering question
« Reply #1 on: July 23, 2015, 08:56:18 AM »
HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex. Fingering is not a risk and no one has been infected that way. You did not need PEP or have a need to test for this specific incident.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Offline Joe K

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Re: Another fingering question
« Reply #2 on: July 23, 2015, 10:55:53 AM »
Fingering is not a risk, as HIV needs certain cells to latch onto, cells that are NOT found on the fingers.



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