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I got fingered in my butt
« on: May 14, 2013, 04:50:52 PM »
I went to massage parlor and saw an asian lady. She started rubbing my butt and then flipped me over and put a few fingers in my butt with oil and gave me hand job. Fingers may have been in me for 3 to 5 minutes. She did it gentle but she wasn't wearing gloves, just used her bare hands.

I'm worried I could have gotten HIV because these places may get lots of people who may not be clean and she may not be clean as well. She didn't have any cuts as far as I can see because I did checked her hands but it was dark so its hard to see but from what I saw she had not cuts. Also how long can hiv survive in my butt if she had a cut. Doesnt it go through blood to blood.

Also prior to going there I had stomach ache and went to bathroom 20 before getting massage. That day I went 4 or 5 times to bathroom. Sorry to be blunt. Would that cause any open sores in butt. I went home check for blood but nothing I could see by then and nothing while I went to bathroom that day. I also have a sore on my testicals before going in to massage parlor from scratching that area. So basically my two questions is the sore on my testicales prior to going in there and her fingering me something i should worry about.

I think I am just a over analyzing this to worse case scenario. That's how I am sometimes but just looking for reassurance that I should just put this behind me and move on and stop over thinking this.

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Re: I got fingered in my butt
« Reply #1 on: May 14, 2013, 04:58:49 PM »
snickers,

Fingering - either doing it or having it done to you - is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. The only time you'd need to worry about the presence of blood in this case is if they cut the tip of their finger off immediately before fingering you and they're hardly going to put their finger in your ass under those circumstances. Or even with a fresh cut.

So yes, you're over-analysing this in the extreme. You also need to get up to date with how hiv is and is not transmitted. It's easiest to tell you how hiv IS transmitted, because any other scenarios do not apply.

In adults, hiv is transmitted in three ways.

1. Unprotected anal intercourse.
2. Unprotected vaginal intercourse.
3. Sharing drug injecting equipment.

And that's it.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV OVER BEING FINGERED OR FINGERING OR GETTING A MASSAGE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: I got fingered in my butt
« Reply #2 on: May 14, 2013, 05:49:37 PM »
snickers,

Fingering - either doing it or having it done to you - is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. The only time you'd need to worry about the presence of blood in this case is if they cut the tip of their finger off immediately before fingering you and they're hardly going to put their finger in your ass under those circumstances. Or even with a fresh cut.

So yes, you're over-analysing this in the extreme. You also need to get up to date with how hiv is and is not transmitted. It's easiest to tell you how hiv IS transmitted, because any other scenarios do not apply.

In adults, hiv is transmitted in three ways.

1. Unprotected anal intercourse.
2. Unprotected vaginal intercourse.
3. Sharing drug injecting equipment.

And that's it.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV OVER BEING FINGERED OR FINGERING OR GETTING A MASSAGE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

ok thank you Ann. I just was told that cut on finger can easily transfer inside my anal walls and infect me. I read it on the governments sites (.gov so i am assuming its government site). Why do those sites try and scare tactic a person who is scared already. Why dont they have the real information that you all have?

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Re: I got fingered in my butt
« Reply #3 on: May 14, 2013, 05:50:42 PM »
Snickers,

You ask a question that has been plaguing, perplexing and pissing me the hell off for over twelve years now. I have no idea why some websites insist on publishing outdated and sometimes just blatantly wrong (mis)information.

For some of them, I suspect it's mainly an ultra-conservative, sex-negative, anti-pleasure mindset that often goes hand in hand with religious beliefs of the author of the articles / website publishers. In other words, their information is religiously and moralistically biased.

Don't forget that many of these religious types believe hiv is a punishment handed down by "God".

As a result, they have a core belief that any activity deemed offensive to their deity's tender sensibilities is a possible transmission route.

I've also found that much of the hiv "information" elsewhere on the internet is written by people who are not actually living with hiv themselves, and their own paranoia and fear leaks through into their articles.

That's my take on it anyway, make of it what you will.

You get just the plain, proven science here, along with a sex-positive message (ie sex is a natural, normal human activity and not something to be ashamed of, provided you're engaging in consensual intercourse with another adult).

Ann
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Re: I got fingered in my butt
« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2013, 06:34:14 PM »
Snickers,

I deleted the new thread you started. Please keep all your further posts in this, your original thread. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.


Creating a new thread used up your last free post and I did you a favour by deleting your thread and quoting it here - because you now still have one free post.

All you did was quote your original post and ask the following:


That was my original post I made but you never let me know if I was ok about going there with a sore on my testicles. Can HIV travel through a sore that wasnt bleeding at the time as far as I know? I guess im down to one posting left lol.



Did you not bother to read the answer I already gave you?

snickers,

Fingering - either doing it or having it done to you - is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. The only time you'd need to worry about the presence of blood in this case is if they cut the tip of their finger off immediately before fingering you and they're hardly going to put their finger in your ass under those circumstances. Or even with a fresh cut.

So yes, you're over-analysing this in the extreme. You also need to get up to date with how hiv is and is not transmitted. It's easiest to tell you how hiv IS transmitted, because any other scenarios do not apply.

In adults, hiv is transmitted in three ways.

1. Unprotected anal intercourse.
2. Unprotected vaginal intercourse.
3. Sharing drug injecting equipment.


And that's it.


If your balls had anything to do with hiv transmission, I would have told you.

If you had a risk, I would have told you and advised you on testing protocol.

You do NOT need hiv testing over this specific incident. You only need to test at this point if you've been having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with [anyone[/i] or sharing drug injecting equipment.

Any sexually active adult should be having a full sexual health check up at least once a year, or more if you're active with several partners. It's no different to going for regular dental check ups. You may not have a toothache, but you go anyway.

It's what responsible adults do to look after their health, and in the case of sexual check ups, it's what they do to look after their sexual partner's health as well.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: I got fingered in my butt
« Reply #5 on: May 14, 2013, 06:42:42 PM »
Thank you Ann. You are a kind person. I really appreciate the help and info.

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Re: I got fingered in my butt
« Reply #6 on: May 16, 2013, 09:28:14 AM »
Snickers,

As you have repeatedly attempted to create new accounts, which is expressly against the Terms of Membership you agreed to each and every time you filled out the forms for the new accounts, I have no choice but to permanently ban you.

You didn't have a risk. End of story.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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