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Offline Lozenges

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« on: May 12, 2013, 11:41:53 AM »

I recently met up with a local guy from Grindr and we ended up having oral and anal sex (which was my first time incidentally). The oral sex was unprotected but the anal sex (during which I was both top and bottom) was protected. A day and a half later, paranoia set in and I couldn't trust my memory as to whether he had used a condom while penetrating me. My back was turned during the sex, although I remembered him throwing his condom away (and he assured me it was on). Still concerned, I went to a sexual health clinic the next day and my mind was put at rest by a healthcare professional who told me there would be seepage/wetness if it was unprotected, since he came inside me. We met up again and, after checking his bin for the two condoms which we used (not nice I know but the paranoia was crazy!), I finally had peace of mind.

That peace of mind would have lasted had I not, four days on, developed a severe sore throat, a fever, and fatigue (which the doctor has diagnosed as tonsilitis) - all of which are listed as early HIV symptoms on the NHS website.

All things considered, I would be very grateful if you could give me some indication as to my risk level. Thanks in advance.

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Re: Panicking
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2013, 11:57:36 AM »
The sex you engaged in was protected sex so you didn't have a risk in the situation you are concerned about . The anal sex was protected and the oral wasn't a risk , so no risk level .

We do not discuss symptoms because they are not specific to HIV , if you are feeling unwell go see your doctor .

 ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care checkup, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine checkups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Panicking
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2013, 12:04:39 PM »
Lozenges, you had protected sex even though post-the-fact you're nervous. That maybe because you had anal sex for the first time. As long as you consistently use condoms you will be effectively protected against HIV.

As for any "symptoms," they have nothing to do with HIV. If they persist. discuss them with your doctor. We cannot diagnose anything in this setting. If you are sexually active you need to be aware that other STDs are much easier to acquire, so at least an annual checkup with a full STD panel is a good idea.

This time I don't see any cause for concern about HIV. Let go of the panic.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2013, 05:30:00 PM »
Thanks for both your comments. I think Andy is right about the nerves having something to do with it being the first time! Thanks for confirming that I have a low risk - it is very easy to get carried away with fear and what you read on the Internet!

I plan to get tested in three weeks when I return from my travels and to make this a regular thing.

Thanks again

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« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2013, 05:40:57 PM »
Hi Lozenges , Please keep in mind that you can test 6 weeks past the time of any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . You didn't have a risk but I did want you to know the appropriate window period for HIV testing .



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