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Author Topic: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?  (Read 2097 times)

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Offline RobbyR

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Kinda wondering, I get these friend requests from guys on Facebook, and usually I don't actually know them, although occasionally I do. I try mostly to keep my friends to people I've actually met in person and know on Facebook. Recently a really nice goodlooking guy chatted me up and said he liked all my pictures.

He seemed sweet, and I have been out of the dating scene for awhile, and am totally happy being single, but I do always leave the door open somewhat. This particular guy started saying stuff like he would like to be "that guy" for me, and begged me to text him. I did, and we texted some.

He is a very handsome guy. But ever since that first night or so when he chatted me up, he suddenly won't return any of my texts. So what I'm wondering is why would a guy request to be your friend and say all this stuff about thinking I'm hot and want to take me out on a date, and give me his number (which I didn't ask for), and now won't even return my texts? Is he just a big bullshitter?

I mean, maybe I'm different, but I wouldn't send someone a friend request and say a bunch of flattering things, and say "I want to date you" and stuff, and then suddenly not even respond to the texts. So what gives.

Maybe I just have a very very low tolerance for bullshit lol.
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #1 on: April 25, 2013, 09:01:07 PM »
So what I'm wondering is why would a guy request to be your friend and say all this stuff about thinking I'm hot and want to take me out on a date, and give me his number (which I didn't ask for), and now won't even return my texts? Is he just a big bullshitter?

I mean, maybe I'm different, but I wouldn't send someone a friend request and say a bunch of flattering things, and say "I want to date you" and stuff, and then suddenly not even respond to the texts. So what gives.

Maybe I just have a very very low tolerance for bullshit lol.

People pull such bullshit all the time on cruisy sites so I guess people might do the same via Facebook. I dunno.  You wouldn't be so tacky so try not to let this tacky guy get to you.
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #2 on: April 25, 2013, 10:30:54 PM »
Could be his wife or boyfriend were out of town, so the cat was playing?

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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #3 on: April 25, 2013, 11:04:03 PM »
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #4 on: April 27, 2013, 09:23:49 AM »
Maybe he wants to show off his messages received count.
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2013, 01:29:45 AM »
For the same reason that guys on Poz personals do.  They chat you up and then you never hear from them again. I  sometimes think they are  so hung up on themselves or are looking for some perfect guy who does not exist. It is a crazy world but those of us who are real and sane still out number them.

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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #6 on: April 28, 2013, 01:50:27 AM »
Many are all talk and have no intention on ever meeting.  They probably are using fake pix.  On the other hand, I think many are self-conscious.  They have intentions on meeting for a date, sex, or whatever, but they suddenly feel they don't match up in looks, body fitness, money, cock size, confidence, etc.  They may be very attractive, but see themselves as not.  Or, learn you are a lawyer, for example, when they work retail.  They are so many possibilities.  If he friended you on Facebook, then it wouldn't sound like he was just playing.   

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #7 on: April 28, 2013, 01:54:34 AM »
Maybe the guy is in a monogamous relationship but is bored and gets off on leading single queers on and then suddenly disappearing. Like Ted!
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #8 on: April 28, 2013, 03:18:34 AM »
Maybe the guy is in a monogamous relationship but is bored and gets off on leading single queers on and then suddenly disappearing. Like Ted!

So, you were LouCavernousHo, who is pissed I wasted his time?  I really did intend to meet, but I was self-conscious.  I am not big enough to fill your needs. 

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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #9 on: April 28, 2013, 08:30:33 AM »
Online flirting is a game.  Play it strategically and get what you want and don't get too upset, depressed, or angry about the mind fucks others put into the game.  Though its not easy to avoid the traps sometimes.

Online flirting, cruising etc, has its advantages and disadvantages thats for sure.
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #10 on: April 28, 2013, 11:12:40 AM »
It could have been one of a thousand things that caused him to stop, and it may not have been anything you did. You'll never know.

But this stuck out to me as kinda weird...and say a bunch of flattering things, and say "I want to date you"

Who does that? He's never even met you and wants to date you right out of the box? I've known a few like that over the years and I can tell you you are better off without this guy in my opinion.

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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #11 on: April 28, 2013, 11:17:16 AM »
I refuse to take dating advice from someone that picks up twinks that steal wallets from them.
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #12 on: April 28, 2013, 11:28:48 AM »
I refuse to take dating advice from someone that picks up twinks that steal wallets from them.

I dont know why I keep rebutting this myth everytime you drag it through the Forums but ... We still dont know If it was the twink, and I never lost my wallet, and he picked me up, and the last guy I had sex with was like 40. So how bout you just keep picking up your dates off of dominicans -r-us.com and I'll keep doing it my way ::)

« Last Edit: April 28, 2013, 11:36:59 AM by WillyWump »
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #13 on: April 28, 2013, 11:36:46 AM »

...  the last guy I had sex with was like 40...


Like 40 what? 40 years ago? ;D
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #14 on: April 28, 2013, 11:49:29 AM »
Like 40 what? 40 years ago? ;D

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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #15 on: April 28, 2013, 12:01:25 PM »
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Re: Why Would A Guy Beg You to Text Him, But then Won't Respond At All?
« Reply #16 on: April 28, 2013, 12:09:17 PM »
No one ever lies to me online , as a matter of fact Im wiring money to a very nice South African woman I met online , her name is Miss Paul Smith and she is going to split a huge sum of money with me after I pay the taxes and processing fees that allows us access to the accounts .

My story proves that there are indeed nice people online that you can trust . 


 


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