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Strip Club Incident
« on: March 31, 2013, 07:59:22 AM »
Hi guys, I initially told myself I would not post here because everything I've read should have put my mind at ease but my anxiety has been getting the best of me lately. Writing this post is also helping me a little with this.

I attended a strip club and the following were my activities with a stripper:

1) Deep kissed for at most 15-20 seconds
2) She placed my thumb in her vagina for at most 20 seconds. The problem is that I bite my cuticles all the time and they are really terrible. There was no bleeding but definitely a scab and my cuticle was little sore to the touch
3) Received a blowjob for 4-5 minutes, I am uncircumcised

I was doing ok with the anxiety, no real symptoms, just had a bit of a stiff neck at 4 weeks. What really made me panic was what happened 8 weeks after this event. A vein in my eyelid burst which left me with a black eye. I can not remember any trauma at all to the eye and this has never happened to me before.

Should I be worried?

Thanks in advance to all the moderators.
« Last Edit: March 31, 2013, 08:23:11 AM by pj55 »

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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #1 on: March 31, 2013, 08:35:35 AM »
PJ,

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection by any stretch of the imagination.

1. Kissing is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

2. Fingering is NOT a risk for hiv infection, regardless of small nicks, cuts, or bitten cuticles. Not one person has ever been infected through fingering and you will not be the first.

3. Getting a blowjob is also NOT a risk for hiv infection, for the same reason why kissing is not a risk.

Before you ask the inevitable question about blood in her mouth, unless you are in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before they kiss or blow you, there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause the least bit of concern.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER KISSING, FINGERING OR BLOWJOBS, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #2 on: April 02, 2013, 02:41:29 AM »
Thanks for the reply Ann, it has eased my anxiety a little. It's just that the black eye out of nowhere has just got me totally panicked. Some sites say that this can be a sign of low platelets and hence my anxiety.

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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #3 on: April 02, 2013, 05:12:36 AM »
PJ,

Lots of different things can cause low platelets and unless you've been told by a doctor that you have low platelets, then you're practicing medicine on yourself without a degree or even diagnostic tests.

If so, then knock it off - and go see a real doctor to find out what, if anything, is actually wrong with you.

You did NOT have a risk for hiv with the stripper.

However, if you have ever had unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with anyone (a woman doesn't have to be a stripper or a sex worker to be living with hiv), then you should test.

Provided you test at three months or more past your last incident of unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse - with anyone - a negative result will be conclusive.



The risks for hiv infection are:

Unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse.

Sharing drug injecting equipment.

Mother-to-child during pregnancy, childbirth, or breastfeeding.

Again, you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection with the stripper.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #4 on: April 09, 2013, 06:12:09 AM »
Ann, thanks for your help. Would your advice apply to all HIV subtypes including specifically subtype C?

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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #5 on: April 09, 2013, 06:32:40 AM »
pj,

Yes, my advice covers all types of hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #6 on: April 19, 2013, 07:55:17 AM »
I could not get this incident out of my head so I went for a rapid finger prick test this morning (exactly 90 days after) and it was negative.

Once again, thank you so much for your help Ann.

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Re: Strip Club Incident
« Reply #7 on: April 19, 2013, 10:58:51 AM »
OK, good. So now you have a conclusive negative result and can get on with your life.
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