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« on: March 16, 2013, 01:32:55 PM »
this is my first post so i apologize if this subject is already on here somewhere and for my ignorance.. I received oral sex from a sex worker. I wore a condom but it split and she continued on. I didnt ejaculate but i dont know if there was any blood or cuts / sores in her mouth as it was dark and so i couldnt inspect myself either. Have i exposed myself to hiv?

all the experts ay there is a risk. i respect you guys. please take no offence but could you also ad what qualifies you as an expert in this field. thankyou for your upcomng and hopefully accurate advice, should i get tested?

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« Reply #1 on: March 16, 2013, 01:38:28 PM »
Hi Ezzo . Getting a blowjob isn't a risk for HIV so there isn't a reason to test of this incident .

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

As long as you use condoms for vaginal and anal sex you will avoid exposure to HIV .   

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« Reply #2 on: March 16, 2013, 02:31:54 PM »
oh i see, this is an unexpected answer as i thought i could catch hiv from receiving oral. what if she had blleding gums or something? should i use a cndom to receive oal or is it tottally safe? thankyou

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Re: scared and upset
« Reply #3 on: March 16, 2013, 02:50:53 PM »
Saliva contains over a doesn't different enzymes and proteins that inhibits HIV transmission.

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« Reply #4 on: March 16, 2013, 03:24:50 PM »
oh i see, this is an unexpected answer as i thought i could catch hiv from receiving oral. what if she had blleding gums or something? should i use a cndom to receive oal or is it tottally safe? thankyou

Under no circumstances can you contract HIV from receiving fellatio. Saliva is not at all infectious. Moreover, it contains over a dozen identified elements that render HIV inert. Not a single case of HIV has been traced to receiving fellatio. It is safer sex.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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« Reply #5 on: March 16, 2013, 03:48:44 PM »
just to finish after your great and speedy advice, you say 'under no circumstances' what about if blood was present in sex worker mouth. how high a risk would this have posed to me. Im unaware of any blood as it was dark but she may have cleaned her teeth beforehand. I know i sound paranoid/ repetitive but thats because im ill informed and thats why im on this forum so please be patient with me if i seem over anxious. thank you guys

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« Reply #6 on: March 16, 2013, 04:03:49 PM »
Hi Ezzo , rest assured we have carefully read your questions and there are no caveats to receiving oral sex . It isn't a risk for HIV .  You were not at risk for HIV and her oral health isn't a factor .

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« Reply #7 on: March 17, 2013, 05:04:56 AM »

Stop worrying about blood in her mouth. Unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before they give you a blowjob (or even kiss you) there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause concern.

Getting a blowjob is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not one person has ever been infected this way and you are not going to be the first.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER A BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


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