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I had a coworker like that - all high and mighty and preachy. She railed against anyone who was less than stellar having children.

At age 36 she and her husband finally conceived - they had been trying for a decade.

An amniocentesis revealed the child had a risk for Turner's Syndrome.

She still went through with the pregnancy though she left before the child was born.

Again, a lack of education often guides many people who are not in the situation to pontificate.

I do not think it is selfish for a woman who is poz to want to have a child. Yes you are infected but i still think that women who are poz still deserve to be loved and cherish and eperience the same joy that a neg woman experience. I have come to understand that neg ppl never really try to put themselves in the other shoes and wonder how they would feel, if they were poz and someone behaved like that around them. I urge you to raise your child to be an understanding human being when it comes to these matters because i think it is the proliferation of myths and stigma that make some ppl not come forward for early testing and why some do not go for treatment because they are scared of what others might do or say.This world needs more empathic ppl cause it would be a better place. Live your life make the most of it.


--- Quote from: Lane on March 23, 2013, 08:49:33 AM --- I have come to understand that neg ppl never really try to put themselves in the other shoes
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Really?  Is this an example of proliferating of a myth?  I know many neg folk who totally emphasize with our struggles. 



--- Quote from: TabooPrincess on March 09, 2013, 02:12:51 AM ---So we were talking at work about the recent case with the baby.  One of my colleagues (female) said 'I can't believe any woman would ever have a baby knowing they were hiv positive, it's the most selfish thing I could ever imagine from a woman.'

I went into full on education mode, giving statistics.  Adding that in 18 years our city has never had a positive baby from women getting treatment.

She continued on that if that were her she would remain child-less all her life as she couldn't take that small risk. 

She was horrible about it.

First I wanted to punch her in the face and afterwards came away feeling pretty rubbish about myself.  I know it's just ignorance and people who haven't been there will never understand.

I had my baby in the full knowledge that there was a very tiny, but possible, risk of infection.  So I guess she's right, that is selfish?

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You were not selfish. She is not right.  She's a close-minded limited IQ bigot.  Don't waste your time after the generous 10 or 20 minute education.  If she can't digest facts, she's a lost cause, not worth more time, and not worth worrying over.  The world is filled with such bird brains.  They're particularly annoying when self-righteous, or if they possess any power.

If I can't get through to them, I take a last effort and tell them that I have researched the subject, and that I am positive - straight up.  It usually shuts them up, and generally makes them feel sorry for you; that is usually undeserved phrase/bashing.


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