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Offline Pleasehelp939

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Please Help...Worried to death!
« on: February 19, 2013, 05:07:07 PM »
Okay...where to start,

Several years ago I was exposed to the herpes virus causing outbreaks on my mouth and genital area.  Over time the outbreaks have become less painful and less frequent.

So here is the thing, about 6.5 weeks ago I had PROTECTED sex with an older guy who claimed to be "clean" (I am 19...I was the top and he was the bottom). 4-5mins into penetration he started to bleed on my genital area. There wasn't much blood at all....just a couple drops. I have not had a herpes breakout in awhile but there are scars on my genital from past breakouts. I have read that hiv can be contracted from cracks and breaks in the skin. So my question is, what exactly is a "break" in the skin, and if he were infected, what are the chances his bloody fluids seeped into my bloodstream???

Also, after the incident I immediately ran to the shower and washed my genital with soap and hot water and cleansed it with rubbing alcohol. After that I left...he did not CUM!     

Thinking about this is driving me crazy! A week after the incident I did a Oraquick test and tested negative; however, then I realized the test wouldn't matter anyway because of the length of time.

Since the incident I have had no symptoms of ARS, including: fever, swollen grands, rashes/sores.

Though, my anxiety symptoms are driving me crazy...I have had trouble sleeping, loss of apatite, mild headaches, mild nausea, and mild neck and shoulder tension. These symptoms are not consistent, the come and go as my anxiety levels rise and fall.

PLEASE HELP...this is seriously affecting my life!     

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Re: Please Help...Worried to death!
« Reply #1 on: February 19, 2013, 06:40:25 PM »
Your condom protected your urethra, which is the vulnerable spot on the insertive partner. Your imperfect skin is not a material factor in your protection. Your sex was protected.

Also, I took a shower today. I am clean. I am also HIV positive. Please try not to use that term, as it implies that people with HIV are dirty.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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« Reply #2 on: September 14, 2015, 04:14:35 PM »
Hello, all.

A little over 3 weeks ago I met a random guy of unknown HIV status for sex. Without going into too much detail, we engaged in lots of body contact, mutual masterbation, and mutual oral/rim. There was no anal intercourse whatsoever. In fact, he ejacuted on the bed so I didn't even really come into contact with his cum (but maybe his precum...idk). 4 days after this encounter, I went to the doctor for urethral discomfort and tested positive for Chlamydia. This diagnosis has really begun to worry me because it obviously means at some point I came into contact with his bodily fluids, right? And now I've started to convince myself that in addition to Chlaymidia he may have given me HIV.

Last Wednesday I ordered a HIV RNA test via STD Express, but the results have not come in yet, which further fuels my anexity. As far as are symptoms go, I have not really experienced anything noticeable, but my finger and toenails have begun to change colors, which I have heard is a symptom of HIV?

Someone please help me! I am so paranoid and waiting on test results is driving me

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Re: Please Help...Worried to death!
« Reply #3 on: September 14, 2015, 04:27:54 PM »
I've merged your threads here. It's a rule of the site even when your previous postings go back a ways to still keep them in the same thread. This is where you should always be posting.

Now for your new question...

The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as condoms are always used for those activities you will be well protected.

None of the activities you reported are risks for HIV. However, other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV, so if you are sexually active it's a good idea to regular have a full STD panel done. That means at least annually and every six months if you are very active.

I certainly expect your HIV test result to be negative since there was no HIV risk, your worrying notwithstanding.

You could have been soaked in the other guy's cum and it would not have been a risk.
Andy Velez

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Re: Please Help...Worried to death!
« Reply #4 on: September 14, 2015, 04:30:52 PM »
I agree with Andy and he has given you the real deal. Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Please Help...Worried to death!
« Reply #5 on: September 14, 2015, 04:45:24 PM »
Thanks guys for replying back so soon. One final question: does the changing of my nail color suggest a possible HIV infection, maybe one from another past encounter? It is really freaking me out. Thanks.

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Re: Please Help...Worried to death!
« Reply #6 on: September 14, 2015, 04:52:16 PM »
No, your toenail color does not change a thing and is not specific to HIV. We do not discuss symptoms as they are not specific to HIV but I will comment this once on yours HIV is not discoloring your nails, nor have you had the slightest risk .


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